My friend and ICU doctor

[Hana88]

My friend has been speaking to an old friend of hers, who happens to be a doctor working in ICU at the moment.

He has invited her to his house to stay overnight - I'm sure I don't have to spell out what for.

He lives around two hours away and she's agreed to go.

AIBU to say something?

Lucky her (in one way!) BUT I think going two hours for sex at the moment is probably breaking the rules.

@Hana88

Okay, maybe IABU

I just thought we were supposed to stay in our local area unless it was essential. I haven't seen my parents for months and they're only in the next town. Maybe that's clouding my judgement.

I won't say anything to her.

You can form a linked household if one person lives alone without any limitations on distance, it's just recommenced to be in the local area (particularly when we were back in the tier system and one area had a much higher infection rate).

I hope he enjoys his "support" bubble

ICU doctors need sex too. Do you honestly believe single people have been going without sex throughout all this!?

My single friends have, yes!

@Hana88

My friend has been speaking to an old friend of hers, who happens to be a doctor working in ICU at the moment.

He has invited her to his house to stay overnight - I'm sure I don't have to spell out what for.

He lives around two hours away and she's agreed to go.

AIBU to say something?

Maybe you could suggest a threesome? Alternatively you could mind your own business.

@GetOffYourHighHorse Nice username. Suits you perfectly. You don’t have to tell me, I’m shielding. I get it! But, I also get that people are fucking lonely, miserable and sinking into awful states of ill mental health. Two consensual adults having a sneaky shag is hardly the crime of the century. Focus your anger on the twats attending massive secret raves, the twats who all went on holiday at Christmas and the fucktards who run this country.

I'm generally for obeying the rules now especially if it's someone you don't know and if you don't know their opinions around masks/Covid19 vaccination etc. I just think why risk it?!

If it is someone you know quite well however and it's just a bit of fun then why not and keep your beak out.

I do question as Blessex says - why she told you? Was it partly, to say that she's getting some action or does she want to test your following of the rules etc or was it just general convo?

I think that was my though pattern - why risk it?

But I understand that people cannot be expected to just not have sex for a year.

Yes, it was just general convo. I knew she'd been in touch with him again - we are generally quite open with each other.

I'll keep my nose out!

ICU doctors need sex too. Do you honestly believe single people have been going without sex throughout all this!? I’m not single and I have, my DP doesn’t live locally and as I am vulnerable we haven’t been seeing each other.

TBH I wouldn’t be worried about the friend giving COVID to the ICU doctor, but the ICU doctor will be in contact with seriously ill COVID patients on a daily basis.

It’s one thing to be in contact with doctors on a more professional basis, e.g. I had to go to the transplant unit yesterday for a review, and the doctor I saw has been working on the front line. But he was there as my cardiologist and not for a shag. There’s a difference...

And the advisory is to stay local for valid reasons. I do actually know people who have traveled further afield for valid reasons e.g. one for her mum when she was at end of life stage, and were stopped by the police. She wasn’t given a hard time, but she was stopped none the less.

My parents came up as my support bubble yesterday to drive me to the hospital, but they had a copy of the appointment letter in case they were stopped. Even though they can be my support that doesn’t mean they’ve been coming here every other week....

I hope everyone on here who's so "go for it girl!" when it comes to people breaking the rules for a shag*, are as acommodating about everyone else who breaks the rules. Like the grandparents who haven't been able to see or hold their grandchildren for the best part of the year?

Like I said, I'm absolutely not covid police, but I'm stunned at the general tone of this thread, given the grief people breaking the rules for any other reason, get on this site. I don't understand it at all.

*Does anyone really believe this guy isn't bubbled with any other friends or family?

Goodness me.

You’d have bloody thrived in soviet Russia during Stalin’s great purge.

Whatever.

How about good luck. Don't do anything I would not do.... which if it were me would be a pretty broad spectrum to aim at under the current circumstances. Both single people, both stressful jobs? Sounds highly therapeutic to me. Indeed, just what the doctor ordered...

The Dr will have had both vaccinations so there's v little risk really

I hope everyone on here who's so "go for it girl!" when it comes to people breaking the rules for a shag, are as accommodating about everyone else who breaks the rules*

@saraclara yes, I agree with you. And I hope they won't mind if they catch COVID because some people felt that they were special and the rules didn't apply to them

@notanothertakeaway

I hope everyone on here who's so "go for it girl!" when it comes to people breaking the rules for a shag, are as accommodating about everyone else who breaks the rules*

@saraclara yes, I agree with you. And I hope they won't mind if they catch COVID because some people felt that they were special and the rules didn't apply to them

But if he's living alone he's not breaking any rules?

OP we need more details!

OP, I am glad you have decided that YABU.

A shag is definitely essential.

It's interesting to see how the MN Collective has changed views. Last March, I was pretty much the only one saying what most people are saying on here (indeed, I had posts deleted for saying precisely that).

It's something of a relief, and makes me hope this lockdown lunacy is on its way out.

@Fascinationends

Better than clapping him I suppose.

cracked me up with this comment

@Hana88 You sound jealous.

HTH.

Say nothing. It's not your business, I think YABU.

@nostaples

The Dr will have had both vaccinations so there's v little risk really

There's no evidence that the vaccinations prevent people carrying or spreading the virus.

'Goodness me. You’d have bloody thrived in soviet Russia during Stalin’s great purge.'

'Goodness me'. Wtf. .

Erm it's nothing like Salin's great purge, nor the nazis, nor any other hyperbolic crap flouters whine on about.

To visit someone 2 hours away, no matter how very excited some of you are at the thought of a stranger getting a shag is, is not essential.

It could spread the virus y'see. Making restrictions last longer, therefore prolonging the very thing we all want to end.

Maybe the ICU doc is looking after his mental health?
Stress relief and all that?

I can't believe it would even cross your mind to say something. Glad you've seen the light. If he is alone, he can join her in a bubble anyway.

But if the ICU doctor lives alone, he is allowed to form a support bubble with one other under the rules? I'm not aware of any rule specifying that people must only have sex with those who live locally to them, or that NHS doctors are not allowed to have sex.

Why are you making up rules that don't exist? How on earth do you think the state could enforce rules that people can only have sex with those who live within a certain distance of them, or who do certain jobs?

Sort of like "You can only shag plumbers and electricians who live in the same town as you, but not musicians or shop workers who live 30
miles away"