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Am I the only woman who has never been sent a dick pic?

139 replies

Echobelly · 19/02/2021 19:40

Or any other sexually aggressive message online?

I am, of course, in nothing but happy about this, but a lot of people talk about how women are constantly bombarded with obscene messages online.

Maybe it's because I haven't online dated since the turn of the millennium (yes, I'm that old)? Dick pics and horrible messages were definitely a thing then, but never got any.

I occasionally get random blokes trying to friend me or message me on social media, but I always block, so might have been dodging a bullet there.

OP posts:
AlrightTreacle · 19/02/2021 20:32

I don't think I'd appreciate solicited dick pics or wank videos either, if there is such a thing. 😂

Course there is, it's even got it's own name: sexting? I used to quite enjoy it in my younger years (about 5 years ago). Never received a dick pic from a random bloke online though.

Oblomov21 · 19/02/2021 20:32

Nope. Hope I never do. No interest.

AlwaysLatte · 19/02/2021 20:41

Not me, I've been married for 15 years then prior to that, with someone for 12 years. Never dated anyone who wasn't a friend/colleague/acquaintance first. The idea of online dating seems a bit scary.

MajesticWhine · 19/02/2021 20:45

I haven't had the pleasure... but I've never done online dating.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 19/02/2021 20:51

I haven't either.

However I've been subjected to other unpleasant experiences..... a guy taking a photo up my dress on the a train in london (another bloke spotted him, was disgusted and physically threw him off at the next station). A guy groping me quite threateningly (on the tube).

ViciousJackdaw · 19/02/2021 20:57

I've never done OLD but I have the audacity to be a woman with opinions on football on Twitter so I've certainly been sent a few. To offend, I suspect, it's always from a supporter of a rival team.

BraveGoldie · 19/02/2021 20:59

I online dated for a year three years ago and never got sent one (thankfully). Is it literally a photo of their dick? In erect glory?

Do ANY women find that a turn on? Do men think women like it? Or do they do it because they think the woman will then feel obligated to return the 'favour'?

Ilovelove · 19/02/2021 21:01

No I haven’t and I am so happy to say no.
How absolutely gross. It would put be right of anyone that did that.Confused

SaltyTootsieToes · 19/02/2021 21:02

I have not had any either

LillyFlower1984 · 19/02/2021 21:05

I’ve had quite a few over the years (mid 30s) usually men I met through online or when I used to go out to bars/clubs (uni years). These type of men usually waste no time with a proposition of sex.

Blibbyblobby · 19/02/2021 21:19

Not me, I've been with DH since the early 90s and don't connect to randoms on social media.

Been flashed more times than I can remember though, which is what yer basic inadequate male had to do to force a woman to laugh at be visually invaded by his proud glory back in the day.

Eee, I remember when it were all fields and flashers round here...

partyofsixteen · 19/02/2021 21:34

Me neither. Nor would I ever appreciate one either, not even from my husband (not that he’s even sent one).

StillGoingToWork · 19/02/2021 21:37

Never, nor do I want to. The idea creeps me out.

thegreysheep · 19/02/2021 21:38

But even when sexting @AlrightTreacle I don't really rate them, as in they all kinda look the same or something? I'd much prefer an abs shot or something, but that's just me 😂

Mysillystory · 19/02/2021 21:44

I was on a dating site for a bit. I got offered £1000 to poo on a man and use him like a toilet. I declined his generous offer Grin

Another man offered me £120 to kick him in the balls for one hour, but I decided it was too much of a work out and not enough money. That would have been far too much effort on my part!

UncleBrynsMySpaceFriend · 19/02/2021 21:46

I haven’t but I’ve been with my husband since 2003 and smart phones weren’t a thing then.

UncleBrynsMySpaceFriend · 19/02/2021 21:49

Oh I’ve just remembered I did have a long look at Chris Evans’ leaked dick pic, that someone sent to me - does that count?

snowisfallingallaroundus · 19/02/2021 21:51

I've never had one sent. Are they sent up or down? Confused

DramaAlpaca · 19/02/2021 21:53

Nope. I got married in 1990 so I'm pleased to say my dating days didn't involve that sort of thing

wishywashywoowoo70 · 19/02/2021 21:57

I've had loads.
All off my DH though. We're pretty old too Smile

NewLevelsOfTiredness · 19/02/2021 21:58

As a guy what I don't get it is... I've never heard of it working. Not once. Putting aside the issue of it being gross and inappropriate, why do something that is famously ineffective? Or is there a secret section of women out there who think "that one actually looks alright, game on!" (which I severely doubt, or at least that it's such a minority that we're back to "why bother?")

@Mysillystory Out of pure morbid curiosity, what is your minimum price to kick a guy in the nuts for pay? (I won't be ordering your services regardless of the answer, to be clear.)

Ginfordinner · 19/02/2021 22:00

Me neither, but I am old Grin

YewandOak · 19/02/2021 22:02

No you're not. But then I don't date,online or offline,I'm too old to want to bother with the faff nowadays 🤣

Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2021 22:02

I don't see the point of my DH sending me a dick pic, I see it most days why would I need a picture of it? Confused What's the correct response in reply? I don't get it.

bridgetreilly · 19/02/2021 22:03

I am happy to say that you are not, OP.