...to think dyed grey hair looks shit?

[FourBagsOfMiniEggs]

I’m so fed up. I’m 30 and have been going grey since about 22. I’ve got frizzy, wiry greys sprouting out all over my head and I just feel so sad about it. I scrape it up in a bun or use a headband a lot of the time, but I hate all of these wispy greys. I feel like I look so scruffy. If I had straight glossy hair it might be different but I’ve always had very frizzy hair.

Anyway, I’ve been thinking about dying it and then I realised...dyed grey hair always seems to look shit! You can always, always see the grey regrowth shining through and the colour looks unnatural. I also think maybe it’s more ageing to dye it, particularly for me aged 30?

Has anyone managed to dye their grey hair successfully and NOT have it look shit? Anyone else gone grey early? Any tips on embracing it? I hate this frizzy streaky grey in-between. I feel like it’s too early to just give up on my hair but I just feel so low. It’s no fun going grey early 😣

I do mine at home and it’s fine. I’ve been doing it years. In 43 and have been significantly greying since my late 20s

I now use a semi permanent which fades gradually and naturally. I have black hair naturally so grey is obvious when regrowing but that magic touch spray helps in between.

I also use head bands, etc to style on a crap day.

I have naturally curly/frizzy hair - Wella Fusion intensive mask is great. But not cheap.

Fuck the patriarchy and grow it out. We are programmed to think grey hair makes us look old. I'm nearly two years into growing mine out and can't wait to get the ends cut off. Look at grombre on Facebook - some beautiful women on there with grey hair.

Phyto Hair color is a great, gentle and natural looking permanent home hair colour. You can buy it online.

I naturally have mid/dark brown hair and I started going grey at 24, but it wasn’t bad enough to dye until I was maybe about 28. It was a huge ballache, in the end I was having to dye it every two weeks (by the time I was mid/late thirties).

A couple of years ago I came across this photo and it was a game changer for me! This lady went grey in her thirties and decided to embrace it. I actually got in touch with her on insta to ask her what she’d done to get her hair like that, and the first step was to get it white blonde. So slowly but surely I have got to that point with highlights, toner and purple shampoo. Unfortunately, having been previously convinced my entire head of hair had gone grey, it turns out at the back it’s still pretty dark. So I am now getting just a few highlights put through the back of my hair to even things up, but the front I’m letting grow out and it blends really well. 6 months on from my last hairdresser visit because of lockdown, and it looks fine still, I could never leave it that long when I was dying it dark! I’m going to keep the ends bleached like in the photo when it gets to the point of growing out that much, just because I like the look of it. I’m 40 now btw, and I am lucky to have very few wrinkles and I look quite young still, and I’m sure embracing the grey (with the help of highlights) is less ageing than when I was dying it dark.

I'm 29 and have grey hairs streaked throughout my hair. My natural hair is medium to dark brown so the grey is more noticeable against them than if I were a blonde.

I plan to fully grow out the grey because I think it looks good. I know a lot of people in their 20s who have grey hair

The latest trend is to go natural and for some it works.

Please note I'm no hairdresser but have only done my research on you tube and bought good quality majored dyes from amazon.

I must be about 30% white now but my base colour is v dark brown, nearly black. Looks awful with white streaks. I used to dye it dark but a year or so back decided to lighten it little by little so the regrowth was less obvious.

Initially I used a v strong developer with a light ash brown hair base -it went orange till i toned it.

After a few months of doing the same to my roots I eased back into a low vol developer and a lighter hair base (8a!). While it doesn't make my hair blonde obviously, it makes the whites more like highlights and only gently lifts my brown hairs.

I tend to use a toning conditioner every fortnight and do the roots every month. It worked for me..

I think grey hair looks terrible. I previously paid £££ for salon highlights. Since lockdown, I have paid £6 for box dye from Superdrug and I think it looks just as good, if not better

The Brazilian blow dry is different to a keratin straightening treatment. Essentially the Brazilian blow out is a relaxer so will take curly hair to pin straight, but is damaging in the process

Whereas a keratin smoothing treatment is a baby step, it doesn’t straighten your hair texture out and isn’t damaging. It doesn’t burn your scalp (they just apply a serum to your hair and straighten over it) and it doesn’t damage the follicle. It only lasts a few months as the keratin serum naturally washes out - I have notice no lasting damage to the condition of my hair when it washes out.

I love my greying hair (more silver really). It’s much thicker and shinier than my wishy washy blonde ever was. No intention of dying it.

A good friend though has hers professionally high/low lighted. Pays quite a lot at a London salon but it looks fantastic and very natural.

I think perhaps block dying at home is maybe the mistake lots of people make. Natural hair isn’t one colour.

Same problem here hun. I have been postponing, and postponing, and postponing....touching up here and there at home, but never a full hair-do. I am torn between cost & time that it takes to keep dyed hair up to Kate Middleton standard, and the fact that I do not really like the greys I have (I do not look like Jane Fonda with grey hair, more like an old guinea pig). In doubt - try! And if you do not like it, just chop it off and let it go grey :)

I come from a long line of premature grey haired people. I have no actual pigment in my white hairs. Colouring it is a complete waste of time, it washes straight out.

I was predominantly grey before I was 30. My DS was salt and pepper by 16.

It is what it is, I have waist length silver hair. I concentrate on the condition.

Yy to curly girl but with a lot fewer products than you sometimes see recommended - all that dollop of this scrunch of that etc just makes mine look weighed down and greasy. I use AsIAm co-wash and Boots essentials curl creme, which works well with the thinner finer hair I have compared to pre-kids.
The henna very slightly relaxes the curl too, which you might find either good or bad.

I've got many grey patches but I'm not ready to embrace it yet! I use a semi permanent box dye on mine, mainly doing the roots. I think that the advantage of a semi permanent is that the colours tends to fade out and not block grow out so not so obvious.

I LOVE my grey hair!! So happy I embraced it. Zero upkeep too!

If you have dark hair op and want to stay your natural colour I have heard excellent things about the use of henna (seriously) to cover greys and have it in lovely condition

I do this. My hair is in great condition and it looks like subtle highlights. Might not work so great for blondes but on my dark hair it's the perfect solution. Also doesn't fade like dyes do.

Honestly? I think grey hair generally looks worse. Ditto frizzy. But it’s all a matter of personal taste, isn’t it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I always liked garnier nutrisse for at home dye. Left my hair feeling lovely and great grey coverage

@Alternista

Honestly? I think grey hair generally looks worse. Ditto frizzy. But it’s all a matter of personal taste, isn’t it 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s a matter of hair as well. Grey looks absolutely stunning on some women, pretty crap on others

Embrace the frizz with the curly girl type method, I’m 2 and a bit weeks in and loving my curly hair whereas I thought it was just frizzy before! Have stopped colouring my hair about 3 or 4 years ago, I like them but I’m totally going pink once I’m completely grey - super dark brown previously so pink was never an option without a fuck ton of bleach!

It’s a matter of hair as well. Grey looks absolutely stunning on some women, pretty crap on others

Also personal choice .
I have seen some women look amazing with grey hair.
My greyness is in patchess, more at one side than another, with a huge dark centre patch.
I dont have facial beauty to carry it off.
I can keep my hair glossy and dark with dye, and I enjoy it as an attractive feature.

I've been fully Grey since my 30s, now 45. I always dyed it but found the second you get a millimeter of root growth it looks so obvious and I couldn't afford to dye it at a salon every couple of weeks, which is what I would have needed. Home box dyes didn't cover it well enough either once it was all Grey.
So a couple of years ago I went blonde. It's so much better. The blonde dye at home covers regrowth well enough and the roots don't look bad at all against blonde do I can go much longer between dyeing.
In the future I'll transition from blonde to the silvery Grey underneath hopefully, but not for a long time.

I started going grey really young. I go to the hairdressers every 6 weeks and get the re-growth done. Seems to keep it at bay.

@Leah2005

Fuck the patriarchy and grow it out. We are programmed to think grey hair makes us look old. I'm nearly two years into growing mine out and can't wait to get the ends cut off. Look at grombre on Facebook - some beautiful women on there with grey hair.

Well of course there are. Only the peoole who look good grey, are going to put themselves on that Facebook site.

I have no problem with grey hair and I'm the lowest maintenance woman you'll find. No chance, no make up no anything beauty related. I never had any intention of colouring my hair.
But when I went grey, combined with my natural skin tone, I looked ill. I got fed up of people asking if I was okay.. But I could see why they did. I didn't see an older person in my mirror, I saw an ill person. I looked drawn and my skin looked as grey as my hair.

When I finally bit the bullet and got my hair coloured with highlights, my whole face changed. My skin tone was lifted, and instead of asking if I was okay, people started greeting me with "you're looking so well!"

So no, women who go grey don't all look great. Some of us don't..our skin really doesn't suit it.

Chance= creams. Thanks autocorrect

I had natural dark brown hair. I always have it pretty short. I grow out every couple of years. Last time in lockdown at 52.still concluded that it looks better dyed.
However, use semi permanent so it fades. Do it religiously every 3 weeks.
Wear a hat in the sun. I think the fact that it turns fucking orange in the sun is aging!