Am I being incredibly ungrateful.

[Notsureaboutmuch]

I’d arranged a special valentines meal which was delivered yesterday from a local restaurant for us to celebrate Valentine’s Day. When we were in the kitchen prepping, DH stated that he’d completely forgotten about Valentine’s Day, fair enough not worth getting upset by.
However today, he presented me a gift wrapped up using the love heart serviettes from the restaurant and the gift tag from the box and it’s a bloody Easter egg! He tried claiming it was a valentines egg and not an Easter egg. I’d said it was clear he’d bought it for Easter as by his own admission yesterday he’d forgotten it was Valentine’s Day. There was no card which to me adds to my suspicions. I’m more pissed off by him lying to me and trying to backtrack than the gift with zero thought. Aibu to be disappointed by any of it?

So if it was the same chocolate in a heart shape rather than an egg shape I assume that would be OK? Can you not see how bonkers that is?

You're being wildly unreasonable OP. He admitted he forgot and then tried to make an effort with what was to hand, rather than give you nothing at all. I think that's quite sweet to be honest.

If you consider that to be 'lying and backtracking' then I think there are bigger issues at play here than the lack of a 'proper' valentines gift

It's obvious it's an Easter egg (which suggests he has been very thoughtful in advance of Easter) - he's not 'lying' it's a Valentine's egg, because he told the truth already that he forgot it was Valentine's Day.

He was making a joke, that many people would have found funny.

Lockdown may be getting to you, OP. He made what effort he could.

Same4Walls

It sounds like he made a lovely jokey gesture and you're now accusing him of being a liar and backtracking. I bet he wishes he'd never bothered.“

This.
It’s all a load of made up nonsense anyway. If you love someone, be nice to them all the time.

Yabu. Don't be such a baby.

YABU. He admitted he’d forgotten – you were okay with this. He then tried to find something to give you, and you’re pissed off because it’s an Easter Egg… I’m sure he was fully aware that you would know it wasn’t a ‘Valentine egg’: I think he was trying to give you a little gift. And rather than just give it to you, he tried to wrap it in something. You sound like hard work.

@WeeDangerousSpike

So if it was the same chocolate in a heart shape rather than an egg shape I assume that would be OK? Can you not see how bonkers that is?

Exactly it's bloody madness. I'd be cross of a child was acting this unreasonably about a gift let alone an adult!

Are you always such hard work? Give him a hug and apologise

Get over yourself , I think it’s sweet - mine is lying snoring in bed hungover , think yourself lucky !

Lolling at valentines egg 😂 YABVU sorry

‘Backtracking and lying’? Christ, the drama of it all.

He probably nipped to the local shop this morning hoping they’d have some heart-shaped chocolates left. They’d already put out the Easter eggs, so he got the next best thing. Most people would just laugh and say ‘Valentine’s egg? Pull the other one’, then eat the thing.

Better than the nothing I got ! Make a brew and eat your egg

You are so entitled. He forgot then made an effort. What does it matter? Valentine’s Day is just a marketing push. I hope you got him something nice.

YABVU, I’ll take the egg if you don’t want it though!

@Same4Walls

It sounds like he made a lovely jokey gesture and you're now accusing him of being a liar and backtracking. I bet he wishes he'd never bothered.

^ This.

YABVU, precious and high maintenance.

If my DP did this I would think it was the best thing ever. But then again, I have a sense of humour.

Christ, dramatic!

It's a jokey present cos he forgot - how is that so awful? It's sweet. Wonder how you'd react if he forgot to take the bin out or something.

Were you actually more pissed off that he forgot than you are admitting?

Yeah yabu. Have you actually fallen out over this?

@Hankunamatata

He says he forgot. You knew he forgot. So he whipped up a daft wee gift. I'd be laughing and smiling- it's quite funny

Exactly this

Gaslighting?

Maybe he won’t bother again in future.

I’d be disappointed if a child reacted that way let alone an adult.

😂😂
I think that’s pretty resourceful to be honest

OMG you are seriously hard work! Backtracking and lying?! I think what he did was a naff way of being sweet! Get over yourself!

Backtracking and lying regarding a choccy egg. That'll look damning on divorce papers.

Going against the grain. Has it been done in a jokey way?
Or is he trying to now pretend he didn't forget and this is your planned present? And hence gaslighting you that what he said before isn't the way it is?

I don't get how it is 'sweet'. To be honest, although on MN we should not celebrate any special day once you are an adult, it isn't much to ask to make an effort and get a card for your significant other.

I don't get how he can forget to do something and then because he now makes a tiny bit of effort it is all okay?

It may be a silly made up day but it is okay to want to join in with made up days. They just add a little light to the drudgery we are all facing.

Why do you need declarations of live on one day of the year?

It should be the little things day in and day out that matter.
As my dh says, it's only women who make a fuss about Valentine's day, men couldn't give two hoots.