Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

@WoolieLiberal

I think this might be a marmite thread.

I love the term “making love” or “love making”.

The terms “shag” and “f*” are the ones that make me cringe.

Each to their own I suppose...

Indeed.... it's like marmite

FWB makes me shudder - yuck - and DTD is worse since it sounds like shit sex since it is a 'deed' that has to be done but not wanted... Shagging

I don't use 'making love' though I use sex.

Whatever happened to ‘bonk’? Nobody bonks anymore.

Those who hate it

If Marilyn Monroe sang the original song to you, wouldn't you...um...want to give her one? 😂

I do appreciate she's probably the only person in the world who could get that reaction! I'm not even a lesbian.

Does no one play hide the sausage or make the beast with two backs?

I find it repulsive! The only man in the world who could just about get away with saying it is Barry White!

I cannot BEAR it. At all. Ugh. It makes me shudder and laugh at the same time.

I think it stems back from hearing a school friend (we were about 11) describe what her hamsters were doing as ‘making love’. They were going at it.

I find it weirdly intense, and twee and horribly earnest and if a boyfriend had ever said it to me at a key moment I’d have just burst clean into flames.

"Making Love" makes me barf, and reminds me of Barry White lapsing into a talky bit in one of his songs. Stop it now Barry.

It’s beyond grim and for some reason makes me feel patronised as a woman. Don’t know why.
Mind you I’ve not had sex for several years entirely of my own choice so unlikely to ever be bothered directly by it

There is definitely a difference between sex and making love.
One is common the other is rare (in my opinion anyway :)
Describing either (before the event) makes me cringe.
It's only after you know how to refer to it (even if only inside your head)

I think it depends on context...in abstract a bit cringe...used in the right context by the right man at the right time it could definitely work, I think.

@LunaHeather

Those who hate it

If Marilyn Monroe sang the original song to you, wouldn't you...um...want to give her one? 😂

I do appreciate she's probably the only person in the world who could get that reaction! I'm not even a lesbian.

God no, I find her singing massively unsexy, she sounds like she's trying to sound like a little girl! She was a gorgeous and very sexy woman but not when she sang!

I hate it. Makes me shudder. I can't say the words out loud. We're quite jokey. Fancy a shag/fancy a muffing/bj? etc. Or sex, if it's being talked about.

Each to their own. "Making love" indicates a very special, tender, intimate type of sex for my husband and I. Since I'm a millennial it's not that I'm a fuddy duddy because I like it.

'Machen das liebe' with an eyebrow wiggle is the DH's favourite. He isn't German. For some reason it makes me laugh

Major Swiss Tony vibes

It's something my mum would say 🤢

It's a truly hideous, cheesy expression. I hate it!

Fucking all the way for me

YADNBU!

Re-fucking-volting. He'd need heavy machinery to prise my vag open again after that.

Making love is what Theophilus P Wildebeest does.

We have sex, shag, be having some Business Time (yay Conchords), fuck, fancy a ravishing, etc.

It's rudies here!! 😂 😂 😂 Don't think my husband would be getting any if he referred to it as making love, or at least I wouldn't be able to take him seriously!! 🤣🤣🤣

@RelaisBlu

It always makes me think of Hamlet:

"Nay but to live
In the rank sweat of an enseamed bed
Stewed in corruption, honeying and making love
Over the nasty sty"

(He's obsessing about his mother's sex life, so definitely shudder, not romantic)

Makes me think of Dallas, Dynasty and fecking Knots Landing! I'm clearly not very cultured

It was used in the old days to mean something like showing love or making advances of love.

Always fun when that comes up in a poem.

I hate it too. If DH suggested we "make love" it would guarantee the shagging does not happen, possibly for quite some time. I can't imagine being attracted to a man who used that phrase, or, indeed, friends with a women who called it that.

We normally go with either: shenanigans (as in "fancy some shenanigans later?"), shag, "the sex" or "yer hole".

Ugh, it's so twee and self-satisfied and deeply unsexy.

Great connective sex is great connective sex. Using the phrase "making love" makes me recoil.

Podging.

It’s a bit Alan Partridge.

Men in slip-on shoes ask to make love to you just before they neck a viagra