Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Would you attend a wedding in July?

321 replies

Workyticket · 23/02/2021 09:11

Yanbu: yes, I would
Yabu: not a chance

We're on our 3rd wedding date. Mid July - supposedly social distancing will be a thing of the past -doubt it like-

Trying to decide what to plan for. We're booked for a farm in Northumberland. Outdoor wedding under an open barn

Potentially eat outside but massive marquee booked in case the weather is shit

80 day time and 140 evening original guests

It's very laid back - nowt sorted really despite it being our 3rd date and nothing that can't be sorted or cancelled in the last couple of weeks if necessary

OP posts:
Thread gallery
6
Original poster
Workyticket · 25/02/2021 15:44

@Guidebutton

What does social distancing look like at a wedding? Presumably no dancing?
It's booked for when the road map says we'll be done with it all

Obviously that's best case scenario

OP posts:
xHeartinacagex · 25/02/2021 15:47

I'd definitely go if the guidelines allow it. I'm not really optimistic they will though unfortunately

Guidebutton · 25/02/2021 15:53

What happens if you book it all and it's "allowed" but not recommended or if it's allowed but with restrictions? I.e no music or no dancing?

I'd love to think we'll be back to normal by 21 June and it does seem likely with the vaccination programme as it is, but a small set back for the vaccines and it could be very different.

nancywhitehead · 25/02/2021 15:53

This really depends if you want the potential stress of having to cancel and rearrange last minute. It's a very real possibility that it will all go ahead just fine, but it's also a very real possibility that you will have to cancel or scale back.

Also worth considering is how your guests might feel about it, even if it can go ahead legally, people might still be a bit anxious/ feel a bit weird about being in a large crowd. For that reason you might get people not attending even if it's allowed.

We have now had to rearrange our wedding twice and wouldn't want to risk it again, it is a major stress and headache contacting everyone to rearrange, checking diaries and not to mention the disappointment you feel each time.

We now have ours planned for 2022, by which point we hope there will be more normality.

minniemoocher · 25/02/2021 15:54

I would! I have a 12 weddings in the diary (church) with two more couples booking in the last 24 hours.

breadbinbaby · 25/02/2021 16:23

Mine has always been booked for the last weekend of this June, so I’m back to planning with a vengeance. Assuming restrictions are lifted, I don’t think anyone I know would be too anxious to come, although I suspect some people will have had events rescheduled from last summer or will have trips to see family they’ve been apart from as a priority which is fine. I would hope that anyone who’s invited to a wedding that’s legally allowed but feels too anxious to go would have the good grace to make a polite excuse and not to say or imply that the couple are at fault for having a wedding they’re allowed to have!

MsTSwift · 25/02/2021 16:25

Ooh bring it on. I would love to be invited to a wedding in July!

HurricaneBitch · 25/02/2021 17:09

Genuine question so hope you don't think I'm being arsey. What if your 19 year old got invited somewhere? A festival / party / wedding... would they go or would you expect them not to for however much longer?

I would let him go, as I did during last summer. The reason we wouldn't attend as a family is so my dd wouldn't be amongst the 160 guests, not that we would bring it home to her. Iyswim. If whole family were invited we wouldn't come, if just dh and I were invited we would, I guess that's the best way of explaining.

Original poster
Workyticket · 25/02/2021 18:25

@hurricaneBitch yes, that makes sense.

Very few kids on our list. Our ds, friends ds as she's nobody to leave him with and 2 bridesmaids (sisters kids)

The cheese lady just emailed asking us to confirm we still want our order Confused

OP posts:
Blondeshavemorefun · 25/02/2021 20:36

@Guidebutton

What happens if you book it all and it's "allowed" but not recommended or if it's allowed but with restrictions? I.e no music or no dancing?

I'd love to think we'll be back to normal by 21 June and it does seem likely with the vaccination programme as it is, but a small set back for the vaccines and it could be very different.

We’ve rebooked end of July

Third time lucky lol

Hopefully we can dance and have music

But if we can’t then we can’t

And will have a meal and drinks and chatting and laughter

Pootle40 · 25/02/2021 20:39

Wouldn't give a second thought tbh. Of course.

20viona · 25/02/2021 20:41

Yes I would I can't wait to socialise

VikingsandDragons · 26/02/2021 11:04

Due to go to one at a barn in Northumberland in August, can't wait, we would definitely go as should both be vaccinated by then

Original poster
Workyticket · 26/02/2021 11:37

@vikingsandDragons wonder if it's the same one.

Well... i've ordered the bloody cheese! My pals have all selfishly volunteered to help scoff it if we have to cancel!

OP posts:
Original poster
Workyticket · 26/02/2021 11:53

*selflessly, not selfishly!

OP posts:
Blondeshavemorefun · 26/02/2021 13:10

Shouldn’t have to cancel Weddings in July aug but may be number limits

Original poster
Workyticket · 26/02/2021 17:13

@Blondeshavemorefun

Shouldn’t have to cancel Weddings in July aug but may be number limits
Hopefully. It's just the not knowing for definite

Dp says we're doing it regardless and he's right really. We can stand in the open barn in jeans and t shirts if push comes to shove - did I mention I've not bought a dress or anything yet? 🙈

OP posts:
Truthlikeness · 26/02/2021 17:18

I've just today been invited to a wedding in July and I will be going

MegaClutterSlut · 26/02/2021 17:25

Although your wedding sounds great, I'd be hesitant to go to one that size tbh

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/02/2021 17:28

Where as I have the dress and everything as was may 2019 originally. Then may 2020

Tho dd will need new bridesmaid dress as too small now :( total waste of money

Plus favours will be out of date

Original poster
Workyticket · 26/02/2021 17:30

@MegaClutterSlut

Although your wedding sounds great, I'd be hesitant to go to one that size tbh
Honestly, we'll be fine for people to say no thanks if we do go ahead. I really hope that out friends and family know is well enough to know we'll understand 💜
OP posts:
IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 26/02/2021 17:34

@MegaClutterSlut

Although your wedding sounds great, I'd be hesitant to go to one that size tbh
I think a lot may.

I didn’t think SD and masks had been included with an end date so ensuring SD whilst alcohol is being served may be very tricky.

Original poster
Workyticket · 26/02/2021 17:44

@Blondeshavemorefun

Where as I have the dress and everything as was may 2019 originally. Then may 2020

Tho dd will need new bridesmaid dress as too small now :( total waste of money

Plus favours will be out of date

Oh that's rubbish 😟

This is one time I'm glad we're both disorganised lazy we've literally booked the brewery and erm... not much else

OP posts:
Blondeshavemorefun · 26/02/2021 19:27

Let’s hope you find a dress cake photographer favours etx ......

But you have cheese

I love cheese !!!

Original poster
Workyticket · 26/02/2021 19:36

@Blondeshavemorefun

Let’s hope you find a dress cake photographer favours etx ......

But you have cheese

I love cheese !!!

The cheese is the cake 😁

Not too fussed on all the rest. We were never having a photographer. One of our guests is a photographer and will do the couple of family shots my mam wants but we're not fussed on an album etc

OP posts:
Swipe left for the next trending thread