Caught him talking to another girl and it's me.

[Catsandkittens638297]

Mt husband has a past of talking to other girls that I caught him on tinder last year. I forgave him and we ironed it all out.
I know he's on whisper and I managed to find his account and talk to him. It's anoynmous so he doesn't know it's me.
He's started getting sexual on the chat. I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant with our third child. If I tell him it was me itl get turned round on me for been crazy (literally out of character for me is this o thought he'd click on) but I can't not say anything? Pls don't be rude

I’m sorry OP

let him leave.

You’ll figure it out

The number of men who think that when their partner is pregnant that it gives them the right to have a bit of fun elsewhere. Mother of god what shits some of them are. So sorry @Catsandkittens638297

He turned it around on you, cheeky fucker. I would now be throwing his shit from the bedroom window demanding he gives the keys to the house back and telling him to do one.

Oh Babooshka. That's tough.

You’ll be fine OP, women everywhere are fine.... often better, on their own
Don’t worry about finances right now, take a breath, let him lay blame it doesn’t change the outcome. Just concentrate on you

Let him go.. pack his bags if you have to.. you don’t need to put up with this. You are a strong woman who can do this on your own! Forget about money.. he will have to provide for you and his children. Don’t allow him to treat you like this! Be strong ... you can do this x

Let him leave, you will manage. There will be wiser people on here with practical advice to help you but life is too short to be wasted.

@Hope4theBestPlan4theWorst

If he has a history of talking to other girls in tinder last year why on God's earth are you having a 3rd child with him???

Oh FFS are you always do judgemental?

for you op I'm so sorry he has done this.
But you will be much happier with him gone,apply for benefits as a single parent now.
Without his negativity dragging you down,your natural resilience and sense of purpose will see you through this.
You will miss him less than you think.
Happier times are ahead.but get him out for now.
Don't be afraid of the future without him,you will be better off in every way with him gone.

Do you like piña colada, and getting caught in the rain?

@SaltyTootsieToes

Do you like pina coladas and gettin caught in the rain?

Didn't see that someone else had got there first!

Would the —as of now— 12% voting that the OP is YABU please pipe up?

Don’t simply vote; assert yourselves and opinions.

OP

Screenshot the messages and then send it to yourself from another email address and say you had an annoymous tip off/a friend has discovered your profile and confront him.

You know what you know. About last year. About this incident on whisper. You don’t have to tell him, you can just know, think, plan, bide your time, make a decision, save, prepare, leave him or stay.

Knowledge is power. Personally I’d start making secret plans for divorce a little later down the line.

Time for you to get your family involved, is there someone like your mum or someone who can be there when you confront him. Invite your mum over and send him a text when he's there.. Wait for him to reply. He's then caught bang to rights, and im sorry but it's best now before baby is born rather than after, prepare for being a single mum. If he starts his crap call police have him removed from your home. He's no longer needed, any man prepared to cheat on a woman carrying his child is not a man.you will be raising a baby, you don't have time to raise a manchild lying, untrustworthy, unreliable and disrespectful piece of trash like that. Right now see yourself as the most important person in your baby's life.

Your marriage is a total sham, and your husband is nothing but a lying cheat. Kick the bastard out.

@Thewinterofdiscontent

He’s not happy. Do him a favour and cut him free. Tell him with a smile that you’re doing him a kindness by letting him go and mean it.

Then have a big cry, get any friends and family you can to help for the next couple of months and then enjoy that massive sense of relief that you no longer have to live with someone that lies to your face.

I'd do this.

You will be fine and feel relieved sooner than you think.

This is a painful time for you, OP. Be kind to yourself. You need to leave this dishonest, unfaithful idiot. But first sort out your finances, and get good legal advice -- there are a lot of helpful professionals on Mumsnet who will steer you in the right direction if you ask. Make your move when it suits you. Best of luck to you and DC. I hope by the time DC3 is born you will be in a happier situation.

There are resources available to you. Avail yourself of them.

As to what I would do, I would see a divorce attorney immediately, have papers drawn up, arrange a meeting between him and the "girl" you are pretending to be, and have the divorce papers delivered to him at the meet. But I'm just mean that way.

It's really a question of when you split up. This isn't going to be a happy marriage. No respect from him. Infidelity.
You know what he is doing and don't need a dramatic 'haha' moment.

Work out how you can support yourself financially as a single parent, or stay in the same house and live separate lives. There's no other option here.

I have to say this is not a nice man. You are pregnant with his child and yet he behaves like this. Even if you were not pregnant it wouldn't be acceptable. You have caught him before and he hasn't changed. I would get rid. You don't need him to have a baby and by the sounds of it you will be better without him.

Do you really feel like you have to explain anything to him? Is this the most important thing in the whole situation? I'm pretty certain if you just say nothing at all on Whisper, he'll be off in a jiffy, looking for the next casual f*ck. Online or in real life. You'll never know if he's taken things further with someone else.

Please inform your midwife/doula. Perhaps they have test kits at hand for STD's. It's important to have this over with, OP, for your sanity as well as your baby's health.

I really urge you to inform yourself of your options, by taking legal advice concerning financial support and property. You'll know instead of guess and this will help you keep your head clear.

When you are informed, rally friends and family around you and let them help you. You will get through this. It only needs to be without him.

He ended up sending an indecent picture, in which I replied a picture of my self telling him to go f#ck himself. He just laughed about it. And was like "Asif you baited me hahah". He said his options are to kill himself or leave me and he's sick of been an adult basically
Long story short think we've broke up.

Has he gone? Do you have some support? Do not accept any blame for this. Do not engage with him in conversation about it. He's at fault.