What age did you have you babies?

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My mil has said that because I'm 30 this year we'd better get a move on and have babies soon because otherwise I'll be too old..

I'm having yet another miscarriage so this feels a bit of a slap in the face tbh. I know that the risk increases with age but I'm 30 not 50!

Aibu to tell her to go away and I'll have a baby when I've lost weight and if that's a year or so who gives a shit

33 and 35. One miscarriage at 32 but no trouble getting pregnant.

4 by 28? What kind of life is that lol. I think having kids 30+ means you've lived your young life and can bring kids in the world. smile

I had three , the first two when I was working overseas but we had a nanny and cleaner. The same when we got back to the UK. I’ve achieved pretty much what I hoped for in my medical career, grade 8 Matron. I lived in Provence until I was 14 and then on my grandparents Dorset Farm until university where I did a fair bit of living including a same sex relationship altho I’d never been attracted to another woman before or since , so I don’t think live missed out on anything. There are some advantages to having kids in your twenties and having them reasonably close together. We had the financial resource and that made a big difference. I didn’t plan it that way but I’ve got three lovely kids a nice house and a man who puts up with me so I’ve no regrets.

25, 30, 31 & 36. Didn't particularly choose to have children in my thirties, it just happened that way. Sometimes I wish I'd had them closer instead of ranging over 11 years but 🤷🏻‍♀️

24, 25, 28, 31 and 32. Also 2 miscarriages aged 23 and 29.

So sorry about your miscarriages.

Met my husband at 27
Married at 29
Children 32 and 34 both fertility treatment babies (pcos)

30, 32 and I’ll be nearly 40 when #3 arrives later this year.
I’m not concerned about my age, and I had no trouble conceiving #3, I am just a little sad about the age gap between my kids.

After 14 years of trying and fertility problems I had my boys at 36 and 38.

37 & 39

29, but everything was very straightforward for us.
So sorry for your loss. People can be very invasive around matters of reproduction. Totally inappropriate.

Im nearly 23 was with my ex 5 years one m/c one still birth I don't hope to become a mum now til I'm at least 28 so I hope it's not too old

29, 30 and 34(currently expecting baby no.3). I have told dh that a 4th is not happening.

30 isn't old in nowadays terms to have a baby but fertility does decrease after 35 and just because some posters are able to naturally conceive at 42 doesn't mean we all will. Do whatever is best for you. Sometimes life circumstances mean people end up having babies later than they would have expected to.

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31 and 33 - it's none of your MIL's business!

Not unreasonable to tell her to back off at all! We conceived DD when I was 27, gave birth age 28.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had a couple too and a time of trying so I was an older mum (3 days before 37, and 39)

Married at 34.

42 now and pg with 1st. Lots of infertility and IVF treatment.

You have plenty of time and sorry for your miscarriage. MIL needs to keep her beak out!!

36 & 39. My only 'regret' (it's not regret but can't think of a better word) is that I'm unlikely to see my grandchildren if my kids don't have their own kids (if they do) till later in their lives. Plus I love my children more than anything and would prefer to have more time with them. I'll be 56 when dd is 20 but still. I find myself telling mine to not wait too long once they are settled with a partner. But until I had a child I had no idea how in love I would be with them. You can't know.

No way is 30 too old I had my first at 34 and just had my second in July,I was 37,I was never ready before hadn't met the right person but then met my partner and we got pregnant quite quickly due to contraception failure but it all worked out now 5 years on,2 little boys and happy

27, 28 & 29

27,29,33 and 40

30, 32, 33, 35 with a couple of mc’s in between

32 and 41! I'm actually less tired this time around, I think as my DD (second baby) feeds a lot less and is more routine than my older DS and I have a more supportive DP.

Sorry for your loss .

4 by 28? What kind of life is that lol. I think having kids 30+ means you've lived your young life and can bring kids in the world.

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This is so rude, adding a doesn't negate that. Let's hear your ages so we can make comments to you.

@rainbowdaz

4 by 28? What kind of life is that lol. I think having kids 30+ means you've lived your young life and can bring kids in the world.

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This is so rude, adding a doesn't negate that. Let's hear your ages so we can make comments to you.

I understand that but she did say 30 is too old to be having kids so I just replied because some people on here are 30

@Amri997

I’m turning 27 in less than two weeks. My family especially my mom are telling me everyday that fertility is ticking. Years are going so fast that I’ll be 30 in no time. No partner, no baby. And I hate it when my family compare me to other women saying that they have kids when I don’t. It makes me feel so low and upset. I’ve dated a few guys and have made amazing memories over the years. If I had a baby I wouldn’t have been able to do that. The sad thing is that my relationships haven’t gone anywhere. Fertility is ticking but I do feel you should try to have a kid by 35 at least.

So, your family judges you for not having kids and you ‘hate it’ yet you are quite willing to openly judge others in a similar way for their different choices? Strange.