is this an appropriate reaction?

[sophiet882]

15yr old dd has been meeting her bf the past few days, socially distanced, both have had negative tests, and with masks etc. i have been totally fine with this.
tonight, i called her to ask when she was planning on coming home, and it sounded very quiet, so i asked if she was at his house. she immediately denied it and said that she was just in a sheltered place, still outside. after some probing she admitted she went to his house for 5 minutes while bf checked on his brother because his parents had been out all day. apparently, she stayed downstairs with her mask on.
i was furious that she lied to me, and that she broke covid rules, and told her she was grounded, and to come home immediately.
her argument is that it was only 5 minutes with minimal risks, and that she's going back to school next week anyway, so this is no risk, but i am so angry that she would break the rules.
i'm not sure if this is an reasonable reaction or if my anger is clouding my view.

She sounds like a normal, melodramatic, teenage girl. Of course she's not responsible she's 15.

If you keep pushing back and reacting like this it will get a lot worse.

@2021isalsorubbish

Erm two 15 year olds with parents gone all day and a free house ...

Exxxxxaaaacccttlllyyyy

@sophiet882

a few weeks ago, she had a meltdown when i told her she wasn't allowed to go out to meet him, because she was being rude to me. she mentioned that she has been stuck inside for a year, lots of pity party behaviour, tbh i didn't deal with it the best way, i told her everyone else has dealt with the same thing, she can't just take it out on me etc. i did apologise after but i am starting to wonder if she's responsible enough.

Pity party behaviour? You sound pleasant and sympathetic . Teens have had a shit time of it. They deserve a bit of pity.

@SquirtleSquad

Is the pandemic going to magically disappear when they're snogging behind the bike shed at break time at school on Monday?

Anyway, you asked if it was an appropriate reaction and you've got your answer. I'm sure DD will accept your apology, as you say she's very responsible.

This

And you really think two 15 year olds will be going on socially distanced dates

I know 25 year olds who haven't done that

Oh god Op I do see where you are coming from and understand you where worried. Hope she is home safe now.
I did exactly the same as you tonight and my dd is 17 she is at her bf house but they have went out twice today for takeaway which means they have a risk of catching covid19 and spreading to their families so I told her she needs to isolate for 48 hours
TV removed from bedroom and no more seeing bf to back at school so now reading the comments you got I realise I have totally overreacted too but will U admit that to her.
She also said she would ring me around 7.30 now 10pm and no phone call so she has winded me up further

if you had heard it, you would agree!

Don’t punish her, I would just let them get on with it tbh. This reaction is way ott.

@Andi2020 What was the point of your 48 hour isolation?

Have people actually lost their minds?

Think about how you are treating your teenagers, for gods sake.

A 48 hour isolation is completely pointless as the average incubation period is 5 days.

@Andi2020

What research did you use to come up with a 48 hour isolation rule? Because 48 hours is the rule for how long you need to stay off school if you've been sick; its not the rule for covid and is totally pointless.

We also have a 15 year old boy. If that had been him I would talk to him about my personal fears and make sure he understood why I would be upset.
I wouldn't make it bigger. Just say to her how much a fine would affect your family. Also you prefer the truth because you need to trust her.

@Thehop

YABVU cut her some slack

Agree

Oh get a grip lol

Huge over reaction.

Grounding her is just going to teach her to hide things better in future, so as to avoid harsh punishments.

Wow calm down, poor kid. Do you want her to be able to confide in you in the future? If so change your approach.

I agree with then other posters. I cannot imagine that they have been socially distancing!

They were totally shagging. You do know that, don't you? Cos you sound a bit...naive.

@sophiet882
Your reaction is rather OTT, I’m on my 3rd teenage DD and believe me you’re lucky if you think this is severe enough to merit punishment!!
A year on and you’re paranoid about covid fines?? There’s a reason stories of fines make the papers; hardly anyone gets one!
Under 16s can mix, you know like in school.
Don’t be the demented strict mum, cos we know how that ends 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Andi2020
You sound as loopy as OP!
removing tv and isolation?? for a 17 year old?
Get a grip!!

@Andi2020 to confirm you took the tv out of your 17 year olds daughters room during the isolation period you’ve implemented? I know who’ll be rushing to move out at 18 and won’t be coming to her Mam for help.

chill.
and two 15 year olds - what squirtle said.
also school in a few days.

we have decided on using find my friends so i can ensure she's not at his house. had a bit of a strop but overall she's fine with it. thanks everyone.

How long do you intend to do that for?

No Covid risk would have stopped me snogging my boyfriend at every available opportunity when I was 15.

Don't worry, you won't get fined.

until the rules allow her into his house again.