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To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

545 replies

Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 12:53

Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

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OhCaptain · 15/02/2021 17:10

@AnotherKrampus

DH and I scoff at the OTT gushy kind of V-Day posts and tend to run bets whose relationship is on the way out, as it usually is in diametrically opposition to the number of ridiculous celebrations, overcompensating for the rest of the year. I am bemused by the number of women with their snout out of joint over lack of effort too, it’s Princess on the Pea territory. That said close to the date, we started getting each other something daft to make each other laugh that we however liked but we don’t share it on SM. I kept joking to DH that rather than some red roses, I would love something deliciously edible. I squealed in delight when he got me bouquet of cheeses. Guess I am easily pleased Grin
How shit does your relationship have to be to get your kicks out of sitting there being that concerned about other people’s? Hmm
Hubblebubble75 · 15/02/2021 17:13

@LouJ85 fair enough . most people’s aren’t like that though. No one has 200- 300 friends and that’s what mine and all of the fbk people had that I knew.

brownet · 15/02/2021 17:16

If you haven't personally said that - great.

Yes hence why it's not relevant to me.

brownet · 15/02/2021 17:21

@GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom take a seat, maybe a selfie (if it will calm you down) & relax.

Post what you like, but you can't control what people think about those posts.

LouJ85 · 15/02/2021 17:22

@brownet

If you haven't personally said that - great.

Yes hence why it's not relevant to me.

👍🏻
Five67Eight · 15/02/2021 17:23

@AnotherKrampus

DH and I scoff at the OTT gushy kind of V-Day posts and tend to run bets whose relationship is on the way out, as it usually is in diametrically opposition to the number of ridiculous celebrations, overcompensating for the rest of the year. I am bemused by the number of women with their snout out of joint over lack of effort too, it’s Princess on the Pea territory. That said close to the date, we started getting each other something daft to make each other laugh that we however liked but we don’t share it on SM. I kept joking to DH that rather than some red roses, I would love something deliciously edible. I squealed in delight when he got me bouquet of cheeses. Guess I am easily pleased Grin
Hmm, I don’t think the OP is BU, but this post really doesn’t make you come across all that well. Or any different to the people you’re scoffing.
brownet · 15/02/2021 17:25

How shit does your relationship have to be to get your kicks out of sitting there being that concerned about other people’s?

Why do you care about @AnotherKrampus opinion so much? You're not going to change her mind.

OhCaptain · 15/02/2021 17:41

@brownet

How shit does your relationship have to be to get your kicks out of sitting there being that concerned about other people’s?

Why do you care about @AnotherKrampus opinion so much? You're not going to change her mind.

Why do you care about mine? Smile
U2HasTheEdge · 15/02/2021 17:43

@AnotherKrampus

DH and I scoff at the OTT gushy kind of V-Day posts and tend to run bets whose relationship is on the way out, as it usually is in diametrically opposition to the number of ridiculous celebrations, overcompensating for the rest of the year. I am bemused by the number of women with their snout out of joint over lack of effort too, it’s Princess on the Pea territory. That said close to the date, we started getting each other something daft to make each other laugh that we however liked but we don’t share it on SM. I kept joking to DH that rather than some red roses, I would love something deliciously edible. I squealed in delight when he got me bouquet of cheeses. Guess I am easily pleased Grin
What kind of people get enjoyment out of the thought of people's relationships ending and turning it into a game? Interesting that you have strong feelings about people making a fuss on VD and posting on SM, but then go on to tell us how you celebrate the day.

Just add people on FB who you actually like and this kind of thing won't annoy you so much.

GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 15/02/2021 18:07

[quote brownet]@GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom take a seat, maybe a selfie (if it will calm you down) & relax.

Post what you like, but you can't control what people think about those posts. [/quote]
I think this is the third time you've done the "why u so angry" non rebuttal, because you can't actually counter anything that's been said. Don't you get bored?

I get this a lot, to be fair. I'm afraid I'm not angry, or seething, or incandescent. I'm just very sarcastic and I type quickly.

Obviously I know I'm not going to change the minds of those who need to believe that anyone who makes a VD post must be wallowing in heartbreak in reality (you lovely people), or that they're morally suspect or otherwise inferior. I'm just showing up the idiocy of the claim for those who are watching.

brownet · 15/02/2021 18:11

Don't you get bored?

Don't you?

brownet · 15/02/2021 18:15

because you can't actually counter anything that's been said.

You've not countered anything I've said.

Come on, you've got to give me something to work with. You can't just keep criticising others for doing the same thing as you because you have a different point of view.

I'm just showing up the idiocy of the claim for those who are watching.

See, they would say you were an idiot for thinking otherwise.

GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 15/02/2021 18:16

@brownet

Don't you get bored?

Don't you?

Of course. Why do you think I've ignored most of your posts?
brownet · 15/02/2021 18:17

Why do you care about mine?

Because I don't understand it.
It doesn't make sense to get annoyed at someone for judging a relationship by judging their relationship

brownet · 15/02/2021 18:19

Why do you think I've ignored most of your posts?

Except you haven't. 🤦🏻‍♀️😆

londonrach · 15/02/2021 18:22

In my experience..those that post are struggling alot. Ive had two friends post such posts and both I know are on verge of breakup. Hoping they don't. My dh and I cards only and then he cooked and he normally very good cooking but we lockdown exhausted and he burnt it. Such is life. Home schooling more a stress than one dinner.. been together over 20 years... not important i know he loves me as he shows it daily by silly things like emptied the vacuum cleaner, using the vacuum cleaner, and 100 other random things

GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 15/02/2021 18:24

I put it to the floor that slushy VD posts are worth it purely because for the experience of watching brownet flapping around in delusion and variations of "y u angry" and "lol no", even while claiming she couldn't care less about the whole thing. This is amazing.

brownet · 15/02/2021 18:28

Thank you for proving my point about not addressing my points & displaying the superiority you accuse others of.

Mrbob · 15/02/2021 18:33

@MiaMarshmallows

My friends do care and couldn't be happier for us. All of them have commented on our posts today. I get for people who are single it might be difficult seeing how happy we are but we can't censor everything and if things are getting to you like that, maybe you need to come off social media and look and see how you can make your life as happy as the ones you are looking at.
Yeah I’m single and extremely happy and I don’t feel the need to GO ON about it on social media any day.
brownet · 15/02/2021 18:35

I put it to the floor that threads cringing at slushy VD posts are worth it purely for the experience of watching @GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom flapping around in delusion and variations of "we are happy" and "it's spiteful", even while claiming she couldn't care less about the whole thing. This is amazing.

See, this is what I mean.

Anyway you're dismissed now as Im bored & hungry but I expect you're also used to that in RL too hence the desperate need for SM validation 😜

AnotherKrampus · 15/02/2021 18:43

Wanna have a hand with untwisting your knickers…? When people post preposterous, boastful stuff about their V-Day bounty, then it’s fair game to snigger, especially when you know things aren’t rosy at all. There is a massive difference between some lovely, non-materialistic affirmations of love and the kind of competitive, stealth-boasting about receiving a mountain of heart-shaped tat and tacky unicorns.

Brefugee · 15/02/2021 19:43

Real friends are in your phone contact list , send a picture there or better set up a shared album. Facebook ‘friends’ from work or primary school, or people you don’t speak to year after year aren’t friends.

nope. My phone contact list is basically people i work with . FB friends and family. Twitter is... well, twitter. Instagram is following accounts who post pretty pictures.

Your SM sounds dire

LouJ85 · 15/02/2021 20:50

@Brefugee

Real friends are in your phone contact list , send a picture there or better set up a shared album. Facebook ‘friends’ from work or primary school, or people you don’t speak to year after year aren’t friends.

nope. My phone contact list is basically people i work with . FB friends and family. Twitter is... well, twitter. Instagram is following accounts who post pretty pictures.

Your SM sounds dire

I love these sweeping generalisations that assume everyone uses SM in the same way. "Real friends are in your phone contacts" Hmmhow do you know?! Honestly just let people use their phones, SM accounts, and any other means of social connection they want to, in whatever they want to. If you don't like what you see on your SM account you do have the option of either not having one, or unfollowing people. Why some people feel the need to bring others down who are just getting on with their lives is beyond me.

PeachPiePip · 15/02/2021 20:54

One of my best friends does this. Photos and hearts about her marriage all over Facebook for any special occasion. Lovely...except we spend a lot of time discussing how she dislikes her husband and she can’t leave cos she gave up work 12 years ago (for no good reason), she now has a DC who has started junior school and no way to support herself. It’s tiresome 🤦🏼‍♀️

DdraigGoch · 16/02/2021 00:05

[quote Chailatteplease]@Sheleg speak for yourself, I like to see it! Probably because I care about my friends happiness, makes me smile to see them doing well in any area of life. Relationships included.[/quote]
You do realise that social media in no way resembles real life, don't you?