Is it ever ok to wish someone dead?

[HeartsAndClubs]

Not just renouned criminals, but people who essentially co exist with us.

I think it’s fair to say that when e.g. Peter sutcliff and MAx Clifford etc died many people will have thought “good.”

And when Fred West and Harold Shipman died people would equally have been glad they were dead, but perhaps angry at the fact they took the cowardly way out.

But what about your average person who you just dislike for whatever reason?

My mum was telling me last week that she spoke to a neighbour whose brother used to be married to a family member. However, he and this woman are now estranged but only recently. He has recently been undergoing tests for a serious illness but she (the sister) doesn’t know that. My mum asked casually if she’d heard from him, and her response was “hopefully he’s dead.” and I couldn’t help thinking what an awful thing to say about anyone.

And yet I would probably think it of Peter Sutcliff, so when is it ok? Or isn’t it?

Well, aside from making people feel uncomfortable, it doesn’t really mean anything does it?

@FAQs

N’ah I spent 17 years as a child wishing my mother dead, now she has cancer, oh well.

What a disgusting thing to say.

@FAQs that is so sad. Why would anyone think that about their mum?

When someone is dead they are devoid of any feelings.
I would like my ex to live to be 100 but in agony the entire time.
Both day and night. ;

It's ok to think anything you want. Wishing won't make it happen.
I probably wouldn't share my thoughts though. Silent fantasising about someone going up in a ball of flames hurts noone. 😁

I treated myself to my favourite cake and danced around my kitchen to celebrate, when I heard that my former workplace bully had died! I suspect several other people had similar feelings and thoughts about her but I didn’t discuss it with anyone else. It’s absolutely fine to wish someone dead if they have done terrible things. It wouldn’t be ok to share those thoughts with people who like them

Yes, people are arseholes and it’s ok to fleetingly wish they didn’t exist.

Erm I guess not. There’s this bloke I have always seen around since growing up, I don’t know him personally but know of him, he’s a heroin addict, done plenty of burglaries and god knows what else I don’t know of. A while ago ( pre covid) I was walking down my mums round and he was coming down on his bike, shouting at someone that worked at papa johns, his words were ‘you wait mate I’m gonna come back and slice your f’ing tongue out you f’ing ni**er! - at this point he was right next to me, I looked at him mortified, and he turned to me and said ‘sorry love but it’s f’ing true you watch and it wouldn’t be the first time’ - so obviously this guy has cut someone’s tongue out before! - I see him all the time and whilst he has really nice hair, I would also love to run him over and get rid.

Mums road*

The person who abused my ds talked about how he was feeling suicidal after being found out. I wished he would do it.

As long as you're not taking any steps towards making your wish come true, it's fine.

Some people cause damage and due to the lack of criminal justice for women and children in this country continue to do so do i wish them dead? Maybe I do do i think my thoughts will "harm them in some way" no because karma does not exist bad things happen to good people every day and good things happen to bad people every day

It's fine by me.

I think it's okay. People will have many different reasons for wishing someone dead.

@CuthbertDibbleandGrubb

Not mourning a dead person is very different from wishing them dead. I think wishing death upon anyone is awful.

This. Exactly my thoughts.

It's absolutely fine because wishing someone dead doesn't actually kill them. I was so happy when my MIL died - people don't wish others dead for no reason.

@Mrgrinch no, not really, my ‘mum’ beat, burnt me, boiled my hands, made me stand naked for hours at a time and enslaved me to do everything for her from cleaning, cooking to brushing her hair, and if I didn’t get it right the first applied, she is a pretty disgusting human, my experience my thoughts so yours are irrelevant.

Completely fine. It's ultimately just words or thoughts which have no effect.

There are several people that I actively wish would die (preferably in agony and alone).

@FAQs

Jesus Christ 🥺 that’s hideous. You poor thing

Do I wish death upon my mums second husband, who hit me, stuck his tongue in my mouth and screamed at me? Yep.

Do I wish death upon my ex, who put his hand on my throat, hit me, attempted to rape me and raped someone else? Can't say I wouldn't be delighted if he caught Covid tbh.

I unfortunately know someone who was arrested and imprisoned for child sexual abuse. I hope he dies the most painful, lingering death possible and I will never feel guilty for thinking that.

I think there's a running theme that men (and some women) are beating, raping and abusing women and girls. And those women shouldn't have FEELINGS that mirror the actual BEHAVIOUR of these people.

Nope.

@vampirethriller

I wish the man who sold me for sex to thousands of men dead. I wish him a very lonely and painful death. Never going to see him again but I still wish him a horrible death.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that

I unfortunately know someone who was arrested and imprisoned for child sexual abuse. I hope he dies the most painful, lingering death possible and I will never feel guilty for thinking that.

Nor should you. I would feel exactly the same.

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Jesus Christ 🥺 that’s hideous. You poor thing[/quote]
I’m ok, took me another 15 years to recover but I am fine now, she took many years from me but not my whole life.