To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

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Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

@wowier

I can see the logic in nasty, mean-spirited, moralistic and superior posts on Mumsnet cackling about how miserable all these people must be.

Obviously a fan of this behaviour then.
As others say you don't have to read the thread if you don't like it.
Live & let live!

God, the irony.

Or maybe you don't understand the point, since you cut out the context.

I don't use Facebook but a friend was moaning about gushing valentines posts to people's children earlier. Wtf?

Well my Valentines Day has been spent on the couch wrapped in a blanket trying not to puke as I stupidly thought I could have two teeny glasses of Prosecco last night (first alcohol) this year, my body has reacted very badly. My lovely DH has hoovered the entire upstairs, cleaned the bathrooms (they so needed it), and is making dinner allowing me to wallow in peace. That to me is a Valentine

We decided our first year together that we wouldn’t be dictated to when to celebrate as it’s our Anniversary next month we have never done anything for Valentines Day and always done something nice the month after, fingers crossed this year we might actually be allowed to do something.

I get the couples doing it (annoying as it is) but most people I know with children have now decided to start bestowing over the top balloon arrangements and Valentines cards, gifts and baked goods on them to post all over Facebook.

I can’t stand the over the top spoiling for every little occasion. First it started with 2 full sofas full of Christmas presents, that then went to half the livingroom being full at birthdays and then adding in couches full of stuff at Easter also. I got a couple of eggs at Easter and £5 from my Granny, kids these days are getting 20 eggs, 5 new outfits, computer games, wads of cash etc. Balloons and gifts for going back to school...what? Now Valentine’s has been added to the list of days in the year to spoil your sprogs in an effort to outdo your Facebook buddies.

Don’t understand how people can afford it.

Meh...

I personally think Valentines Day is a crock of shite... I thibk the idea of celebrating “love” in such and arbitrary and artificial way on a particular day just puts unnecessary pressure on people to do something fundamentally fake. I also think most of the merchandise associated with it (the cards, flowers etc) are breathtakingly vulgar.

That said I don’t think you can really be surprised that people who use SM post about it. It’s intrinsically no different from posting about birthdays etc.

Especially from those who began with relationships with other people whilst they were still married and now act like the cat that got the cream all over social media. In actual fact all that they’ve ended up with is a partner who’s had numerous previous affairs, who they’ll never be able to trust. Keep trumpeting enough and they might just start to believe it though. I should just unfollow her really, it’s really annoying me 🙄

Personally we make a fuss of our wedding anniversary rather than Valentine’s Day, as it means something to us.

I’ve a fault quite enjoyed seeing everyone’s happy posts today!

Every year we find the ugliest picture we possibly can find of eachother and post that and tag eachother with a happy Valentine’s Day.

@sweetkitty

Well my Valentines Day has been spent on the couch wrapped in a blanket trying not to puke as I stupidly thought I could have two teeny glasses of Prosecco last night (first alcohol) this year, my body has reacted very badly. My lovely DH has hoovered the entire upstairs, cleaned the bathrooms (they so needed it), and is making dinner allowing me to wallow in peace. That to me is a Valentine

We decided our first year together that we wouldn’t be dictated to when to celebrate as it’s our Anniversary next month we have never done anything for Valentines Day and always done something nice the month after, fingers crossed this year we might actually be allowed to do something.

Now that is true love. He’s a keeper. Hope you’re feeling better 💐

I think people just want to make sure the world know how perfect their life is even if it isn't. I think celebrations like this should be between the couple not plastered all over SM.

Sometimes (not always) the ott gushy couples on fb are the most unhappiest and most insecure. I’ve been with dp 10 years I don’t feel the need to post numerous valentines posts.

I have one friend who’s updated her status about her and her fellas valentines about 10 times already today with photos of everything. People can post what they want but I really don’t give a shite 😅

Do yourself a favour and come off Facebook ! It’s just boast book and has had its time . The people really living life don’t need to show they are to everyone

I just don't see why it matters. I don't celebrate Valentine's Day at all and so obviously don't post anything on SM about it. However, I do post Happy Birthday messages to my family, although they're really just an excuse to show off my (very average) birthday cakes.

Valentine's Day, Mothering Sunday, birthdays, Christmas - what's the difference? They're all just a good excuse to celebrate something. I can't see why one is 'allowed' on SM but an other isn't.

As for the 'they can't have a good relationship if they feel they have to plaster on SM' type comments - if I was to put a 'Happy Mother's Day to my lovely mum' post on, does that actually mean that we don't have a good relationship? Ridiculous reasoning.

It’s the modern day equivalent of placing birthday,anniversary, memorial etc announcements in the local paper. My grandfather used to comment “don’t these people talk to each other or send each other cards?” They’ve always been around, social media makes it so much easier for them.

My friends do care and couldn't be happier for us. All of them have commented on our posts today.
I get for people who are single it might be difficult seeing how happy we are but we can't censor everything and if things are getting to you like that, maybe you need to come off social media and look and see how you can make your life as happy as the ones you are looking at.

As far as I'm concerned it's just showing off; "I'm much happier than you are".

I'm with you OP, it makes me cringe, particularly when the two people are in the same house. The post isn't there for each other, it's so everyone else can see it.

Although a friend and I have been WhatsApping the worst of these today to each other, so it's given us a laugh if nothing else.

That said I don’t think you can really be surprised that people who use SM post about it. It’s intrinsically no different from posting about birthdays etc.

Exactly.

There seem to be so many people who think their way of using SM is exactly right and everyone who treats it differently is wrong.

As for the smug "the only people who do it are in miserable relationships", oh that's just mean spirited bollocks. Of course some of them will be, plenty are just fine and plenty of relationships that aren't being played out on social media are falling apart. It's not a test or proof of anything, it doesn't make anyone or their relationship any lesser, and one has to wonder why so many people want to believe otherwise.

Usually the couples who pose a million photos and declare their undying love for each other are the ones who are unhappy, bored or shagging someone else.

Interestingly, (for me at least) it was my wedding anniversary recently and I posted on facebook. (Not a soppy lovey dovey post, more a ‘I cant believe its been so many years’ comment) Lots of friends commented. My DH made a comment to me about the post, saying I’d posted a nice photo. I asked him why he hadn’t commented on or liked the post. he quite rightly said that why would he need to do that as he was lying in bed right next to me looking at the post. 🤣
I think he was right -

MsVestibule is right. I loathe Valentines day but there’s no rational reason why it should be acceptable for people to post Happy Xmas to each other but not Happy Valentines Day.

I like seeing it, especially the new couples. We’ve been married forever and I got the token flowers, wine, chocolates and picked him up a card and his favourite sweets and then we went off on a romantic half marathon together haha safe to say we aren’t insta worthy but I love seeing all the glammed up posts of people who are still in that stage and have gone to extreme levels of effort. Although as you say, probably more for the gram than each other but that seems quite usual these days.

Yes, it's often over-compensation. Nobody wants to see couples' excessive messages of love on FB. It's putting on a show. People who are happy and not trying to prove something to the world don't do that.

MsVestibule that depends on whether you are seeing your mum on Mother’s Day assuming you don’t live with her. Sending her a personal message when she’s sat next to you is a bit odd. Posting photos of the meal you cook her with the flowers and card you’ve bought her is overkill. We assume that since she’s your mum you’ll be sending her a card and pressie, however, we don’t really need confirmation.

I cringe at folk thinking they’re above things. Looking down their noses at others for sharing perfectly harmless stuff on their own page. I never put anything gushing but each to their own. I don’t mind seeing people happy. Having a little joy in life.

@Username12353784

Sometimes (not always) the ott gushy couples on fb are the most unhappiest and most insecure. I’ve been with dp 10 years I don’t feel the need to post numerous valentines posts.

I have one friend who’s updated her status about her and her fellas valentines about 10 times already today with photos of everything. People can post what they want but I really don’t give a shite 😅

I wonder how that ties in with large weddings and then the need to constantly share the photos months and years later.