I offered my toddler a drink

[bridgetjones1]

And a full on tantrum ensued. Crying, throwing herself on the floor and generally distraught that I'd had the temerity to offer something so shocking!!

YABU - I am a terrible mother
YANBU - Toddlers are crazzzzzy

Obviously this is very light hearted. Hoping and praying that this is a short term phase and that her twin sister doesn't decide to follow suit

Anyone want to offer a hand hold or offer advice, equally baffling reasons for meltdowns would be appreciated

How I laughed at this thread. My lovely boy is 22. I’d forgotten how crazy and funny and frustrating they can be.

Haha! My 3-year-old DS today sobbed hysterically because he asked to see his birthday cake (that we finished eating last week). We reminded him of this and it was an utter meltdown.

I offered to do more baking with him at the weekend but "NO! I NOT DO BAKING AT WEEKEND." Okay then...

@AlwaysLatte

My son had a tantrum in a shop once because he wanted a surf board. One like this...

God, I love toddlers.

Ds5 gets annoyed when he's sent to his room for being naughty, he starts marching uo the stairs and says look I'm stomping... And does it all the to his bedroom and then slams the door. Its all i can do to hide my laughing

dd wasn't a tantrummer

senchat gets deleted so no-one will be able to advance search, oh no

Nope, nothing to see here, now move along please...

My perfect DD has never really thrown tantrums. Obviously because of her superior language skills.

Instead, she just whinges near-constantly. This morning's whinge was because it's not Christmas today and she really loves Christmas. Surprisingly, me singing "I wish it could be Christmas every da-ay-ay" did not seem to help matters.

DD then 4 had a meltdown after I had put cold water in her bath to cool it down, because the water was wobbly!

My toddler was kicking her shoes off but was struggling so I unvelcroed the strap so she could and she had a massive tantrum. I then instantly put the strap back on where she screamed and cried again for an hour.

We have multiple huge tantrums a day. I'm hoping she's over this stage shortly

If my 3yo had access to AIBU

i have just remembered an interesting fact: bananas can bounce about three feet high and travel about 6 feet if launched with enough force.

I have two children now well past toddlers years
BUT GOD THEY LVE SLAMMING A DOOR

All our doors are now fucked and don't close properly

In my family we have a saying you not as good as...... which is my sister as we watch them carefully as they trantrum and calm down. My sister trantrums were epic for such things as the wrong colour cup , her socks not pulled up to the right level or the turned over bit on her socks and cuffs not matching to the most mundane thing, No rhyme or reason. If screaming did not get her point through she would lie on the floor and thump her hands and fists on it screaming and in one case when my mum who normally would ignore until she calmed down and could be spoken to she went and thumped the glass front door, My mum pulled her away from that, My mum used appologise to the neighbours who said dont worry we can here what she is trantruming about such as an orange being the wrong colour.
My eldest son trantrumed like mad and the youngest nothing. Eldest who was very endulged by his paternal grandparents when he had a trantrum in Tescos with his grandfather, and realised screaming would not work but being in the beer aisle with said grandparent started to open all the beers cans. Grandparent previous thoguht is was fun to teach him this trick. How I laughrd upon their return as I had been told it was because I did not understand him. In Tescos one day he trantrumed whilst husband and I shopped because he was not allowed to eat the soap we brought offered plenty of fruit as alternative Laid down in the middle of the aisle across it so no one could get through. Husband picked him up marched screming toddler out of shop I finished the shop met at the car with son inside at the hipcupping stage with window open and husband standing outside the car looking at him Husband said I could not stand the noise so stood outside beside him he has come to no harm,Trantruming depends on the child and is par for the course in toddlers . looking back at this from the point of view of over 50years for my sister and 30 year for my son some it is quite funny

My friend’s son (who now drives and all...) used to save his tantrums for the supermarket, and they were EPIC! As my friend and her husband used to both work full-time, shopping was always peak periods and this was before online shopping and deliveries (here in Oz) were exorbitantly expensive. His tantrums involved the sirening wails, streams of snot and eventually lying down in the middle of the aisle with flailing fists and a banging head. Truly, an operatic masterpiece. People used to stand around and clap. (My friend used to stand with her head in her hand and and wait for him to wear himself out - he was a huge kid, and too big to just pick up and hurl into the trolley.) One day her DH was with her for once, so she asked him to take the kid to the car, so she could finish shopping in peace and GTF out of there in under an hour for once. Four year old had very recently been given the talk about child abduction at daycare and started bellowing “HELP! HELP! THIS MAN IS NOT MY FATHER!!!” When his dad picked him up and started walking off. The amassed crowd just laughed (he’s basically a clone, and the conversation had already been witnessed...) and shooed them both out of the shop.

I’d love to say they grow out of it but they don’t. They just evolve into teenage nightmares who can throw a strip of epic proportions if you have the audacity to say good morning or how was your day.

Most recently DD(13) threw a strip because she fancied some crisps and there were no crisps in the house.

There were crisps just not “her” crisps because said wonderful child hasn’t eaten fucking crisps for at least 5 years so I’ve stopped buying that particular brand and flavour.

I was then a monster because I said that neither her nor I would be going to the shops to buy some at 8pm in the blizzard that was currently falling out of the sky and she could bloody well wait a few days as she hadn’t missed them for the last few years.

Didn’t speak to me for 2 days for that one

FFS strop not strip

(Throws autocorrect tantrum)

Oh Jesus I remember those days only too well.

In comparison to angelic dd1, dd2 used to tantrum about everything, literally everything. Even if it was something she wanted, she’d kick off about it just to be contrary, and because she could.

E.g. me: come on DD2, it’s time to go swimming now.

Me: ok fine, let’s not go swimming then (truth be told I’d rather gouge my eyes out with a spoon than go to mum and baby swimming, it was solely for her enjoyment).

Me:

By the time she was 3 the only way I could cope was to take low dose Valium so that it would take the edge of the sheer relentless insanity of her behaviour (lone parent with zero support and zero break from parenting).

They grow out of it...eventually. She’s a delight now

My dd had the mother of all tantrums in Ikea when she was 3, full on laying on the floor kicking - that was 7 years ago and i haven't been back since because to be fair I think everyone in the queue felt the same.

I was THE most perfect parent when I had ds. He rarely tantrummed, was sunny etc.

Then I had dd.
"I want banana "
"Of course, sweet cherub. Anything her ladyship desires. Here you go. "
" No. Want banana. "
"Her e. It's here. Here's your banana. "
becoming shrill.tears but no tears"want....want banana!"
increasingly perplexed now "but, Here's your banana. "
"No No No. Want BANANA!" throws self on floor. Rest of us ignore and step over her

She was a force of nature until school. Even now, she loves a good flounce.

My daughter demanded aged 4 to hold an egg, collected from a friends chicken in the car. Very verbal and articulate. Squeezed egg very hard and it broke and sobbed and cried for 2 whole days as I wouldn’t glue and fix it - it was crushed. Even at one point tried to phone 999 as mummy was being cruel to kill the baby chick etc - how I kept my nerve I don’t know.

My son didn’t speak for 2 whole weeks when it was explained that although he could learn about dinosaurs, paint them, study then etc he could not ‘be’ a dinosaur - in fact the sulk might have lasted longer than 2 weeks and more like a month. Absolute devastation.

All my children have a massive stubborn gene though

What is it about cups? My parents had four plastic cups in different colours. My daughter's and niece always wanted the pink one. So there would be at least two children screaming.
They hid that cup in the end and got four pink ones. Cue tantrum from my youngest because she wanted the proper pink cup.
Also no one except me was allowed to do anything for her. She once had a 20 minute tantrum because her dad had taken her coat off and she wanted me to do it because "daddy doesn't do it proper".

I never had a single tantrum from either of my boys as littles ones, ever.. But my god the problems I had later. It rolls around...

DD15 today had a massive strop because she didn’t like the (perfectly nice) area of town we were walking through. Mind you later on DH and I had a blazing row about a hosepipe so we possibly don’t always set the best examples.....

I do think it's down to your child's personality. I only remember one moment with DS. He wanted to buy a model fire engine, the type adults build from hobbycraft, and it was £60, he was 2 and I had to wrestle the box off of him. He was screaming, legs kicking. I carried him like a surf board straight out of the shop.

DS is quite moody now ( he's 5)!seems to be since starting school, tries to control things. Mum don't let the wind blow on me, I don't want water on me ( in the shower) It's quite hard work, you're walking too fast, now too slow.

DD is a toddler, well she is another level, EVERYTHING is the end of the world dramatic.

@bridgetjones1 my daughter does that as well i have even gotten to the point of looking for them before I go to bed so she has them. Oh mine as well never wants it during the day but when its bed time wants the teddy that makes a noise every time she moves and if you try to move it her grip gets tight 🙉🙈..

My toddler today had a meltdown because I wouldn't keep lifting him up to put stones in the wheelie bin