My friend and ICU doctor

[Hana88]

My friend has been speaking to an old friend of hers, who happens to be a doctor working in ICU at the moment.

He has invited her to his house to stay overnight - I'm sure I don't have to spell out what for.

He lives around two hours away and she's agreed to go.

AIBU to say something?

I know. All the time we wasted clapping.

All the time I wasted being celibate

It feels like some people have lost all sense of perspective or logic.

Many hospital doctors travel miles to get to work, live with a partner who works full time out of the home, have a couple of kids who've been at school throughout, a child from a previous marriage who comes to stay every other weekend, regularly order goods from overseas on Amazon and have a cleaner in once a week. All fine.

A single man having his girlfriend to stay on the weekend? We hear well that's why we're in this mess...idiots!

Someone actually accused the icu doctor of being a "covid denier" really?

I'm sure OP if you had posted this saying you were desperate for a shag and an old friend (no mention of job) who lives 2 hours away and had invited you over for one and posted the question......is it safe to go? Or Shall I go? You'd have probably been condemned by a whole load of people frothing at the mouth telling you you're selfish to even consider it.

It's just how it is on here these days.

Lockdown has made people take their frustrations out on people on the Internet because its less hassle than doing it with the people they're locked in a house with 24/7.

I'm sure OP if you had posted this saying you were desperate for a shag and an old friend (no mention of job) who lives 2 hours away and had invited you over for one and posted the question......is it safe to go? Or Shall I go? You'd have probably been condemned by a whole load of people frothing at the mouth telling you you're selfish to even consider it.

Interesting, and yes, I agree.

MN is a weird place. It seems that people are happy to do their own judging, but despise others for judging their friends. There's quite some mental gymnastics going on.

@SmileyClare

It feels like some people have lost all sense of perspective or logic.

Many hospital doctors travel miles to get to work, live with a partner who works full time out of the home, have a couple of kids who've been at school throughout, a child from a previous marriage who comes to stay every other weekend, regularly order goods from overseas on Amazon and have a cleaner in once a week. All fine.

A single man having his girlfriend to stay on the weekend? We hear well that's why we're in this mess...idiots!

Someone actually accused the icu doctor of being a "covid denier" really?

No.

The reason thats allowed is because there is no real way to stop it . You can't make people throw out their family (although did you see that lots of nurses did indeed move out? I wonder why!!)

This is s choice.

@InsaneLockdowner

I'm sure OP if you had posted this saying you were desperate for a shag and an old friend (no mention of job) who lives 2 hours away and had invited you over for one and posted the question......is it safe to go? Or Shall I go? You'd have probably been condemned by a whole load of people frothing at the mouth telling you you're selfish to even consider it.

It's just how it is on here these days.

Lockdown has made people take their frustrations out on people on the Internet because its less hassle than doing it with the people they're locked in a house with 24/7.

In the hierarchy of MN judginess, does judging an OP for judging a third party for doing something rank higher or lower than judging an OP for doing the same thing themselves?

I think it mainly comes down to if there’s an opportunity to make the OP feel like shit then get in quick!

@fromdownwest

What will these folk do when the 'rules' are relaxed?

No one to spy on, gossip about, or tell tale on a public forum?

They'll go back to complaining about people breathing too noisily in their own garden or something I suppose

I agree; so succinct. So true!

Professor Lockdown-Lover himself, Neil Ferguson, wasn't even charged when he breached the rules to shag his married lover in the middle of an earlier lockdown (I've lost count now).

But yes, lets prevent two single people from getting together!

Two consenting adults... they can make a bubble, doesn’t matter how far away it is. Mind your own business ...

They ANBU if they call the baby “Bubble”