To find this fucking laughable and want to comment?

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My ex has made a statement on social media that is being shared about the current goings on surrounding the Sarah Everard case and basically calling out male violence toward women and talking about how men have the responsibility to educate other men etc etc...

Great you may think?

Except no. This fucking hypocrite abused me for years. Emotionally and physically. He is the most violent and aggressive 'man' I've ever been with and made me fear for my safety on many occasions. I have been irreparably scarred by this person.

I am so angry at the sheer hypocrisy of it and to see people commenting and sharing and fucking thanking him for being a 'good guy'.

I want to comment. I probably won't but my God I want to.

I'd have to write on it something like:

Oh, the irony

Classic narcissistic behaviour!

Just write “are you taking the piss?”

This is so common that it's at the point where if I see a man going on like that, I take it as a huge red flag. I know there are probably innocent men who have spoken out on these issues, but I've seen it so many times now that I'm extremely suspicious when I see any man pontificating loudly on social media.

OP, if it were me I wouldn't say anything because I think it'll be more trouble than it's worth, but you wouldn't be unreasonable to call him out.

I'm really struggling just now. This whole thing has brought so much to the front of my mind. I'm tempted to unblock my ex to see if he's spouting the same shite but I know it won't do me any good to find out.

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Ask your friends to never repeat anything on social media or anything about him... It must surely be unhelpful and a trigger for you.

I think sometimes people do things like this as a way of being in denial and trying to compensate or distract themselves and others from their past and I guess bury their shame or the dark cloud that follows their character. On some level he must feel deep shame for how he has acted. People are complex and weird and you can't ever try to understand this. ESPECIALLY people with dark issues.

In some ways, I wonder if this makes you feel indirectly gas lighted. These awful things happened but his public posting is almost like a denial of it and diminishes what you went through.

You lived it, you know it and you're fellow women believe you though.

If he wants to wave his penis around on social media and play hero then let him.

If you were to comment it would just make him part of your reality again. It'd impact you in ways you can't imagine and ways that wouldn't be obvious at first. You don't want to go back there.

Don't expend your energy. Life is short, think of time as money, more precious than that - you wouldn't give him $1000 so why give him your time. You will never educate this man and its not your job to protect the world from him - an impossible task. Put your time where it matters - into you. Keep your dignity and be someone that would never go back to that, even just to comment.

Ha! I've just seen my friend's utter dick of a husband pontificating on social media how he can't believe the victim blaming and sexism at the moment.

Elsewhere on SM he has no problems with calling women karens and picking fights with /mainsplaining to, of course, only ever women. Never men. I also suspect he treats my friend badly behind closed doors, although she's never said anything.

Men like this are so arrogant and narcissistic that they can't see their own hypocrisy. I'd love to launch into them but they'd never learn, they're too stupid and lacking self-awareness. Or the inclination to listen to a woman.

Make that comment. He’ll delete it pretty quick, but why not.

Unless by antagonising him with a comment you’re putting yourself in danger of course.

My DV ex compiled an elaborate Facebook hate campaign against me suggesting I punched myself in the back of the head, kicked my own pregnant stomach, strangled myself, etc and although I couldn’t comment because of his settings, some of my family have witnessed his DV against me, so I’m confident he wasn’t fooling anyone. And if he was, those people don’t know me well enough to know what happened to me, so they don’t matter.

If I posted anything it would probably just be:

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Laughing emoji

I might be tempted to write an open letter & post on your own socials regarding an anonymous ex you've seen virtue signalling about this issue, and how it's in complete contrast to your own experience while in a relationship with him. These guys need to be called out on this behaviour, it's classic abuser behaviour (look like a good guy in public, do whatever you want behind closed doors) and women will thank you for sharing. (Do include the comment about how your neighbours thought he'd end up killing you.)

I would be so tempted to reply "CHINNY RECKON" with accompanying emoji.

Or simply ""Street angel ..." and let everyone seeing your post fill in the two blanks themselves.