Would you look down on someone who lives in a flat?

[Hattych]

We live in a flat in South London and could never, ever afford a house (short of winning the lottery). DC goes to private school and while the vast majority of parents are very nice there are some who make it clear they aren't bothered talking to me and id stretch to say that one clearly doesn't like me. I don't think I'm imagining it's happening and that it's happening because we are less well off.

Would you look down on someone who lives in a flat? Would you be happy to go around to their home? (when we can obviously!)

No, of course not. Nothing wrong with a flat, they are very common in cities. It would make no difference to me at all.

Only if they were my downstairs neighbours!!

I'd be severely limiting my friendship pool if I did!

It's funny though what people may or may not get uptight about though. I was dropped like a stone by 2 previously good friends because we sent our DCs to private school. One I think was jealous, but the other (without children) told us it told her everything she needed to know about our 'values'.

If people are twats they will find something to be twatty about.

Not everyone will like you
No matter what you live in. It has nothing to do with a flat.

No

I would have thought people living in flats is very common in a big city like London? Anyway if they look down on you because of that then they're complete and utter snobby assholes and your life is better without them in it

My DC are in private school and I'm probably one of the lowest earners in the whole school (exH pays their fees I live in a house a fraction of the size of some of the other parents, don't have a fancy car or fancy clothes etc). There are most definitely parents at the school who look down on me for it. But I figure that's their problem and not one for me to solve.

I live in a flat, so no. My son goes to an indie school too. Nobody seems to care much. Some boys don't like him but it's because they are on warring football teams:)

I can afford a house but I like flats, because I am not British and I am very urban.

Many of the Royal Family live in flats in places like Kensington Palace.

The school gates is not always a good place of meet future friends - ignore anyone who turns their nose up at you - Apples has the right approach - "If people are twats they will find something to be twatty about."

I might wonder why they live in a flat and choose private school. But it wouldn't really be any of my business. If I was mega rich I'd probably look down on everyone.

not atall! I bought my kids up in one when they were young. Some people are snobs though and do make presumptions. You know who to avoid if so!

I might wonder why they live in a flat and choose private school
I don't get the connection?

Wow, thanks for all the responses.

@ApplePearsAndCrumble - I had a friend drop us in quite a nasty way when she found out DC was going to an independent school. I remember feeling sad at the time about the assumptions she made about us.

Posters saying not everyone will like you are of course right. I think this is bugging me as it felt so petty and shallow - it really reminded me of being back at high school.

We're in a flat. It's big enough for us, and we have great neighbours - I'd say the only downside to living here is that I can't justify the giant doggo I want.

Housing is an indicator of wealth, some people at private school (and lots of people not at private school...) will be sneery about income. It's just one of those things unfortunately.

This exact situation is what puts me off sending DD private - we're not flashy at all and I'd hate to be in a situation where there was this odd pressure to demonstrate my wealth!

@Viviennemary many of us non-British people in London like flats. Easy to clean, modern fittings, near the Tube and I hate gardening:)

I don't much care where other parents live.

Fuck no. But I would look down on people who looked down on people living in flats.

No. How insane if someone did think like that! Some people just look down their nose at everyone. I’m not exactly best buds with all my neighbours, but one in particular certainly has a massive dislike for me. I ignore that person. Life’s too short.

@KarensChoppyBob

Fuck no. But I would look down on people who looked down on people living in flats.

This.

If you don't realise that most people can't afford houses you are too stupid to look down on anyone.

It’s a tricky one. A friend of mine had a DC in private school on a scholarship. I don’t think it was so much the fact they lived in a flat that was the issue. More so her DC didn’t fit in with their peers who all had more expensive lifestyles generally. It did leave her child feeling a bit like the “poor” one. So I don’t think it’s just about housing.

What? How could anybody feel superior to a person because they live in an apartment.

Lol that's anyone in any Scottish city gone, then. Oh and Paris, Berlin... the list goes on

What a ridiculous thing to think.

Are they just not city people - come from the suburbs? Not very well travelled perhaps.

Are you sure they actively don’t like you due to your choice of home ans not they just don’t like you or have nothing in common with you. What’s made you think it’s because of your home?

No, not at all. I used to live in a one-bed flat that was worth enough to buy a four-bedroomed semi where I live now. In some areas it would get you five or six bedrooms, detached.

No, but on the other hand I personally wouldn't live in a flat unless there was no other choice, it's why despite being from London I do not live there. I certainly prioritised housing over private school.

It's such an arbitrary reason to look down on someone, I don't understand why anyone would.

There again, I've read various posts on here that comment disapprovingly that someone rents, rather than owns, their house. I also find that kind of snobbery hard to understand.