Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

I agree OP. Makes me feel a bit sick.

If someone suggested to me that we "go upstairs and make love" there's a serious danger of vomit

Love this thread it has made me just messaged DH at work if he would like to make love later 😂 can't wait for his reply.

I also find it disturbing that by their preferred choice of language so many women seem to be placing themselves in the role of passive recipients of something pretty brutal

I assure you, there’s nothing passive about how i fuck. And neither is it ‘pretty brutal’. It can be lustful, loving, primal, tender, some of the aforementioned, all of the aforementioned and much more besides but it’s not ‘pretty brutal’

Do the ones who prefer to say fuck, or have sex, think there is no fundamental difference between what they do with their partner and what porn actors do?

😂😂😂 That's hilarious!

Fo the record, I am very easily able to distinguish between what I do with my loyal and loving husband of 15 years and what actors do in pornos. But thanks for checking in on my welfare. 😉

What @sammylady37 said, with bells on.

@Iploughthefieldsandscatter

In the words of Alan Partridge ‘Classic intercourse’.

Another Partridge quote was 'Let battle commence'

@TheDogsMother that's awesome!

(No yelling 'aha!' in a Partridge-esque manner at the point of climax though!)

@jerometheturnipking

I hate it too. If DH suggested we "make love" it would guarantee the shagging does not happen, possibly for quite some time. I can't imagine being attracted to a man who used that phrase, or, indeed, friends with a women who called it that.

We normally go with either: shenanigans (as in "fancy some shenanigans later?"), shag, "the sex" or "yer hole".

I'm no fan of making love, but I couldn't be attracted to someone who said 'yer hole'

Or porking, or grown up cuddles, or a lot of the terms used here.

I call it sex. Occasionally refer to it as fucking.

Absolutely how I feel. Sometimes it's dirty fucking, sometimes it's a bit inbetween. A lot of the time, though, it does feel lovely and connected. And when I'm really loving him and things between us feel great, yes, I feel like my body's his, his is mine and we're in a place together where life fits, we're gentle, kind, loving together. And that's how 'love' is meant to feel.

Sorry- had tried to quote another post many ones uptrend

Upthread.

Fuck's sake.

This is the last you will hear of me, I promise

Making love ffs. Icky.
Shag...hmm not too bad.
Fuck...yeah.

Anything else...no.

I agree. I hate the phrase ‘making love’, it’s awful. I once heard a bit of dialogue many years ago now but it was funny, so I remembered it. It was in Coronation Street and one of Mike Baldwin’s factory gossip girls said “those two are taking their socks off together”.

'Making love' changes sex from 'something and nothing' to 'something important'. But hey, what do I know?

I rather like that someone else uses the phrase business time that's made DP and I seem just a little bit less odd. Its been known to be regularly sung after overtures are made.

We don't massively refer to it we just do it, generally we can tell by each others movements and behaviour if they want sex.

I suppose it is sex if we ever discuss it. If DP who is a rather stereotypical Welsh man ever referred to it as making love I'd probably ask if he had hit his head.

@Pieceofpurplesky do we have the same ex
My oh sometimes says to me " shall we make love " it's cringe making .
My go to is " do you fancy it " or " let's go to bed " with a grin on my face

I don't think there is one single word to describe the range of activities.
A rough encounter on the stairs after a drunken chase around the house is so different to a slow gentle session in bed on a Sunday morning.

If words are required I might call one a fuck and the other making love, but not outside our own relationship.

A ‘Happy hellooo there’ used to slip under the radar of small ears, but meaning known especially if accompanied by a raise of the brows on the ooo’s of hello.