To find this fucking laughable and want to comment?

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My ex has made a statement on social media that is being shared about the current goings on surrounding the Sarah Everard case and basically calling out male violence toward women and talking about how men have the responsibility to educate other men etc etc...

Great you may think?

Except no. This fucking hypocrite abused me for years. Emotionally and physically. He is the most violent and aggressive 'man' I've ever been with and made me fear for my safety on many occasions. I have been irreparably scarred by this person.

I am so angry at the sheer hypocrisy of it and to see people commenting and sharing and fucking thanking him for being a 'good guy'.

I want to comment. I probably won't but my God I want to.

Were the police involved? Could a friend say something?

He is a parasite he is feeding off this ignore him I know it burns but ignore it

I’d be tempted too Op
And would also have the rage on reading it
I’d write down what you want to post and look again in the morning with ‘fresh eyes’ and see if you still want to say it
There could be backlash from it and it might not be worth it in the long run? Depending on how things ended of course

Sorry to hear that you went through all that

OP, he’s a shit.

Please stop seeing his posts on social media. It’s going to drive you up the wall.

I keep reading messages like your ex’s. I don’t really trust them. They’re making it all about them.

My dh is a good man, he shows that in his actions, in his support of me and our children. He doesn’t pay lip service on social media. I’m vary wary of the men that do.

I would want to say something too op, and I think you should, but in reality I know I would just silently seeth as I don't have the confidence to pull someone up on something like that.

I'm sorry you went through such a thing

Don't say anything. Obviously it would be fabulously satisfying, but then you would probably wish you hadn't. His friends etc will probably rally behind him and you'll end up feeling worse. Block/unfriend. Know that you are better. The horrible bastard.

I'd have to post... You Fucking Hypocrite. Why should he get away with it?

I don't have him on SM and haven't for a long long time, a mutual friend from moons ago shared it on their page so it popped up on my home feed.

I probably will ignore it. I am married now to a lovely man, with DC and very happy. But I always carry around what he did to me in some ways. It fundamentally changed me as a person. I still have nightmares about him some nights.

And to see that. To see him pretending to be a fucking advocate for women. HIM. I just think how fucking dare you!

I've never said fuck (ing) so much in my life!

Just leave it

I feel your outrage unfortunately arsebook is full of hypocritical f@ckwits posting stuff that they themselves are guilty of. Can’t get over the sheer brass neck

Many people are the epitome of feminist in the tweets, misogynist in the sheets at the moment, it's so depressing isn't it. An ex of mine is similar and also quite well known so it's especially galling to see people fawning over him for the stuff he's saying even though he absolutely doesn't respect women. My anger has turned to sadness today and I hate that. But it really is upsetting. It's the equivalent of the black squares for BLM that didn't involve any attempt to listen, learn or change.

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Were the police involved? Could a friend say something?

Yes but not much. Neighbours told me after he left that they thought he'd end up killing me one day.

I wouldn't want to ask friends to. I don't want any of them to have to be involved with him. He'd definitely try to send messages to them etc...

Post your own message on SM. Something like saying “decent men show it by their actions and the way they treat women and children, and certainly don’t need to post about it”. Kind of like “get your own house in order”, and for your ex to see.

I would be raging, but that’s all I seem to do these days. I’m glad this person is your ex, well done you.

Fuck him OP. He’s a waster!

So pleased you got away from him. I’m glad you’re safe.

Your outrage is TOTALLY understandable OP. I’m sorry you went through what you did. I have to say that I think the healthiest thing you can do now is just ignore the comment/hide it if you need to. He’s a twat, they convince people they’re great by doing things like this, there’s tens, probably hundreds of thousands of them out there. Don’t get hung up on what this one is doing (although it’s understandable it affects you). Ignore, ignore, ignore.

I know you're right. I need to ignore it.

Just to see other women thanking this man for standing up for them. Thanking him, of all people. They have no idea. It's almost devastating to read if that makes sense? This man who very nearly broke me is being thanked for being a good guy. I just want to scream it from the rooftops!!

I won't, I'll get on with my life and thank God daily that I'm not with him any more but it's properly given me the rage.

Oh I'm sure he's 'sincere'.

Many abusers see male-perpetrated violence such as rape, murder etc as terrible and decry it from the rooftops. But they don't 'class' physical or emotional abuse (especially their own) as violence at all. It isn't really abuse, you see, it's simply necessary to keep 'their' women in their place or 'her fault' for saying or doing the 'wrong thing'.

These are the same men who say loudly "If any man ever lays hands on my daughter I'll kill him" but beat or emotionally abuse that daughter's mother.

Do whatever makes you feel better OP. I would probably comment something short and without detail, such as ‘you were abusive’ because I know I’d dwell on it if I didn’t. But if it makes you feel better to block and move on, do that. You don’t need to consider him or anyone else, do what’s best for you.

Don't give him the time of day. You're free and safe and happy. He won't be the only man thats doing this. Infuriating as it is, just move on and above it.

I think I'd be tempted to comment along the lines that actions speak louder than words, but honestly, I think it's probably better for you if you ignore it. It's absolutely shit that he's getting lauded for being such a good guy, but it is not your responsibility to set people straight unless you think it will help you to do so.

Ugh the worst type of man. “Feminist” in the tweets, abuser on the streets.

I totally understand your urge and I would probably wade in and do it myself and subsequently regret it.

If you feel desperately tempted, hand write it on a piece of paper and see how you feel in the morning.

I’m sorry you have to see this bullshit and that you had to go through his abuse.

There are a couple of stories like this doing the rounds on Twitter and the female ex partners are getting a lot of support for calling out the abusive exes who are now virtue signalling their support for women on social media.

Not saying you should do it but it can be done well.

If he doesn't know where you live and cant hurt you now I'd be tempted to comment.
But I'm not saying you should OP.
I'm glad you got away and have a happier life now.
Are you aware of EMDR therapy which can be hugely helpful for trauma?