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Am I being incredibly ungrateful.

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Notsureaboutmuch · 14/02/2021 10:55

I’d arranged a special valentines meal which was delivered yesterday from a local restaurant for us to celebrate Valentine’s Day. When we were in the kitchen prepping, DH stated that he’d completely forgotten about Valentine’s Day, fair enough not worth getting upset by.
However today, he presented me a gift wrapped up using the love heart serviettes from the restaurant and the gift tag from the box and it’s a bloody Easter egg! He tried claiming it was a valentines egg and not an Easter egg. I’d said it was clear he’d bought it for Easter as by his own admission yesterday he’d forgotten it was Valentine’s Day. There was no card which to me adds to my suspicions. I’m more pissed off by him lying to me and trying to backtrack than the gift with zero thought. Aibu to be disappointed by any of it?

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Merryoldgoat · 14/02/2021 10:59

Sorry - I think you’re being unreasonable.

I like Valentine’s Day and we usually do something small but this year all bets are off.

He says yesterday that he’d forgot and you were fine so he tried to just do something nice.

If you’d agreed proper gifts and he’d not bothered I’d have a different answer.

TwirpingBird · 14/02/2021 11:00

You are being a little unreasonable. He clearly felt bad and tried to do what he could with no time. Its better than him not bothering at all after he realised he forgot.

Hankunamatata · 14/02/2021 11:01

He says he forgot. You knew he forgot. So he whipped up a daft wee gift. I'd be laughing and smiling- it's quite funny

roarfeckingroarr · 14/02/2021 11:02

I think he's been rather sweet and inventive, trying to rectify forgetting.

EarringsandLipstick · 14/02/2021 11:03

YABU💯

He told you he forgot. This is jokey gift.

Also, why on earth do people even get exercised by Valentine's Day? It means nothing in a relationship.

cameocat · 14/02/2021 11:04

I think that's quite funny. You've had a meal together what's the problem?

Bluntness100 · 14/02/2021 11:05

Bloody hell. How precious can you get? I think that’s incredibly sweet of him. What’s wrong with you that you’d behave like this?

Original poster
Notsureaboutmuch · 14/02/2021 11:05

@cameocat

I think that's quite funny. You've had a meal together what's the problem?
The backtracking and the lying.
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TidyDancer · 14/02/2021 11:06

Yeah YABU imo. He didn't try to hide that he forgot, this was a silly jokey present to lighten the mood I'm guessing. I think you need to chill out on this one. Not sure what you're suspicious about since he told the truth about forgetting!

avocadospringseternal · 14/02/2021 11:07

I think you might be overreacting.

Daisy95 · 14/02/2021 11:07

I’d find this really funny, kind of thing my husband would do all the time 😂

digthroughtheditches · 14/02/2021 11:07

It's a nice gesture he's trying to make up for forgetting.

Meowchickameowmeow · 14/02/2021 11:08

Mountain, molehill etc...

Propercrimboselecta · 14/02/2021 11:08

Yes you are being very unreasonable. Backtracking and lying? He gave you an easter egg for Valentine's Day. Don't be so daft.

Same4Walls · 14/02/2021 11:08

It sounds like he made a lovely jokey gesture and you're now accusing him of being a liar and backtracking. I bet he wishes he'd never bothered.

Oneearringlost · 14/02/2021 11:09

Oh, dear, you're taking this far too seriously.

WeeDangerousSpike · 14/02/2021 11:09

I think that's lovely. Not that he forgot, obviously, but he told you he forgot, and instead of shrugging his shoulders and thinking that's the end of it he's found something to give you (does it really matter what shape the chocolate is? It's still chocolate?!) and made it pretty and tried to be a bit funny to make you laugh.

Brefugee · 14/02/2021 11:11

he told you he forgot. Then he improvised because he obviously realised you place importance on this (what did you get him?) and then "lied" (bluffed is more realistic) about an easter egg?

YABVU

WeeDangerousSpike · 14/02/2021 11:12

What backtracking and lying?! He told you he forgot, then gave you a joke gift to make you smile and also to make up for no proper gift.
He wasn't 'lying' no one would seriously say something is a 'valentines egg'! It was a joke!

ZaraW · 14/02/2021 11:13

I have no interest in Valentine's day it wouldn't bother me. I'd find it funny.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 14/02/2021 11:13

The backtracking and the lying.

Oh stop with this kind of bullshit over a bloody Easter egg. He cocked up something really minuscule, he tried to put it right and cheer you up.

"Backtracking and lying" my arse.

Save that shit for something serious.

Scarby9 · 14/02/2021 11:13

No backtracking. No lying.
He was honest with you that he forgot.
He has 'made' you a gift that is blatantly not a pre-planned Valentine's gift - all credit to him for inventiveness.

MumW · 14/02/2021 11:14

Where is he lying? He admitted he'd forgotten. He made a gesture with what was available to make amends.
I think it was a thoughtful thing to do. YABVU

Pipandmum · 14/02/2021 11:14

I think it's cute! At least he tried!

CallforHecate · 14/02/2021 11:14

Tell him you expect your Valentines present at Easter. Then it works out net-net evens.

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