Page 5 | My friend and ICU doctor

Hana88 · 2021-02-18T07:51:52+00:00

My friend has been speaking to an old friend of hers, who happens to be a doctor working in ICU at the moment. He has invited her to his house to stay overnight - I'm sure I don't have to spell out what for. He lives around two hours away and she's agreed to go. AIBU to say something?

VinylDetective · 18/02/2021 10:16

Then people scratch their heads and wonder why rates are still high when we have people seal clapping stuff like this

The rates are falling like a lead balloon. Do you actually read any real news at all?

theleafandnotthetree · 18/02/2021 10:16

@Fascinationends

Better than clapping him I suppose.

TallFriendlyGinger · 18/02/2021 10:17

Maybe advise them of the best positions so as not to stay face to face for too long...

Honestly I wouldn't give a shit, he's most likely been vaccinated and gets tested regularly. If he's been in ICU for the pandemic, he deserves a hookup. None of your business tbh, I understand the concerns but 2 people having a shag isn't as bad as the failings of gov with poorly timed lockdown, lax rules, a failed track and trace system, and all the other woefully ineffective measures they've put in.

thenightsky · 18/02/2021 10:19

@Fascinationends

Better than clapping him I suppose.

Depends on his performance.

TwelvePaws · 18/02/2021 10:19

People are doing what the need to do to get through this.

Yes, even making shit up like this thread to get people frothing. It’s so obviously fake.

MakeMineALarge1 · 18/02/2021 10:20

Really, is this all you have in life to get worked up about?

dreamsofholidays · 18/02/2021 10:22

if he's single and lives alone, then he can absolutely bubble with her. It's definitely allowed to bubble with someone 2 hours away. There is 'guidance' to bubble locally, but its only 'guidance' now law. For lots of people, their only chance of a support bubble is outside their local area, this is why it is only 'guidance'.

Mamanyt · 18/02/2021 10:26

Not your place, other than, "Don't forget the condoms!" What IS your place is to tell your friend that you simply can't see her in person (if you do) until the safety period has passed. There is no way an ICU doctor isn't being exposed daily. And even if he has had his jabs, he could possibly be dragging something home on his clothes. Most doctors are quite careful, but I, myself, would not count on some unknown doctor looking for a hook-up to be that rigorous.

MillieMooBee · 18/02/2021 10:27

Responses on here are so strange. I wouldn't say anything to her as she's an adult and up to her BUT she's very clearly breaking the rules. Leave her to it though.

So surprised that people are saying its ok as its totally different to the usual responses. Didn't realise there was a loop hole in the rules for people who really need sex 😂

Thomasina2021 · 18/02/2021 10:27

Are you actually her friend ?

RootyT00t · 18/02/2021 10:28

@MillieMooBee

Responses on here are so strange. I wouldn't say anything to her as she's an adult and up to her BUT she's very clearly breaking the rules. Leave her to it though.

So surprised that people are saying its ok as its totally different to the usual responses. Didn't realise there was a loop hole in the rules for people who really need sex 😂

Quite

grapewine · 18/02/2021 10:29

@fromdownwest

What will these folk do when the 'rules' are relaxed?

No one to spy on, gossip about, or tell tale on a public forum?

This.

It's frankly a little terrifying how quick people are to quote The Rules.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 18/02/2021 10:38

God, I literally couldn't care about whatever random rule Boris made up on a fag packet in the House of Commons bar she's meant to be breaking.

She should go. I hope they have amazing sex. I hope they have a few hours of joy in the grey world we're currently living in where absolutely everything is against the law except sitting on the sofa writing sanctimonious virtue-signalling shit online about how we're in a global pandemic don't you know and wow you'd never have coped in the war and if you don't like masks you'd hate ventilators. Oh, it is permitted to vary that monotony by twitching your net curtains and policing your friends' and neighbours' behaviour.

Of course YANBU to say something if it's: have an amazing time; make sure you've got condoms.

You don't specify in your OP what it is that you want to say, though, so hard to judge whether YABU or YANBU.

Fozzleyplum · 18/02/2021 10:39

I'm not the Covid police either, but am struggling to reconcile the majority of replies here, with the pasting that is given to rule- breakers on other threads.

Makes a bit of a farce of the "Look them in the eye" public information ads.

InsaneLockdowner · 18/02/2021 10:42

Is thisnsomeone she's met on the Internet cos if so he's probably not a Dr just sone bloke wanting a shag.

2 hours away isn't really bubble permitting

Really baffled at people saying yeah no problem. You're right OP it's against the guidance for sure.

Maybe people are getting mixed up and what they want to say is don't say anything. Regardless if it's breaking the rules or not, it's not your place to say anything.

MillieMooBee · 18/02/2021 10:44

@Fozzleyplum

I'm not the Covid police either, but am struggling to reconcile the majority of replies here, with the pasting that is given to rule- breakers on other threads.

Makes a bit of a farce of the "Look them in the eye" public information ads.

So true about the advert. Makes me roll my eyes every time I watch it. This thread just proves it tbh.

MRex · 18/02/2021 10:44

The OP clearly says this is an "old friend", her implied judgement is leading to others suggesting it's just a shag, it's more likely the start of a relationship. Relationships have to actually start somewhere!

HOkieCOkie · 18/02/2021 10:46

Leave her alone,

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Kamma89 · 18/02/2021 10:49

People love a pile on OP it's not ideal, but you don't know the circumstances & if he is an ICU doctor it's highly likely he's had it already & feels like it's pretty low risk. Most of my ICU friends have had it despite them having the most PPE, the procedures & viral loads are just risky. Don't report them bit it's OK to feel a bit annoyed.

Moonmelodies · 18/02/2021 10:50

Have we established if either the 'friend' or the ICU doctor are married or in other relationships?

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 18/02/2021 10:50

Two hours isn’t local nor is going for a date an essential reason to leave the home.

Bubbles weren’t intended for hook up purposes.

ThatsNotTheTeaHunty · 18/02/2021 10:53

We all know she shouldn't be travelling out of area. Unfortunately, getting the d isn't classed as essential.

theleafandnotthetree · 18/02/2021 10:55

@TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross

God, I literally couldn't care about whatever random rule Boris made up on a fag packet in the House of Commons bar she's meant to be breaking.

She should go. I hope they have amazing sex. I hope they have a few hours of joy in the grey world we're currently living in where absolutely everything is against the law except sitting on the sofa writing sanctimonious virtue-signalling shit online about how we're in a global pandemic don't you know and wow you'd never have coped in the war and if you don't like masks you'd hate ventilators. Oh, it is permitted to vary that monotony by twitching your net curtains and policing your friends' and neighbours' behaviour.

Of course YANBU to say something if it's: have an amazing time; make sure you've got condoms.

You don't specify in your OP what it is that you want to say, though, so hard to judge whether YABU or YANBU.

I'm with you! I hope they rock each others world. And you have relieved a little of the greyness of my world by making me laugh heartily so thank you

SleepingStandingUp · 18/02/2021 10:55

@Hana88 actually I'm with you.

I would def say something but I have the sort of friendships where we call each other out kindly if one of us is being stupid.