to ask if you ever wonder about certain posters/threads?

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i’ve used MN for years, and i often think about particular threads or posters that stuck out to me or i interacted with ages ago that i haven’t been able to find (or just seemed to stop posting without a trace) since then.

anyone else get strangely nostalgic/curious thinking back to threads/posters and wonder what became of them?

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Not sure if it was me but to the poster who mentioned that one who found out she was pregnant late on last year if it was the end of the year then it was me and I didn’t stop posting but I did name change because I was troll hunted and called a bad mother to my elder DS over something I couldn’t control with middle DD.
If it was my thread baby is doing super super well and has slotted in like she has always been here
If it wasn’t my thread then I hope the other lady got over the shock haha !

@cattypussclaw

I'd like to know if Twittlebee ever got her wood back!

I often think of Twittlebee. I think she stopped posting because she lost her baby. So sad, and she seemed so nice.

I also often think of the lady who left her alcoholic husband who, iirc, got banned from driving (I may have conflated two threads here, apologies if I got that wrong). She had great support from her boss, found somewhere for her and the children and was almost ready to move everything, but I never saw the outcome.

There are some posters I'm sure I'd really like in RL. And there are some lovely people on the bereavement thread, who were very supportive when my DP died last year.

The poster whose medic DH was addicted to prescription drugs, making her and DC’s life a misery. She kept posting asking for help in utter desperation but would absolutely not consider leaving or reporting him. Really hope she and the children are okay now.

@ InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud you might want to consider reporting @cassiaLime post as it’s blatant troll hunting.

The queen bee thread about her thinking a poster was after her husband sounds really like a book I just read called the Secretary by Zoe Lea.
Lemon drizzle is one of my favourite ever threads

@AlternativePerspective

@ InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud you might want to consider reporting *@cassiaLime* post as it’s blatant troll hunting.

It can stay... I hope folk realise that not all trolls are actually trolls.

EatShitDerek is one of my FB friends as she lives very close to me. She and her two lovely DC are doing really well. I will message her to let her know that kind people are asking after her
That is good news.
I hadn’t heard of ESD until I saw Jo Brand live 2 What happened? I heard she was outted.

Not exactly what you’re asking for but there was a thread a few weeks ago about a woman who wanted to go back to work full time at the end of her maternity leave, partly because she liked her job and partly because she was pregnant with her second and would be going off on mat leave within about three months of returning to work (so didn’t want to drop her salary). The abuse she got on the thread was genuinely shocking - so many posters asking ‘why she bothered having children’ (without even understanding her situation). Some of the comments shocked me so much that they’ve really stayed with me, I learnt a lot about how society views mothers even in 2021.

@pucelleauxblanchesmains

Not RTFT but there was a very young woman who posted about (I think) her waters breaking at about 28 weeks, she posted with the name she planned to give the child (a boy) etc. After quite a while the thread got taken down as MNHQ thought she wasn't what she seemed and everyone on the thread left excoriating comments about how betrayed they felt. A few months later someone was watching One Born Every Minute and a woman was featured whose story matched up to the poster's exactly; location, exact medical problems, baby's name, due date. Sadly the baby died. It later turned out that MNHQ had wrongly banned the user and essentially left her to go and whistle during one of the worst times of her life.

Someone always references this on the 'MNHQ are too heavy handed with deletions' threads. One example (possibly) but outweighed by the times they got it right.

@Chocolateandamaretto

Not a long thread but there is/was a woman who has posted a few times about how her daughter was murdered by her (the daughter’s) partner. That sticks in my mind.

Parkheadparadise I think she's called. Very sad indeed.

I also wonder what happened to BertrandRussell. She had a name change fail at one point and it turned out she had been posting with both names on the same threads. That made her look a bit foolish. However, she continued to post for a while after that, then seemed to disappear.

I didn’t always agree with her, but I very much appreciated her presence on some threads. She was always excellent on threads about racism in particular.

Not exactly what you’re asking for but there was a thread a few weeks ago about a woman who wanted to go back to work full time at the end of her maternity leave, partly because she liked her job and partly because she was pregnant with her second and would be going off on mat leave within about three months of returning to work (so didn’t want to drop her salary). The abuse she got on the thread was genuinely shocking - so many posters asking ‘why she bothered having children’ (without even understanding her situation). Some of the comments shocked me so much that they’ve really stayed with me, I learnt a lot about how society views mothers even in 2021.

That's awful. I wonder if people also asked her DH/DP got slated for having 2 children so close and going back to work

Even more depressing when you consider that this is supposed to be a feminist leaning site

CatThiefKeith sadly passed away a few years back, I think there was a fundraising page on her behalf by a friend or family member that was shared.

This was supposed to be for Zombie. And I don’t think ESD was banned? From what I remember, she got outed, tried to NC unsuccessfully and then decided to leave.

@TimeIhadaNameChange

I hope Mini and her mum are doing ok.

There was a poster a few years ago who had married into a farming family and the in-laws thought they could control her life. I hope she and her family managed to get away.

A really random one, but an MNer about 10 years ago who had a greyhound called Jet. He'd broken his leg and she was worried about the expenses. He'll have gone to the Bridge by now but I do hope she's doing well.

Do you mean CatLadyToddlerMother?

Even more depressing when you consider that this is supposed to be a feminist leaning site sad

So much damage was done when mn went for the Daily Mail readership cohort. I was reading a thread last night from about 15 years ago and the tone was so different to now.

Does anyone remember a thread last year by an OP who had 2 sons and claimed she had "zero authority" over them? I think her username was chiawatermelon or watermelonchia. It ran into a second thread but got deleted...I often wonder if it was genuine/if she had any luck following the advice she was given

@InsaneLockdowner

I recall a thread where a poster was fed up with a bloke that used to pop into her office once a week and take a massive dump in the office loo making the place stench. I think the poster wanted advice on how to approach him to put a stop to it.

I think the poster put 'out of order' signs up on her toilet, leaving only the cold toilet in reception, and that stopped him rocking up with his newspaper under his arm. (not envy)

The ones about escaping from a abusive relationships are the ones that stick in my mine. There was one a few months ago about a woman who had 6 children, I believe she was a traveller, and she was posting about trying to leave her husband. She sounded absolutely terrified that he would find her, and with good reason. I hope she got out.

So much damage was done when mn went for the Daily Mail readership cohort. I was reading a thread last night from about 15 years ago and the tone was so different to now. it totally was. That was around the time I joined mn and it was a completely different site, and although there were trolls, they tended to be longer running and you could name them because practically everyone had seen the threads. Now it’s easier to name the ones who aren’t trolls.

Added to which, although there were absolutely some threads which kicked off, the level of vitriol just didn’t exist in the way it does now.

In fact there used to be a poster whose catchphrase was “has this thing kicked off yet?” If the thread was controversial.

I have previous mn’ers on my fb list, I gave out my phone number to someone to text me when misdee’s dh was going through his heart transplant because I had to go out and wanted to know if he’d come through it.

I would never ever dream of doing that now.

What always sticks in my mind is on some threads how helpful people are with advice or resources.

There was a thread a bit ago where a Mumsnetter was on a train on her way to some work event and has completely missed the memo that there was a black tie event as part of it and had really limited time to get something to wear - posters rallied round with department store and courier knowledge. Mumsnet at its best.

I remember a thread by a lady who was sharing an office with a colleague who had a very severe body odour problem. The poster was Canadian I think. I'd love to know how that was resolved

The Body Odour woman was doing it on purpose. She wanted someone to mention it. It, apparently, was all a scam so she could make a harassment claim against her employer for money.

I stopped reading the thread at that point as it got complicated/boring.

@SpeckledyHen

I can’t remember the details but there was a male poster whose wife had died from cancer and he had a son . David was either the sons or dads name I think ? . He started a charity page in her memory .

Massive, massive troll who was scamming money from people. But it took ages before MNHQ accepted that, and the threads were then deleted.

lackielady I too send out an ill focussed but heartfelt thanks to all on mummylin bereavement thread. Ok received astonishingly great support and advice there when my lovely old Dad died and then my lovely old Ma, both a couple of years ago. I’m hoping everyone who was so great is ok.

Really sorry to read BertrandRussell might not still be here. Usually agreed with her and when I didn’t always appreciated her voice. Partic powerful re ageism and racism. Regards to her wherever/whoever she now is.

Is Lemon Drizzle in classics?? I might have to revisit that one. It was bloody hilarious. I need something lighthearted right now.
I wish we could have a funny ongoing thread again. They are very few and far between these days.

@ohheckwhatnow

Does anyone remember a thread about a lady whose husband had set up a fish tank in the living room with a massive blue light. Her and the kids couldn't sit in the living room when the light was on, which was about 18hrs a day or something? He said keeping fish made him feel like God! I hope she is OK now.

That was so odd, wasn't the fish tank really huge, like took up half the room or something?

I long for a real funny ongoing thread. The closest I get now is watching a TV programme and posting as we watch. There's been some fun ones of those. The opening Ceremony of the 2012 Olympics threads were hilarious but I imagine they've gone now.

I didn't get 'snapped and farted' and I tried, believe me. Penis Beaker was so obviously a load of cobblers and also brought some interesting new users to the site. A lot of Classics are a bit .