Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

I hated the term “making love”/“made love” etc growing up. It was so cringey. It’s what my Mum always uses to describe sex. So as a teenager it was “oh dear, Jack and Rose are making love”, “oh no, I hope Sarah Lou’s mum doesn’t realise she’s made love to a boy, how awful!”, “Kat Slater was caught making love to another boy”...or worse “when your father and I, you know...were...umm...young and...ummm...making love”.

Made me want to dry heave. She’d protest, “well what would you rather I called it?!” And I’d mutter “I dunno. NOTHING. Or if you HAVE to...like...doing it or something” and I’d skulk off.

However.

YADNBU!!! Somewhere around 30 I realised that sometimes that feels like the only way to describe it. There’s shagging or fucking or banging or routine sex which all mean something different for me but...yeah sometimes the romantic, slower, sweet kind of sex is “making love”. I feel like it’s just a way of describing a certain type of sex.
So ummm yeah when did I turn into my mother?

I mean YADBU. Not YADNBU.

DP says it when he's messing about. It's a bit grim.
I usually ask him if he fancies a bunk up

Has been called "Morning glory" and "Afternoon delight" if able to get a weekday together when kids in school.

Maybe it's because English is not my first language, but I don't care either way. I would care if the guy's idea of "making love" would involve something degrading like name calling or slapping or shocking. Because that would make it a lie, but otherwise I don't care what people call it.

Sexy time? 🤮

Nope, Swiss Tony has ruined the phrase forever! (not envy)

How about porking the devil's pie hole?

Just made it up.

We say “making za love” in an exaggerated French accent.

I don't know if anyone else has said it, but if not then I will.

It sounds like the sort of thing Richard Madeley would say

@Sunshinesky1981

I once dated a man that said this, should have known it was a non starter. A few weeks later I found myself in bed, being 'made love too ' , music on in the background when he suddenly starts staring straight at me and singing along with the love song. Was the most embarrassing, awkward moment of my life and my vagina was at that point trying to escape past my kidneys while he was still inside of me. Then he cried after he came as it was so over poweringly emotional.

I would have been less uncomfortable at that point if he tried to stick a fire extinguisher up my bum

OMG - you win. The crying.

“ Yo, Pep, I don't think they're gonna play this on the radio
And why not? Everybody havin' sex
I mean, everybody should be makin' love
Come on, how many guys you know make love?”

Let’s talk about sex, baby!

I think of it as a polite term, definitely sex in a romantic relationship. I've no problem with it and would probably use it in certain contexts- but I've never said it in a relationship!

I had an ex who used to say 'thank you for letting me make love to you'.

Happiness those lyrics immediately came to my mind when I saw the thread title

Ooh PieceofPurpleSky I’m glad he’s an ex!

It just makes me think of “[unrelated activity] is a little like making love to a beautiful woman...”

Just realised in 11 yrs of me and him being together we have never actually called it anything! Ours doesnt have a name or point of reference.We just go to bed or whatever sofa thing yknow and just well get on with it!!! How odd..

"(Better than my grandmother who only says ‘committing the act of fornication’ for unmarried and ‘copulating’ for married)."

My grandmother (actually, plural) would never have talked of such things! You have a modern grandmother!

My ex used to call it 'unga bunga' and do a weird caveman pose...

My parents used to have a discussion about 'nookie' in the car which I knew meant something rude.

I like 'shag' myself. Fuck or have sex is also ok with me. Although as a single woman, after over a year of lockdown I'd settle for a bloody roll in some hay with someone naked!

I knew someone and his gf who used to call it making soup. Horrible mental image.
Yanbu op. Making love is really naff.

I had an ex who used to say 'thank you for letting me make love to you'

You poor thing

It makes me cringe. Ugh.

@TheMoth

It was used in the old days to mean something like showing love or making advances of love.

Always fun when that comes up in a poem.

Basically just chatting someone up in Jane Austen.

Physical union (joke), I saw that on an old Woman's Old problem page once. The excitement (Angela's Ashes). I've always thought the term making love is quite romantic, but agree that it describes a certain type of sex. Know it sounds cringe though. I remember an old lady I knew when I was little (she was kind of like a Grandma figure and very strait laced), telling me about a girl and boy she had seen on our local field, and she told me that they made love in the grass and that the girl couldn't have been a day older than 14 and deserved a smacked bottom.

My ex used to call it 'unga bunga' and do a weird caveman

This is hilarious!

Has anyone mentioned 'congress' yet?

How about a good boffing?

Thrunging?