Am I being incredibly ungrateful.

[Notsureaboutmuch]

I’d arranged a special valentines meal which was delivered yesterday from a local restaurant for us to celebrate Valentine’s Day. When we were in the kitchen prepping, DH stated that he’d completely forgotten about Valentine’s Day, fair enough not worth getting upset by.
However today, he presented me a gift wrapped up using the love heart serviettes from the restaurant and the gift tag from the box and it’s a bloody Easter egg! He tried claiming it was a valentines egg and not an Easter egg. I’d said it was clear he’d bought it for Easter as by his own admission yesterday he’d forgotten it was Valentine’s Day. There was no card which to me adds to my suspicions. I’m more pissed off by him lying to me and trying to backtrack than the gift with zero thought. Aibu to be disappointed by any of it?

My God, what an overreaction. I'd just have laughed.

Yes. He tried to do something to make up for forgetting. It's hard to remember what day it is as at the moment everything feels like groundhog day with lockdown.

“ Or is he trying to now pretend he didn't forget and this is your planned present? And hence gaslighting you that what he said before isn't the way it is? ”

Exactly this.

Why are you turning this into a full drama. "The backtracking and the lying" I'm sorry lol WHAT. He wrapped up an Easter egg as a cute way of trying to make it up to you. Wind your neck in. Why are people always making dramas out of nothing, do you want to live in a TV show or something.

I thought so.

Not done in a jokey way then. He is gas lighting you.

He doesn't sound very nice.

I’m thinking about mountains and molehills OP.

Wow what an over reaction!! We are in lockdown for God’s sake... make some allowances and get over it!

Oh dear - you are being a little bit unreasonable and probably blowing this out of proportion as the title of your post “incredibly ungrateful” is rather dramatic. So he forgot and you did not- he didn’t lie about it and tried to make up for this in a jokey way (and using the napkins and label from your meal certainly suggests that he was not pretending he had remembered). Please lighten up a bit- see the funny side, kiss and make up and be kind to one another. Lockdown sucks and no-one is perfect.

'Oops, I forgot, erm, wrapped this up, ha ha ha' - OKAY

'What do you mean I forgot? No I didn't, here is your present, that conversation yesterday when I said I forgot? Yeah that didn't happen, silly you' - NOT OKAY.

Can people saying today's egg was done in a jokey way please read the OPs posts.

It has not been done that way. He is pretending he didn't forgot and the conversation yesterday was all in her head!

Backtracking and lying

Massively over reacting and being very childish.

@TheGoodEnoughWife

I thought so.

Not done in a jokey way then. He is gas lighting you.

He doesn't sound very nice.

I think you’ve overdosed on the self-help books.

It’s the sort of thing my partner would do and he’d do it knowing full well I’d laugh and probably share the egg with him. Btw was it chocolate you like? If so, chocolate is chocolate, egg or heart shaped, enjoy. If it’s not then I’d be annoyed.

If my husband denied a conversation between us had actually happened I would feel gaslighted but don't worry about that. The OP should just put up and shut up clearly.

This story is completely insane. You are v unreasonable. Apologise and see the funny side. He didn’t lie. He already told you he forgot.
We find v day extremely cheesy but I got a bunch of roses, a card, some coffee beans and lots of hotel chocolat this morning but I would have laughed my head off had he given me an Easter egg. It’s just chocolate in a different shape - get your knickers untwisted and laugh!

Who has a husband so organised he’s ready for Easter in February, but dopey enough to forget Valentine’s Day???

Ffs. I feel sorry for him.

No @ilikebooksandplants today he is saying he hadn't forgot and the conversation where he said he had did not happen.

gosh, you sound like a 5 year old. Is this for real? and suspicious in what way? in the kindest possible way: please get a grip!

@TheGoodEnoughWife probably coz the OP is losing her shit about nothing.

All seems so unhealthy that he handed her an Easter egg and she went on about how she said he’d already said he’d forgotten. I would have said thanks and laughed my head off if my fella had done that to me. I wouldn’t be going on saying ‘you said you’d forgotten!’.

Eat the egg and catch a grip of yourselves, the pair of you. Otherwise you have bigger problems in your relationship.

I would find this hilarious 😂 and also cute. Lighten up.

If I had a partner who took this shit as seriously as the op I too would be afraid to admit I had forgotten to worship her sufficiently on Valentine's Day.

It is the OPs fault she is being gaslighted? Okay then.

Christ I hope you don't have any real relationship issues OP. He admitted he forgot and he's given you a egg. He called it a Valentine egg...oh no! What an awful man. There are much bigger things going on. If this upsets you so much you need MN to hand hold and tell you what an awful person he is, maybe you you have a bigger problem.

@TheGoodEnoughWife

It is the OPs fault she is being gaslighted? Okay then.

Oh for God’s sake, WE GET IT. You think the OP is being gaslighted. The majority of people on the thread don’t. You’re not going to change that.

I knew there would be a crazy Valentine's thread today and I was not disappointed