Page 4 | Would you attend a wedding in July?

Workyticket · 2021-02-23T09:11:47+00:00

Yanbu: yes, I would Yabu: not a chance We're on our 3rd wedding date. Mid July - supposedly social distancing will be a thing of the past -doubt it like- Trying to decide what to plan for. We're booked for a farm in Northumberland. Outdoor wedding under an open barn Potentially eat outside but massive marquee booked in case the weather is shit 80 day time and 140 evening original guests It's very laid back - nowt sorted really despite it being our 3rd date and nothing that can't be sorted or cancelled in the last couple of weeks if necessary

peak2021 · 24/02/2021 19:32

Not if it involved an overnight stay. So I was not out of pocket if the restrictions do not end on 21 June.

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/02/2021 21:41

Yes to wedding

Hopefully I will get married this summer, had 2 cancelled, last may and this may

We would have got married with 15 if allowed

I honestly don’t think you would be having 80 day and 140 evenings

We were 75 and 75 so 150 in all

But

If it’s 30/50/75 then so be it

We just want to get married rather the. Have the big day

Figgyboa · 24/02/2021 21:57

I would potentially attend a wedding in July but not one with 140 guests

DuggeeHugPlease · 24/02/2021 22:24

I can't wait to get back to normal and am not hugely risk averse but I think I would be a bit wary of those numbers. Would make a decision nearer the time and based on how close I was to the couple and therefore how important it was for me to be there.
Hope you have a wonderful wedding.

tisonlymeagain · 24/02/2021 22:28

Absolutely, without hesitation.

SnackSizeRaisin · 24/02/2021 22:34

I would go and it will probably be fine. But the problem will be you won't know for sure until quite late on. I would try and arrange for guests to be allowed to camp at the venue and then there's no issue with last minute accommodation being sold out or really expensive.

OrangeBananaFish · 24/02/2021 22:44

DHs cousin is due to get married in July (postponed from last year). If restrictions allow we'll be there. It's all inside. Looking forward to it. I think the numbers are similar. Cant hide away forever.

notanothertakeaway · 24/02/2021 22:44

140 guests? No, sorry, I wouldn't feel safe in a crowd that size, especially if dancing involved

Smaller crowd, just for a wedding, meal and drinks? Yes, I would love that

Changeisneeded · 24/02/2021 22:45

Whilst I will have had both doses of the vaccine by then I would only go if you didn’t have to isolate if you had, had contact with somebody who tested positive. I would struggle to much with the quarantine aspect so I would love to go but I would be a no to a unlikely maybe.

That said I’m literally desperate to get out and live my life again so I may throw caution to the wind.

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Workyticket · 24/02/2021 22:47

@SnackSizeRaisin

I would go and it will probably be fine. But the problem will be you won't know for sure until quite late on. I would try and arrange for guests to be allowed to camp at the venue and then there's no issue with last minute accommodation being sold out or really expensive.

Some of our pals would love to. There's a glamping pitch next door but it's £££

The farm is 20 minutes or so outside Newcastle - so loads of choice if people do want to stay over. Some rooms were as cheap as 40 quid this time last year when friends priced up

Most people live in newcastle / gateshead / surrounding areas. Some had planned to book cheap hotels just for the hangover breakfast

1 couple have a hotel booked that they rolled over from last year. Everyone else travelling will be staying at their parents houses.

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justsayso · 24/02/2021 23:06

Pass me the confetti I am there!
Also hoping to have the wedding in July this year and have finally, finally got my mojo back to plan it all. Best of luck with your planning and wedding.
Its so interesting the mixed responses on here.
I think it will probably be 50/50 for our guests too but they're all so desperate to see me married off they'll come just to make sure!

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/02/2021 07:39

It so hard about the numbers as not sure we will know when have a set number allowed

Is it May 17 they said a def 30

Abs June 21 they how things go back to normal - but. It’s can’t see that

Sure it will be capped

Jangle33 · 25/02/2021 08:08

I’d be amazed if we are allowed to, whatever govt saying about no restrictions. And if cases are high, do you really want your wedding being a super spreader...?

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Workyticket · 25/02/2021 09:01

@Jangle33

I’d be amazed if we are allowed to, whatever govt saying about no restrictions. And if cases are high, do you really want your wedding being a super spreader...?

No, I really wouldn't

But... if Leeds festival can go ahead then a wedding in a massive space really doesn't seem so bad. It's difficult timing 😪

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Blondeshavemorefun · 25/02/2021 12:29

@Workyticket if they decide to limit to 30

Will you still marry

Hopefully find out in June

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Workyticket · 25/02/2021 13:04

[quote Blondeshavemorefun]@Workyticket if they decide to limit to 30

Will you still marry

Hopefully find out in June[/quote]
Yes. Definitely

But probably just with our parents and ds to avoid having to choose 30

It wouldn't be great tbh

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Blondeshavemorefun · 25/02/2021 13:12

We chose our 15. Which tbh was immediate family

Guess we need to decide who the 15 are if 30

More would be nice

Rosieposy89 · 25/02/2021 13:14

Absolutely not and I think it's highly irresponsible to be thinking of a wedding of 140 guests is okay just after restrictions are lifted. There's no guarantee that everything will be lifted by 21st June. Not every single guest will have received both jabs by then so Covid will still be a risk. I wouldn't want to put my guests in that position, they may feel awkward declining.

Popsy321 · 25/02/2021 13:20

Yes I would. I'd go to the opening of an envelope quite frankly right now.

SerenityFlowers · 25/02/2021 13:21

I'd potentially go depending on how well I knew the other guests and whether you had a policy on not including guests you know have unreasonably refused vaccination. I think that would be the elephant in the room and something you would need to address, because as the organiser you do really have a duty of care to those attending.

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Workyticket · 25/02/2021 13:38

@SerenityFlowers

I'd potentially go depending on how well I knew the other guests and whether you had a policy on not including guests you know have unreasonably refused vaccination. I think that would be the elephant in the room and something you would need to address, because as the organiser you do really have a duty of care to those attending.

In all honesty I don't think we would.

If people can go to festivals and I can teach 30 kids in a room who may or may not have consented to a lateral flow test to be in school then I'd feel like a dick implementing a jab invitation policy.

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HurricaneBitch · 25/02/2021 13:41

No. There are 3 adults in our house; dh, me and 19yo ds, well have had out vaccines but I also have a 15yo dd, we need to keep her safe until such time she could maybe have a vaccine.

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Workyticket · 25/02/2021 15:33

@HurricaneBitch

No. There are 3 adults in our house; dh, me and 19yo ds, well have had out vaccines but I also have a 15yo dd, we need to keep her safe until such time she could maybe have a vaccine.

Genuine question so hope you don't think I'm being arsey. What if your 19 year old got invited somewhere? A festival / party / wedding... would they go or would you expect them not to for however much longer?

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Guidebutton · 25/02/2021 15:35

I'd be reluctant to commit to anything re travel arrangements/accommodation now, but assuming it's within guidance at the time I would.

I wouldn't if the guidance says no, even if it's not technically illegal.

Guidebutton · 25/02/2021 15:41

What does social distancing look like at a wedding? Presumably no dancing?