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Would you attend a wedding in July?

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Workyticket · 23/02/2021 09:11

Yanbu: yes, I would
Yabu: not a chance

We're on our 3rd wedding date. Mid July - supposedly social distancing will be a thing of the past -doubt it like-

Trying to decide what to plan for. We're booked for a farm in Northumberland. Outdoor wedding under an open barn

Potentially eat outside but massive marquee booked in case the weather is shit

80 day time and 140 evening original guests

It's very laid back - nowt sorted really despite it being our 3rd date and nothing that can't be sorted or cancelled in the last couple of weeks if necessary

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Workyticket · 27/02/2021 09:48

@minniemoocher

I would! I have a 12 weddings in the diary (church) with two more couples booking in the last 24 hours.
Amazing! I've not been to 12 weddings in my life 🤣
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CheltenhamLady · 27/02/2021 11:22

My son has just rebooked his wedding from May to August, and we are all hoping it will be a 'normal' wedding. 120 in the day, 200 at night in a stately home and gardens.

If you are allowed to do it why wouldn't you? All this talk of people who are arranging weddings being 'irresponsible' really annoys me. if you follow the guidance how can that be true?

Additionally, every guest has the right to refuse the invitation.

OP, I hope all goes well and you have a lovely day.

adventurealice · 27/02/2021 11:46

It SHOULD be fine, as every eligible adult SHOULD have had at least one vaccine by then

The target is for every adult to have been offered by the end of July so it won't be till end of August that most adults have both had the first jab and got the benefits of it.

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Workyticket · 27/02/2021 11:50

@CheltenhamLady

My son has just rebooked his wedding from May to August, and we are all hoping it will be a 'normal' wedding. 120 in the day, 200 at night in a stately home and gardens.

If you are allowed to do it why wouldn't you? All this talk of people who are arranging weddings being 'irresponsible' really annoys me. if you follow the guidance how can that be true?

Additionally, every guest has the right to refuse the invitation.

OP, I hope all goes well and you have a lovely day.

Fingers crossed got you too 🙏
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Workyticket · 27/02/2021 11:50

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tobedtoMNandfart · 27/02/2021 12:16

No. Having spent 4 months shielding at home last year and now stuck shielding for 3-6 months this year.

I appreciate everyone is desperate for a party but 140 people just sounds insane. The govt end date is 'no earlier than'. And when we go back to 'normal' it will be to a 'new normal'.

Sorry to be the voice of doom as I know everyone wants their dream wedding but times have changed. Maybe extravagant 5 year vow renewal parties will be the newest craze?!

breadbinbaby · 27/02/2021 12:22

@tobedtoMNandfart

No. Having spent 4 months shielding at home last year and now stuck shielding for 3-6 months this year.

I appreciate everyone is desperate for a party but 140 people just sounds insane. The govt end date is 'no earlier than'. And when we go back to 'normal' it will be to a 'new normal'.

Sorry to be the voice of doom as I know everyone wants their dream wedding but times have changed. Maybe extravagant 5 year vow renewal parties will be the newest craze?!

No one has said we’re going to have a new normal where big events can’t happen! Actually, the government is working really hard to ensure the opposite. If the roadmap dates did slip it’d only be by a matter of weeks. People certainly won’t be waiting five years for their next big party.
Blondeshavemorefun · 27/02/2021 12:24

I hope I’m wrong @CheltenhamLady

but honestly don’t think we will be back to normal June 21 and any number weddings allowed and def not 200 + guests

We’ve rebooked for end of July

Never thought I would say this but be overjoyed if 30 but def prefer 75 :)

Considering was once 5:6 and 15

Guess we will just have to wait and see

3GIANTSTRAWBERRIES · 27/02/2021 12:32

We received an evening wedding invitation on Tuesday and yes we're going! How up for a party will everyone be by then? I'm excited already and I don't even know the couple (she's work colleagues) 😃

Porcupineintherough · 27/02/2021 12:37

I'd go if I'd been jabbed and numbers were low but not otherwise, so I'd not be sure whether to accept or not. Obviously I'd want to go to a friends wedding but I wouldnt want to let them down at the last minute either.

tobedtoMNandfart · 27/02/2021 12:40

I was asked for my opinion and I gave it.

breadbinbaby · 27/02/2021 12:42

Well, yes, and I replied to it!

MargosKaftan · 27/02/2021 12:46

YANBU - id be there, squeezed into my best frock, trying to walk in heels for the first time in over a year, trying to remember how to dance...

I get that some people will be scared, but life will at some point get back to normal, and we are looking at end of June as life being back to normal. July is a great time for it.

It might feel insane now, but life can't stay on hold forever.

Your wedding might be the first big event for many, make sure there's lots of booze to help those feeling a bit awkward, feed everyone and give everyone an event to be working towards.

Bluesername · 27/02/2021 12:46

As long as it was allowed, I would come! It sounds fantastic.

Landofthefree · 27/02/2021 13:36

@Workyticket will you be inviting any guests over 50 or anyone with serious health issues? If virtually all your guests are fit and well, hopefully the most vulnerable ones will all be vaccinated or not go.

The cheese sounds tempting - if there’s a strong cheddar and a ripe Brie included, I’ll be there!

tobedtoMNandfart · 27/02/2021 13:53

@breadbinbaby

Well, yes, and I replied to it!
👍🤣
yikesanotherbooboo · 27/02/2021 14:04

I would go but wouldn't want to book accommodation at this point and would be worried about booking last minute during holiday season if I was one of the near people I would be looking forward to it!

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Workyticket · 27/02/2021 16:30

@MargosKaftan

YANBU - id be there, squeezed into my best frock, trying to walk in heels for the first time in over a year, trying to remember how to dance...

I get that some people will be scared, but life will at some point get back to normal, and we are looking at end of June as life being back to normal. July is a great time for it.

It might feel insane now, but life can't stay on hold forever.

Your wedding might be the first big event for many, make sure there's lots of booze to help those feeling a bit awkward, feed everyone and give everyone an event to be working towards.

This is how I feel today. Yesterday I felt like a selfish cow for even thinking about it

There'll be boatloads of booze.

Gin favours (which involves me hoying hoying cheap gin into kilner jars to flavour up a month before so we'll definitely need to decide by then!)

A couple of kegs of beer from the brewery for people to help themselves to

Loads of prosecco

Tea and coffee and elderflower crush in free flow

And a cheap bar for the people who get sick of gin, prosecco and beer

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Workyticket · 27/02/2021 16:33

[quote Landofthefree]@Workyticket will you be inviting any guests over 50 or anyone with serious health issues? If virtually all your guests are fit and well, hopefully the most vulnerable ones will all be vaccinated or not go.

The cheese sounds tempting - if there’s a strong cheddar and a ripe Brie included, I’ll be there![/quote]
I'm 42 old age bride most of our friends are similar ages

All of our parents / aunts have had at least 1 jab already

The cheese is made by a fabulous place in Northumberland so no brie... there's a nettle one to go with a jet of nettle beer though Grin

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MixedUpFiles · 27/02/2021 16:37

Even if legally allowed, we would not attend.

I would send you a nice hand made card and a gift along with my congratulations.

Magnificentmug12 · 27/02/2021 16:39

Invite me please! I would come, I miss weddings!!

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Workyticket · 28/02/2021 11:02

@MixedUpFiles

Even if legally allowed, we would not attend.

I would send you a nice hand made card and a gift along with my congratulations.

And that really would be fine with us. I hope that all of our friends and family would feel able to say no if they need to ❤
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Workyticket · 12/03/2021 19:41

Still not counting our chickens but only 2 of our day guests have dropped out and that's because they have rescheduled a holiday.

Everyone else is happy just to wait and see ❤

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CheltenhamLady · 13/03/2021 11:57

Good news OP. Fingers crossed!

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