Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

Oh god I hate it too! Makes me shudder.

Yeah making love makes me shudder. The term lol

I used to have an ex who called it 'rumpy.'

That's only half of the phrase, isn't it? Mind, 'rumpy pumpy' does rather suggest an, erm, alternative way to the traditional one....

A woman I used to work with years ago called it 'having a bit of rude'. She lived in the next road to where we worked and would inform us all that in her lunch hour she would be 'going home for a bit of rude'. Which was nice.

I think there's a difference between making love (positive emotional involvement with the other person)and sex, or sh*gging or whatever (mere biological imperative).

I would say "making love" - certainly with regard to DH.

I am so glad you have posted this, i thought it is was just me that was a freak, that this phrase turns me off and makes my toes curl.

I’ve found my people😂 I hate the term.

When my kids were pre school and my MIL was staying she would say in the middle of the day, “why don’t you go upstairs for a special cuddle while I look after them”.......... my flesh crawls just thinking of that scenario😳Obviously I always declined and went and cleaned the toilets or some other grotty job to let her know just how awful an offer it was🤢🤢🤢

We just call it a quickie...

That makes me cringe. The worst I've heard is 'pumpy de rumpy' on Miranda.

@crumbsinthejam

We just call it a quickie...

Even if it's longer than a quickie?

Yes, when I'm moist from heavy petting we make love!

It's gross.

Surely it's a horizontal cha cha if one wants to be decorous?

@EssentialHummus

I’m indifferent to it as a phrase. DH however ironically-but-not refers to my clitoris as a lotus flower so I’ll just share that with the group.

LTB!

My friend's DH (who is, it has to be said, a bit stilted emotionally) calls it "making whooppee"

Making love sounds positively clinical by comparison.

@Sparklingbrook
That's a point. Might amend the sex vocab to 'middlie' or, if I'm lucky, 'marathonie'

In all honesty though, 'making love' makes me cringe.

@TheLost

I like a shag or a fuck, love making makes me feel a bit sick. It reminds me of a boyfriend I had in my early twenties, he introduced me at a party once as “this is my lover, TheLost”. He was Norwegian and it made him sound like a serial killer.

😂😂

My ex used to say 'have a rattle' I fucking hated it, made me feel like an object

YANBU - it's so cringe.

Me and DH had this very conversation last week, he said something about making love, I told him it was cringy just say sex!

Lol at the idea that those of us who don't "make love" don't have positive emotional connections with our partners.

How about "draining the dragon"?

I once dated a man that said this, should have known it was a non starter.
A few weeks later I found myself in bed, being 'made love too ' , music on in the background when he suddenly starts staring straight at me and singing along with the love song. Was the most embarrassing, awkward moment of my life and my vagina was at that point trying to escape past my kidneys while he was still inside of me. Then he cried after he came as it was so over poweringly emotional.

I would have been less uncomfortable at that point if he tried to stick a fire extinguisher up my bum

My mum picked a book up for my dd about where babies come from and it was referred to as a "special cuddle".
I like to use "sex".