Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

God, I'd hate to "make love". I'd rather have a good hard fuck.

@Wishingwell75 ha!
I had to re-read it about 5 times to let it sink it what I was actually reading 😂😂
Made my day tho so thanks for that 😂

*CounsellorTroi

Do the ones who prefer to say fuck, or have sex, think there is no fundamental difference between what they do with their partner and what porn actors do?

Huh? Porn actors have sex because they are paid to be watched. I have sex because I enjoy it. It's the same physical act for different reasons, surely?*

That's sort of my point. There is no emotional connection between porn actors. You can have sex with anyone. You can only make love with someone you, well, love.

Do the ones who prefer to say fuck, or have sex, think there is no fundamental difference between what they do with their partner and what porn actors do?

Well fundamentally, it's still some variation on genital-mashing/bodily fluid exchange isn't it.

Maybe we could call what they do "Making porn" if it helps you feel more virtuous in your riding.

It's almost as bad as the expression 'kissing and caressing'.

You can only make love with someone you, well, love

I'd rather not, if it's all the same to you. I love my husband, but cringe myself inside out at the thought of 'making love' to him. A good old shag though? Yes please.
And really, even when you do love someone, you're often wondering what to make for dinner/if you fed the dog/when that Amazon package will arrive etc. while you're at it rather than luxuriating in your deep emotional connection.

@CounsellorTroi

Do the ones who prefer to say fuck, or have sex, think there is no fundamental difference between what they do with their partner and what porn actors do?

Wut? My husband never pays me after a fuck, maybe I should draw up a price list.

Do the ones who prefer to say fuck, or have sex, think there is no fundamental difference between what they do with their partner and what porn actors do?

Well, dp doesn't make a habit of ejaculating on my tits or face, for starters.

I suppose "making love" makes me think of awkwardly hesitant tenderness, rather than my preferred style of a vigorous seeing to.

Having a bit, a bloody good rogering, slipping a length - all phrases we have used jokingly. Making lurrrrve only ever said with a suggestive eyebrow waggle and daft face. But usually just sex or nooky.

A jolly good seeing to

@CounsellorTroi

*CounsellorTroi

Do the ones who prefer to say fuck, or have sex, think there is no fundamental difference between what they do with their partner and what porn actors do?

Huh? Porn actors have sex because they are paid to be watched. I have sex because I enjoy it. It's the same physical act for different reasons, surely?*

That's sort of my point. There is no emotional connection between porn actors. You can have sex with anyone. You can only make love with someone you, well, love.

You can have sex with anyone?

Speak for yourself.

Over on the conception boards it's called "the baby dance" 🤢

I could swear everyone my age used to call it ‘sexy time’ - we don’t really tend to call it anything.

Making love is an awful term that makes me want to rip out my own heart and stamp on it.

I suppose we have ‘nice sex’ - sex that is usually careful and half arsed when we’re both too tired to whip out the moves 😂

@CounsellorTroi

I’m sure pornhub have a making love category.

Are they.. in love?

I like the term 'making love.' This thread makes me a bit sad.... Makes it sound like just a basic need, disconnected from anything emotional, rather than a lovely part of a relationship.

I used to be offered “a damn good rogering” or a “jolly good seeing to”.
Sadly he failed to deliver and is now an ex.

@Chocaholic9

I like the term 'making love.' This thread makes me a bit sad.... Makes it sound like just a basic need, disconnected from anything emotional, rather than a lovely part of a relationship.

I’m with you here. I also find it disturbing that by their preferred choice of language so many women seem to be placing themselves in the role of passive recipients of something pretty brutal.

How about 'make fuck with you' ! Shirley Valentine classic.

My oldest friend's first language wasn't English, and he used to come out with some clangers. Mostly they just tickled me.

On asking for BJs: "All I did was invite her to tuck in. She didn't like it."

On lazy sex: "I said "Go on then, hop on" and she said I wasn't a motorbike."

On a recent shag: "It was really quite superb sex. Most tranquil."

On his wife waiting for him in bed: "Better go, the tuck shop's open."

All I did was invite her to tuck in. She didn't like it.

😂😂😂😂😂

I think making love describes it well, where sex is carried out in a monogamous long term relationship. It is more than a physical act.

I’m not sure people actually say it very often though.

I’m with you here. I also find it disturbing that by their preferred choice of language so many women seem to be placing themselves in the role of passive recipients of something pretty brutal

I'd see it differently. I think it is a really positive think that women are recognising their right to sex as they enjoy it, not just as they are meant to have it.

I would say the idea that all women want a session of gentle love making rather than any other style of sexual activity is a rather sexist one. Sex is there to be enjoyed, women do enjoy it, and there's nothing wrong with asking for sex the way you like it.

@Chocaholic9

I like the term 'making love.' This thread makes me a bit sad.... Makes it sound like just a basic need, disconnected from anything emotional, rather than a lovely part of a relationship.

Believe me, a good seeing to, a jolly good rogering, a common or garden fuck and a basic shag are, or can be, a lovely part of a relationship.

I think it's sad that some feel the need to judge others' sexual preferences.

What @Stompythedinosaur said, x100

I'm with you @WoolieLiberal