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Am I the only woman who has never been sent a dick pic?

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Echobelly · 19/02/2021 19:40

Or any other sexually aggressive message online?

I am, of course, in nothing but happy about this, but a lot of people talk about how women are constantly bombarded with obscene messages online.

Maybe it's because I haven't online dated since the turn of the millennium (yes, I'm that old)? Dick pics and horrible messages were definitely a thing then, but never got any.

I occasionally get random blokes trying to friend me or message me on social media, but I always block, so might have been dodging a bullet there.

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shouldistop · 19/02/2021 19:55

And actually the one guy who would have been far too experimental for me checked before we even chatted that much as it was important to him and didn't want to waste his time. I was relieved and surprised how polite he was about it all.

It was important to him to send you a photograph of his penis? What an odd man.

RuthTopp · 19/02/2021 19:57

No , don't feel like I'm missing out either.

Auldspinster · 19/02/2021 19:57

If I had a pound for every unsolicited dick pic I've received I'd have a fair bit of cash. You're not missing anything.

iklboo · 19/02/2021 19:58

Never had one. Ex sent me a photo of his face after he left, if that counts?

DDIJ · 19/02/2021 20:01

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PancakesPopTarts · 19/02/2021 20:01

@katy1213 I wish it is how it went. Instead it was sent whilst I was on a family holiday Blush I think he was hoping for a better reaction than he received. A late edition of Debretts is a wonderful idea though!

Snaketime · 19/02/2021 20:03

I've never had one either.

SplendidSuns1000 · 19/02/2021 20:03

Only from DH Grin

I met him when I was 18 and had only had a couple of 'boyfriends' before him who didn't get too far. Thankfully he's an old fart that never understood online sexual harassment.

BessMarvin · 19/02/2021 20:04

@LouHotel

Got them before being with DH a little bit, they weren't quite that impressive on a LG flip up phone. My friends got one the other day from a guy on tinder and it was the size of a pringles can.
Normal size tube or the snack ones?
PancakesPopTarts · 19/02/2021 20:04

@shouldistop I didn't explain that well. Dick pic from DP.

The other guy never sent one but it was definitely part of things he wanted to do but checked with me first. When I declined he said goodbye and was really nice!

Malbecfan · 19/02/2021 20:07

No. Been with DH since 1994, married to him since 1997. DH doesn't get smartphones.

I have taken the odd selfie though.

WhatAboutThatThen · 19/02/2021 20:08

Not recently but when I was 14 I got sent a link to a guys website that was just lots of pics of him with his cock out via ICQ messenger, but nothing in the 25 years since!

SchrodingersImmigrant · 19/02/2021 20:09

Me neither. I have mixed feelings about it😂

SchrodingersImmigrant · 19/02/2021 20:09

Omg ICQ😂

NotWithMyShoes · 19/02/2021 20:10

I’ve never received any thank god. Because I’m too old and we didn’t have smart phones.
About 12 years ago a random bloke ... showed me one on his mobile phone if that counts. this happened to my 8 year old today Angry

Marinaloves · 19/02/2021 20:14

What a stupid question if you haven’t done online dating.
Here goes a thread where everyone comes on and says they’ve never had one and people who have been married for 30 years
Honestly these types of threads. Usually I just ignore, before someone tells me, but for some reason this annoyed me enough to pour myself a gin and make this comment.

PandemicAtTheDisco · 19/02/2021 20:14

Are there any women that actually appreciate them?

I think men that like men are the probably the most likely to appreciate them.

What response do they imagine they'll get?

Do women send clit pics?

Frozenintime · 19/02/2021 20:15

Me neither. It's plain weird ! Mind you I would never have chatted to strangers on the internet. Never a good idea

WhatAboutThatThen · 19/02/2021 20:17

@SchrodingersImmigrant yep back in the days of dialup, after clicking on the link the pics slowly unfolded from the top down to finally reveal him in all his glory :/

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Echobelly · 19/02/2021 20:17

I have said that I did do online dating and I was warned that dick pics and gross comments would happen, so I'm kind of surprised (but obviously relieved) it didn't happen then, and it sounds like those dicks aren't always bothered whether one is just on social media and not looking for romance (or penises) Grin

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thegreysheep · 19/02/2021 20:18

I've been sent loads on old, always unsolicited. But my favourite are the unsolicited wank videos.🙄
In fact, I don't think I'd appreciate solicited dick pics or wank videos either, if there is such a thing. 😂

HexWitch · 19/02/2021 20:18

Me neither OP

goldielockdown2 · 19/02/2021 20:21

I receive them on Instagram. There are so many low lives out there!

Zerrin13 · 19/02/2021 20:23

Me neither! Not a sausage! Where am I going wrong?

BotanyBetty · 19/02/2021 20:27

My friend used to forward me the ones she got sent when she was on a Tinder frenzy but I don't think that counts Grin I had to be very careful about opening messages from her for a while! It was entertaining as I wasn't the intended recipient.

Never received any myself (never done OLD)