To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

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Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think it depends on the post tbh . One of my dearest friends always posted a pic of them together but not gushingly so . Today she visited her husband’s grave instead . She is thankful for all the time hops which are appearing on her Facebook .
Life is too short to be annoyed by other people’s actions . Learn to scroll past it all .

The wife of one of my colleagues has posted today, photos of her presents and how lucky she is & how much she loves and adores her amazing husband.

She hasn't spoken to him for 3 days following a minor disagreement 🙄 That just sums up the falseness of Social Media

The Heidi Plum and Seal mentally!

It's for validation only, imo

It's all cringe. I hate valentine's. Absolute tripe.
Fyi I'm happily married.

Better than seeing negative. Especially during this shitty lockdown time.

Why should people hide celebrating love anyway? People talk about & post up photos of everything else on social media after all. No rule that Valentine's/love is something to be ashamed of. Why even bother to be angsty about it anyway? You could just as well have been upset about visible Valentine's Day celebrations privately.

The joys of not having social media!

We don't even do Valentines' Day! I'm not convinced we've bothered after the first couple of years we were together.

I'm not arsed about Facebook though.

I cringe at all the waste
Christmas is a landfill nightmare, Easter has been hijacked and is going the same way and now valentines
I know 2 families who have posted FB statuses of presents, balloons, plastic crap and cards for kids and adults
How much crap can we take and is it worth wrecking the planet for?
I much preferred it when it was a teen/young adult sending to someone you fancied thing

YANBU.

I don’t assume the people who do it are in unhappy relationships. But it is just so cringe.

I’m in my late 40s by way of context, and while pretty much all my friends are on SM, none of my good friends posted silly Valentine’s posts - clearly (thankfully) we are all very like-minded!

Thinking back - just one old school friend shared the card her DH gave her. I do think it’s odd to wish your own DH a happy Valentine’s Day on FB when he’s sitting right next to you.

It feels very needy to me. It’s between you and your partner.

Or maybe you don't understand the point, since you cut out the context.

The point is you don't like some posters opinion on this thread.

There seem to be so many people who think their way of using SM is exactly right and everyone who treats it differently is wrong.

I don't like bragging, boasting & fake ness in RL or SM. I'm entitled to that opinion just as you are entitled to think it's ok.

I find it exhausting but I've never celebrated it. All the photos of boxed cards and presents. No one, least of all me is interested.

The most successful couple I know often forget how long they've been married. Another one banging on about his gorgeous girlfriend got in touch with me again recently ...

It must be hard being so old and bitter. After this past year do you really begrudge people this?

I never understand these fb threads on here.

Competitive bitching about so called friends.

It’s cringey. And no, I don’t post gushing stuff or hospital check-ins which is another thing that sends MN into bitching frenzies.

But I do have friends and relatives who post that stuff. It’s nice to see them happy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Surely an improvement on all the whingers on here posting that they don't like the card/present/gift/it would have been OK if it had been posted?

There seem to be so many people who think their way of using SM is exactly right and everyone who treats it differently is wrong.

Totally agree with this. There's this weird and very puritanical set of rules developing about what is acceptable FB/Insta usage and what is in "bad taste". All of which is basically arbitrary and when you unpick it its usually down to "stuff I do and stuff I don't do". It's the new morality.

See forexample

• Women over 40s posting selfies (the horror)
• People using filters
• People posting pictures of their kids
• People posting pictures of themselves or their family members in hospital
• Couples playing out arguments or affection over SM

There is nothing intrinsically wrong about any of this and most of it is thinly veiled snobbery or misogyny and basically ever-more sophisticated ways to keep women in particular and people in general in their boxes.

Being a savvy user of SM (minimal, full of stealth boasts, tasteful) is now a status symbol. It's all a bit ridiculous really.

seems like people cant do anything today without pushing out on Fatbook & other social rubbish,could never understand why they tell so many people, who is interested,? not me.If you truly love someone,thats it,10,000 others do not need to know,what is the interest? ahhh there it is,the stupid likes meter

FB wouldn’t exist it no one bothered. It’s not for me but I quite like seeing people happy and some of the younger ones particularly. Reminds me of what being in love once felt like!

It drives me nuts. Then there are all the posts about “making single people feel guilty” or “at least I’m not with my ex” anti-love posts.
Seriously, why can’t we all just keep our own business in our own homes, share things for family and friends and keep our personal business personal??

I think take joy where you can find it. Especially this year!
I put up 3 pics of our little tea party this afternoon with our little girl. I couldn’t care less if someone thinks that means our marriage isn’t strong - we are happy, we had a nice day, that’s all I care about ☺️

I have no problems with people posting Valentine’s messages, pics of gifts etc.

But have noticed that people seem to think they have to post every detail of their life on social media for it to matter. No one is really that interested.

I think it’s quite cute, especially at the moment when 90% of life is gloomy and shit at the moment! I don’t post much about my relationship on Facebook etc but I do like seeing when others post something sweet.

With you completely OP. It’s so cringey. Who gives a shit! It definitely tends to be those who are insecure about their relationships or having issue with their DP, who post this guff.
Been with DP for years now, still madly in love and spent most of yesterday having a “good time”. Don’t think posting that would have gone down well on SM.

Totally agree with this. There's this weird and very puritanical set of rules developing about what is acceptable FB/Insta usage and what is in "bad taste". All of which is basically arbitrary and when you unpick it its usually down to "stuff I do and stuff I don't do". It's the new morality.

I completely disagree & as someone who works with teens & online safety it's clear SM can be incredibly negative.

Sorry my first sentence didn’t make sense my brain is slightly tired.

Although that's a different thread but its wrong to say a negative view of SM behaviour is simply coming from a moral stance.