Caught him talking to another girl and it's me.

[Catsandkittens638297]

Mt husband has a past of talking to other girls that I caught him on tinder last year. I forgave him and we ironed it all out.
I know he's on whisper and I managed to find his account and talk to him. It's anoynmous so he doesn't know it's me.
He's started getting sexual on the chat. I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant with our third child. If I tell him it was me itl get turned round on me for been crazy (literally out of character for me is this o thought he'd click on) but I can't not say anything? Pls don't be rude

If you’ve been with him since you were 13 neither of you have much experience of any other kind of relationship.

A woman I knew was in the same boat married her school boyfriend and had a child with him. She is beautiful, kind and educated. This guy was a waste of space. None of us could understand why she stayed with him. But she didn’t know any different. He ended up getting arrested and it made the decision for her.
She met someone else and realised what it could be like. She remarried and is so happy with him.

As someone with no financial independence I can see how this seems like a step you can’t take. Look into what benefits you could claim.

Got Pina Colada playing on my Alexa now.

He said his options are to kill himself or leave me and he's sick of been an adult basically
Jesus wept, he isn't a responsible adult anyway he is probably sick of it but tough shit you don't get to live the life of a creep while in a committed relationship.
Awh didums wants pity.

I’m thinking you started to chat to him online so you could find out or catch him out, the suspicion must have been there - understandably given your previous experience. You could always just tell the truth - that you needed to know and felt like this was the only way to allay your fears. Of course he’ll turn it back on you and that’s fair too - it’s sort of entrapment. Ultimately it doesn’t look like there’s much trust between you. One off is a mistake, twice is a choice. I’d kick him out TBH but that’s easy to say as a third party.

Sounds like he isn’t about to change, so start working on your exist strategy. You don’t need to leave in the middle of the night with your clothes, you have enough time to get money and whatever else you need plus screenshots etc.

Pack his bags and dump him over the app

just send him a message saying 'I know you are ..... and I know your wife, I'll be in touch' and sit back and watch it implode.

He's done this. Do not allow him to turn this back on you.

From the comment that reads you've spent half your life together but you got together at 13 - are you only 26? If so, you really have the rest of your life ahead of you! You're so young. You don't deserve this, and neither do your DC.
You don't have to accept this and you can find a life or happiness and a relationship of mutual respect and love.
Don't settle for second best. Teach your DC they also deserve a relationship in which they were respected.
Do you have supportive family? Can you lean on them during this difficult time while you move forward without him?

@HyggeTygge

Did you use a pseudonym to fool him?

Under-rated reply.

Narcissist prick

I honestly don't really understand what you think you gained by letting him know you are the girl on Whisper.

It must have sunken in by now that he doesn't care about your wellbeing or your relationship. "Been together since 13" or not, he is a vile man and you should not put up with it, or stoop down to his level.

Why do you not use the time he is not in your home to inform yourself and others of your options??

Get up, get angry, this is YOUR LIFE you need to straighten out. Your children have no benefit from these games, why continue playing as if this is crucial in your future plans!

@Catsandkittens638297
Just told a bloke I know about this and you catching him out.
Chap I know said “
He won’t be laughing when he has three kids to pay for”
Chap said “
I bet her husband was shitting himself at being caught out

It’s a low trick.

Many years ago I trapped a partner in a similar way by writing a lonely heart ad... to a magazine he edited and he fell for it hook, line and stinker.

He wrote a long letter to the “
Girl”

• we used a friend’s address- and I said

“ I have a feeling you have another woman in mind? He replied that I was paranoid.

I ended it.
It hurt, but don’t look back.👍

StanfordPines "Just she like was before tears."

What does that mean?

@CustardySergeant

StanfordPines "Just she like was before tears."

What does that mean?

Kate Bush. Lyrics.

HTH

@CustardySergeant

StanfordPines "Just she like was before tears."

What does that mean?

If I need to explain then you don’t know one of the best songs of all time and I shan’t waste another minute on you. 🤣

Your husband wants to bang other women, accept it or move on....

@Thewinterofdiscontent

He’s not happy. Do him a favour and cut him free. Tell him with a smile that you’re doing him a kindness by letting him go and mean it.

Then have a big cry, get any friends and family you can to help for the next couple of months and then enjoy that massive sense of relief that you no longer have to live with someone that lies to your face.

This might work if they were just a couple. But they’re a couple with two children and one on the way, and the OP is financially dependent on him.

He lacks respect for you. And that will never change. You deserve better.

Ileflottante
And? She won’t be the first single mum of three. She’s financially dependent until she decides she’s not.

What if he’d died of Covid last year? What if he went off with another woman? Op would have to cope and there’s no reason she can’t now.

I have read through the updates

I personally think you are much better of without him.

But I do hope you are okay.

Do you have support around you?

You're well off without him.