Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

Better than nookie. Dh's term of choice.

I like rutting or making the beast with two backs!

Shagging is my preferred vernacular!

It makes me cringe, I really dislike it.

Many years ago, a French man was chatting me up in a pub. I wasn’t interested but he wasn’t getting the message. He was trying to get me to agree to bring him home and he started off saying “I want to fuck you”. When that didn’t secure an invitation for him he tried “I’d really like to have sex with you” and when that didn’t work he went for “I want to make love to you”, with a deep stare. Criiiinge.

It’s embarrassing to me for some reason. Having sex sounds too clinical! I’ve yet to find an acceptable phrase I like.

Sex, shag, fuck it's all the same. Deep and meaningful or deep and hard it's all the same thing in the end.

I remember a friend of my dh around the age of 20 described coming out of the pub and seeing their friend making love to a girl he'd just met against the wall.. Not how I would describe it!!

Clarence Carter has the Word on this...
I loved this song as a youngster!

‘Making love’ is fine.

Used to be known as bonking when I was a teen.

Me and Mr Sage 46 refer to it as 'Marital Unpleasantness'.

Nah.

I dumped an otherwise lovely guy for his use of this word.

I hate crude terms for sex - at least making love is honest and nice.

Makes me think of Swiss Tony on The Fast Show.

@RootyT00t

Nah.

I dumped an otherwise lovely guy for his use of this word.

Blimey and I thought I was picky!

It harks back to the days when it was done by two people in love.
Nowadays any random person in the vicinity can be used.
I f they’re fairly clean and not too revolting looking.

I agree with those who have said there is fucking AND making love. Space for both in life but they are different. I dont know how else I would describe that intense emotional connection.

“Making love” sounds so weedy, serious and worthy, like you’re doing something very virtuous and important.

DH and I are more of the “Fancy a shag?” persuasion.

Ugh, it makes me cringe. So self important and twee.

Having sex or fucking in this house. If I did need to describe the emotional slow type of thing to someone (who, after the fact? If it was immediately after with DH I could just be like "That was ...X" instead of "The way we just made love was X") I'd just say it was intense, passionate sex.

If we're being silly (which we often are) and talking about sex generally or someone else, it's banging or shagging too - i.e. "Which of the Tory politicians would you bang if you HAD to, by order of the queen?", "I found out today Colleague is shagging Other Colleague, that's a bit outrageous isn't it".

@sage46 thank you I think this is how we'll refer to the act going forwards 😂

@Sunshinesky1981

I once dated a man that said this, should have known it was a non starter. A few weeks later I found myself in bed, being 'made love too ' , music on in the background when he suddenly starts staring straight at me and singing along with the love song. Was the most embarrassing, awkward moment of my life and my vagina was at that point trying to escape past my kidneys while he was still inside of me. Then he cried after he came as it was so over poweringly emotional.

I would have been less uncomfortable at that point if he tried to stick a fire extinguisher up my bum

Oh my goodness 🤣 I've loved reading all the replies, but this and the Norwegian serial killer made me properly laugh out loud.

@Benjispruce2

Makes me think of Swiss Tony on The Fast Show.

Lol. 😂. I love Swiss Tony

@Riapia

It harks back to the days when it was done by two people in love. Nowadays any random person in the vicinity can be used. I f they’re fairly clean and not too revolting looking.

Speak for yourself!

It's nippy nippy and I'll hear nothing stating otherwise

In all seriousness, It's sex or fucking. Even slow intimate sex is still sex - it doesn't need another name.

@whateverhappenstomorrow

I almost threw up when a man I had recently started dating stared at me intensely (we were at his and chatting and drinking) and said, ' 'Would it frighten you if I told you I wanted to make love to you?'

That one sentence turned me from not being sure about him to being totally sure that I was binning him.

Having said that, I agree with PP, I used to find 'making love' a cringey phrase till I met a guy who really did have sex in a making love way and it was great. And that made me think - ok - it can be like this! Cool!

I think there are a dearth of good names for sex. My favourite one is from some part of Africa. They say 'laughing in the bushes' which is brilliant as it sounds so happy and joyful! Doesnt' translate so well over hear I guess. 'Laughing in the deserted multi-story car park' doesn't have quite such a ring to it.

My ex husband used to insist it be called ‘making love’. If I called it sex, I was in trouble. 🙄