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Reasons my DH may end up under the patio...

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PringleMcDingle · 02/03/2021 22:21

My top three...

  1. He brushes his teeth with so much toothpaste that it ends up frothing and foaming everywhere. To wipe away this completely ridiculous amount of excess paste he always wipes his mouth on FRESH BLOODY TOWELS.

Every towel in our bathroom is covered in toothpaste. I swear on the odd occasion I've left something like pyjama bottoms on the radiator in there, he's pasted those too.

  1. Instead of putting tea bags in the bin (which is right next to the kettle), he'll just leave them on the side or in something like a pan that's waiting to be washed by the sink. Why? Can someone, anyone, explain that to me?
  1. Always asks me where certain items of clothing are without looking in his wardrobe. Or even worse, will ask me if he has any socks/underwear... Before just going to the sock/underwear drawer. I don't keep an inventory of sock availability... CHECK THE DRAWER.

So there, if you see me on the 9 o'clock news, you'll know that it was justified.

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skwish · 04/03/2021 17:22

@DareIask are you also married to my dh?!

Mrssheppard18 · 04/03/2021 17:27

Are we married to the same man??

hamptonmummy · 04/03/2021 17:31

My husband uses too much toothpaste and let's it drip all down his hand and toothbrush then just gives the head the briefest of rinses and puts it back in the toothbrush holder the bottom of the toothbrush holder is rank and smells like bum holes he won't do it differently so I refuse to keep my "clean" toothbrush anywhere near his and I don't wash his pot out either, when he moans it stinks he knows he's the only one to blame.

He also uses my razor to shave his pubes, apparently its UNHYGENIC to use his face razor down there!

Scottsy100 · 04/03/2021 17:31

Moans about our son leaving dishes for me to
Clear up but leaves the saucepan to “soak” and I end up washing it up in the morning 😡

hamptonmummy · 04/03/2021 17:33

And when he flosses his teeth he likes to flick it all onto the mirror and leave it there!

keeptheaspidistra · 04/03/2021 17:34
  1. Will leave the room where I'm situated to go to the furthest part of the house to summon me through to come to him to tell me some irrelevant piece of information he couldn't possibly have told me when we were both in the same room just 45 seconds previously.
  1. In the pre WFH days would ring me to let me know he's just leaving work and ask what's for tea. Which was (an overly optimistic) code for "you have 60 minutes to make my tea"
  1. Cannot be trusted to make an unsupervised food shop without treating it like supermarket sweep or nip for a loaf of bread without spending £40
supersop60 · 04/03/2021 17:41

This thread makes me want to cry. My DP does so many of these things, and more, and I am dreading retirement and old age with him. 21 years together. It's about time we had a new patio.

MummyMummy01 · 04/03/2021 17:43

Tells me I'm a hoarder. Medicine cupboard full of chemist bags with his prescriptions. Under stairs the home of the vacuum has his gym and work bags. Coat stand fill of work clothes as he does not want in his wardrobe.... Which is x2 the size of mine. Find a space hell fill it

Harleyband · 04/03/2021 17:47

@PringleMcDingle

He's tired. All the time

Let me guess, no one is ever as tired as he is either?!

THIS

Enough to drive me insane. I'm routinely up for hours in the middle of the night (thanks menopause) but he considers that he's had a really bad night if he wakes up at 4:30 am and goes immediately back to sleep. Wanders around all day moaning about his fatigue. I just get on with it.

dizzydizzydizzy · 04/03/2021 17:48

Tells me he is run down. Endlessly. Well derrrrr..... not exactly surprising if he doesn't eat the right things.

And never ever so much as mentions my chronic illness and certainly does not ask how I am feeling.

iwannafurloughmydp · 04/03/2021 17:48

I went further.
They can’t say that I haven’t tried if it happens here 🤣🤣🤣
I know. Is absurd having to write it down.
But after that only using his tooth brush to clean his mess if he doesn’t comply !! (As my sister says)
It has been working a little bit ...

Reasons my DH may end up under the patio...
Reasons my DH may end up under the patio...
Notusuallydown · 04/03/2021 17:51

I totally agree about gross tea bags, I even provided a special bowl... still soggy disgusting teabags on worktop.

And cleaning the basin after shaving, (if only). We have beautiful glass bowls in our bathroom. When we bought the house it was a plus, but every time you wash your hands it leaves splash marks, and as for shaving... Warning glass bathroom bowls fir bathroom sinks are a nightmare.

And he will leave discarded razor blades sitting on the shelf beside it. The bin is under the sink, why can't he just put it in?

I have considered divorce.

I

DareIask · 04/03/2021 17:51

@keeptheaspidistra yes!! We've saved a small fortune because 'nipping to the shop' has been almost non existent in lockdown and he can't buy a £40 load of bread.

DareIask · 04/03/2021 17:52

Loaf. Or maybe loads of bread was nearer!

Foramen · 04/03/2021 17:52

Dismayed there are so many male slobs around. Sounds like they suffered from indulgent (i.e. poor) parenting. In terms of training me to be civilized., a clip round the ear often worked!

Arrowheart · 04/03/2021 17:52

Reasons why mine would go under the patio:

When using the tap in the kitchen, sprays water all over the work surface rather than just keeps it in the sink so water gets everywhere. It always looks like he has just put a spoon under the tap and let the water spray everywhere.

He never wipes up the kitchen water on the work tops and prefers to leaves puddles of water for me to wipe up.

He never closes kitchen cupboard doors. Leaves them open as he must think my hobby is closing them.

He sleeps facing me and snores in my ears and when I politely ask him to turn over he tells me he wasn't asleep.

Leaves the toilet seat up.

Can't find a new toilet roll.

Leaves clothes on the floor next to his wardrobe.

Asks me where stuff is before he has looked for it.

When doing a simple job, uses every single implement or tool in the house and then leaves every single implement or tool in the house for me to put away.

Tells me the skirting boards need a clean.

Gets out the bath and takes all the bath water with him and puts it on the floor (well, that is how it looks and feels). There is a bath mat but he doesn't use it.

Asks for a cup of fancy lemon tea with lemons and mint and stuff in it then doesn't drink it.

I'm ordering patio slabs now.

supersop60 · 04/03/2021 17:53

@Karmakarmachameleon

Change this to reasons my wife may end up under the patio. Aye, not so funny now is it. 🙄

No, it’s not funny, but it’s also not the same because men do kill their female partners with terrifying frequency.

I've just looked up the figures from ONS. In 2018 33% of female murder victims were killed by a partner. !% of male victims were murdered by their partner.

Judging by this thread, that number might change...

Buggersticks · 04/03/2021 17:56

Excellent thread, loving reading about all the annoyances 😂 My DH would be: leaving dirty undies at the side or on top of washing basket rather than just lifting the sodding lid and putting them in. Also tea bags in pots awaiting washing. Not spraying airfreshner or opening window after a particularly bad visit to the loo. And not putting anything back on the fridge, cupboards or anywhere else. Why take out ketchup and just leave it with lid up in the side...Drives me nuts.

DartmoorDoughnut · 04/03/2021 17:56

He never ever comes up to bed and then complains about sleeping on the sofa Angry

MrsBadcrumble123 · 04/03/2021 17:57

Dirty washing next to hamper
A solo sock (his!) dropped on stairs would be left there for weeks as apparently they are invisible to male vision
How big is the patio?

iwannafurloughmydp · 04/03/2021 18:00

@wishes1111

Uses the hand towel in the bathroom AND the bath mat. The hand towel ends up wet and then smells of damp because he doesn't put it on the radiator 🙄 I still have no real reason why he used a towel on top of a fluffy absorbent bath mat.

Waking me up earlier than I need to be woken by asking me where his work jumper is. Erm if it's not in your drawer it is in the wash bin waiting to be washed. If you would like it washed sooner, you are welcome to use OUR washing machine.

Leaving the glass he's been drinking out of on the coffee table and goes to bed without putting it in the sink/dish washer/quickly washing it.

Talked VERY loudly on the phone, to the point where I actually tell him to go outside because it annoys me to high heaven 😂

Hoards letters in the kitchen shoved down the side of the bread bin when we have folders labelled for car, utilities, pet insurance and vet docs etc etc.

I am glad to hear that I am not the only one to suffer in silence. Mie also does it all but I'm not so nice, so I tend to go with the flow...if he can't find his jumper that is right under his nose, neighter can I..I say "I don't know" haha even if I can see it from far. If he leaves his cup or empty beer cans everywhere in the house, I just move it to his side table by the sofa...until he puts it in the bin.

I have the heavy breathing sooo much that most of the time I have to move to another part of the house so that I don't get stressed :( depends on my patience really.

The bath mat soaked makes me want to cry :( The only way I found to feel less stressed with that is sometimes taking it off the bathroom to wash...but not much more than that.

The kitchen left upside down makes me leave it for him to clean during the weekend. Exactly....if he doesn't cooperate to leave the place tidy and hygienic during the week I start leaving everything the way he leaves and coming saturday he has to start cleaning up...plus I don't cook when the kitchen is messy and disgusting, so , his choice really..
I think I will go to hell
Grin
hahaha

BlokeTarget · 04/03/2021 18:01

My DW:

Refuses to put dirty pots/plates/
Cutlery in dishwasher. Instead places then in the bowl of sink- RIGHT NEXT TO DISHWASHER. enraging.

Creates deferral trips hazards with work bags and items when arriving home from work and refuses to use the custom. Built double coat / bag cupboard in the very same hallway.

Uses dental floss in the bathroom mirror so close to it , all the plaque and food splatters all over the mirror. Walks away, doesn’t wipe off, leaves for me to clean.

Drinks and eats off of several plates and cups throughout the evening. Leaves all on the table by sofa. Goes to bed. As the week progresses the like gets larger and larger until I cave in and actually put them in the dishwasher for her.

Opens mail and letters. Reads. Leaves on kitchen works surface for months. Then panics when she can’t find certain documents and things like vehicle V5’s. They’ve been in the same pile of mail you’ve left in the kitchen for 6 months... try there?

Unloads work bag and lunchbox. Leaves any plastic containers full of fruit peels/ soup/ salad dressings inside containers and leaves on top of dishwasher for me to sift through. Makes me yak.

I feel sick just writing most of these to be honest. Shall I LTB?

SomethingWitchy · 04/03/2021 18:02
  1. Handing me rubbish, or whatever item he's holding instead of putting it in the bin/on the nearest available surface. Why?
  1. Being almost entirely incapable of getting on with a chore by himself without asking for 'help'. He does not need my help. He wants my company, and presumably for me to never complete a single independent task of my own.
  1. "Where are my..."? Spoiler: they are either right where you left them, or they have been put away in the place you know full well they are supposed to live. This is called "tidying", not "hiding", and you are WELCOME!

I love him dearly, but no jury would convict Grin

Singlenotsingle · 04/03/2021 18:02

Leave a box of tissues in the bathroom and tell him to use those to wipe his mouth.

CharlieBear20 · 04/03/2021 18:06

The complete lack of romance and affection. I love flowers, I don't expect them every month but once a year on valentines would be appreciated.