Opting out of Mothers' Day emails

[Newtonn]

Checking my emails (which are full of random places I've ordered online from), I've noticed many companies asking if I want to opt out of receiving emails advertising mothers' day.

I thought it was a weird coincidence to read a few with the same subject line and content and upon googling, I've found out this is now common, but it's bypassed me for a couple of years.

I understand it's not a happy time for everyone, and not everyone will celebrate, but I'm a bit bemused by the idea that it's really upsetting for an email from Asda that features an offer currently available on a bunch a flowers / bottle of Baileys to land in someone's email inbox.

Lots of people struggle with all sorts every day. Christmas is harder for some people. Valentine's day. And the associated tat is all over the real world (and social media), so aibu to think this is unlikely to really help anyone?

@LeopardFever

Snowflakery.

I think that’s a bit unfair. If you read the thread there are stories of people who choose to opt out because they’ve lost their mothers and find it difficult, and some have lost children too. Are they all pathetic snowflakes then?

@LeopardFever

Snowflakery.

No actually you’re just demonstrating arseholery.

I agree with you OP - I have had dozens of these emails this year, many from companies I don't even think I have subscribed to so just speculative marketing on their behalf. I find it distasteful - no doubt any action taken is added to their database of information on us...

And it is so patronising - I miss my daughter every day and then my relationship with my toxic mother takes up so much headspace too.

I absolutely don't need an invite to a manufactured pity party as well!!

I find it distasteful - no doubt any action taken is added to their database of information on us...

You find it distasteful to give the option to stop receiving emails that might be painful to some people? Wow.

Of course any opt out is added to their database. It wouldn't work otherwise 🙄

@SoupDragon yes, I do. Why should someone try and profit from my grief? What's your stake in this?

[quote notsorighteousthesedays]@SoupDragon yes, I do. Why should someone try and profit from my grief? What's your stake in this?[/quote]
What's my stake in this? What are you on about?

They aren't profiting from anyone's grief.

Because I wasn't rude to you Soup Dragon but nevertheless you were rude to me - that's why I asked. Otherwise what has it got to do with you?

@notsorighteousthesedays

Because I wasn't rude to you Soup Dragon but nevertheless you were rude to me - that's why I asked. Otherwise what has it got to do with you?

I wasn't rude to you. I expressed my opinion on your comment about an opt out being "distasteful".

What had it got to do with me?? This is a public forum.

Of course SoupDragon - sarcasm and eyerolling is never rude!! I must be overreacting.... 😱

Even the Clangers are ashamed of you.

WTF are you on about?

You were rude to every single person who said these emails were welcome and that they have helped them considerably with their grief.

Anyway, I'm out. I'll leave the thread to you.

Ok SoupDragon, I gave my opinion as part of the 'target audience' for these emails. I didn't criticise anyone for theirs.
You are obviously so special you can't even lower yourself to common courtesy! Crack on! :)

My mum died nearly 5 years ago of cancer so knew it would be her last mother's day I literally cried in Clinton's looking at the mothers day cards. My Grandma was still alive until last year so is the first year without her. I know some of my friends struggling with infertility find it difficult too as it reminds them they aren't a mother and desperately want to be.
I think it is good to be able to opt out if you find it difficult I also have a daughter so do get a card and present from her but my own mum isn't here anymore.

It doesn't make sense to you, and you're bemused by the idea that it's upsetting?

Just ignore it then. Why does it have to make sense to you if it isn't something that affects you anyway?

@Newtonn

Checking my emails (which are full of random places I've ordered online from), I've noticed many companies asking if I want to opt out of receiving emails advertising mothers' day.

I thought it was a weird coincidence to read a few with the same subject line and content and upon googling, I've found out this is now common, but it's bypassed me for a couple of years.

I understand it's not a happy time for everyone, and not everyone will celebrate, but I'm a bit bemused by the idea that it's really upsetting for an email from Asda that features an offer currently available on a bunch a flowers / bottle of Baileys to land in someone's email inbox.

Lots of people struggle with all sorts every day. Christmas is harder for some people. Valentine's day. And the associated tat is all over the real world (and social media), so aibu to think this is unlikely to really help anyone?

From someone whose ten day old first baby died last month (after two miscarriages) I would have loved the option to not receive emails.

The smallest of things can trigger emotion and upset.

Be kind x

After having miscarriage after miscarriage, no living children and woman who raised me isn't here either, I opt out. Shame some of you have no empathy .