MNHQ delete every remotely interesting thread!

[wewillmeetagain]

Why do they do this? Ive seen two in the last 24 hours! Nothing remotely insulting, libellous or argumentative on them! It's like the only discussion with which they agree is allowed to take place! I personally think it spoils MN, they will probably remove this discussion pretty sharpish anyway!

Oh yes, I’d be in my element with that a MN panel truthful,accurate
it’d be less feisty and yo! As good advice so often is

Last night, I was cheering on over at the Tom thread because deep down this is what I would like to happen for all of the countless women whose threads I read over the years. It was a bit of a tonic after the countless times when posters were trapped in their situations, out of a mixture of absolutely nowhere to go, inertia, being so ground down by the abuse etc. It often is so soul destroying when a woman almost got away and then gets reeled back in, like in some recent thread. I wanted it to be true as a bit of a beacon of hope for other women in this situation. Normally, I am rather cynical and suspicious about a lot of the threads but I suspended disbelief because I enjoyed the ‘happy ending’ and admit it was pure escapism, pun intended. I wasn’t really surprised to have found the thread gone this morning though, as I acknowledged to myself that I ignored the quasi-thriller plotline. I’d rather get fooled on occasion on the off chance it would be supportive to someone genuinely trapped. For that reason, I personally don’t mind writing all the advice and support. However, guess the downside is that with each such thread, it can make posters a bit warier. A number of troll threads over the years really cheered me up though, I would love to see a kid out there named Ballonz…

People who need support getting a thread pulled could be harmful no-one should be using MN as their only source of support. And tbh I think the idea that someone could never get support anywhere but on MN is supremely arrogant.

But from the other side, while you never know that the person asking for support is genuine, you don’t know that the person offering it is either.

Imagine for e.g. someone posting they were in an abusive relationship, someone tells them they will help them out, messages them offline, arranges to meet them, and has themselves nefarious intentions.

I have been on MN for years and tbh I think that people who think that everything online is genuine are naive. MN is a platform, you can write a story, be part of a life you weren’t part of before, get attention that way, there are probably even people who claim to be in happy marriages with well paid jobs and a few kids who are nothing of the sort.

In my time here there have been:

Posters who have had children dying of cancer
Posters whose dh’s have had affairs and been violent
Posters who have had premature babies
Not just one, but multiple ones.

On another website I was a member of a poster made up other persona’s, befriended vulnerable people on the site and then just as they get really close the persona commits suicide leaving a devastated friend behind who had no idea. She did this four times that I know of, but there were likely more. And the worst of it is, I know who she is in RL, I don’t know her personally but I know her name as she is part of a community I am a part of and I know people who know her personally.

This stuff can be a lot closer to home than we realise.

The Australia one really pissed me off, because I was mid reading it, really enjoying it..... came back....pfffft gone!

I think the ones that irritate me most are "OP has asked for this to be deleted as they fear it's identifying".

9/10 times it isn't remotely identifying, the OP is just having their arse handed to them because they're a gobshite.

I enjoy mumsnet but I work on the assumption 90% of it is made up /goady shit
⬆️Completely agree. MN posts bear no relation to real life. Everyone dp earns six figure salary is senior,but can’t load a wmch, and no one uses baby room nursery. Despite the huge disposable income everyone ekes 27 dinners,sandwiches,soup and risotto and rissoles from a small Aldi chicken

I just reported one this morning about a woman who’s partners phone was off for a day and asking what she should do. I reported it for inconsistencies like it was a newly dating but then they were together 6 mths and he lived far away but later he was close by. This thread made it into the daily f. Any way it’s just come up it’s a previously banned troll. I think it might actually be a daily f journalist making up threads and then reporting on them as saw same pattern last week.Story, op updates twice and disappears, appears in daily f .
I’ve obviously got to much time in lockdown !

"As for the Australia thread. I didn’t see it, but the last thread on here along those lines started to very much get into discussion about how the country was backward and racist and sexist, "

I have a real problem with why people get so snowflake about it. You can't say anything about anyone or any country at all these days.

There is aspects of Australian life that still is like that. Fact.

Same could be said of UK's faults and hypocrisy and failings re diversity and racism.

But it seems straight talking is just not allowed anymore.

There is clearly a way they know if someone is a troll as not every thread is pulled if people report from trolls etc
I am often called a troll literally have had to change my name so people didn’t follow me around just to call me a troll. Mumsnet has looked at a thread of mine and hid it for a while but I’m not a troll and I have posted proof I’m not. So they must have ways to know.

IRL I have never known anyone in an abusive relationship so some of the treatment I read on here.

It is so awful to read how stuck and vulnerable so many are.

I too was delighted she got away but looking back the whole "dirty sheets" did sound extraordinary but🤷🏻‍♀️.

I will definitely be more suspicious going forward.

@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee
Any chance you could stick up the thread with the "27 meals with a small Aldi chicken"...this has made me laugh.🤣

Thanks @wewillmeetagain for posting this because I was far too invested in the "Tom" thread and was gutted when it vanished. I understand why MN take down fake threats but sometimes they're such a beautiful work of fiction I'd like to read the end, it's like taking out a lirary book where some arse has ripped out the last pages (grin)

@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee
Any chance you could stick up the thread with the "27 meals with a small Aldi chicken"...this has made me laugh.🤣

The mn chicken is a perennial. It’s a skinny bird that feeds 27 for 9 days. Soup,risotto,rissoles,sandwiches and the carcass is fashioned into a mandolin for the children

@Whistle73

I reported the Tom thread last night too. It had a promising start but was a classic example of the OP being led by those responding and giving them what they wanted - ie. Tom turning up on the doorstep and her having to leave.

She jumped the shark when she managed to find a new job with accommodation provided, finish packing, gather several pets and a baby, move into an air B and B and be sat on a bed with several assorted labradors watching her EBF daughter munching a slice of pizza in 24 hours.

Absolutely. It read like one of those Kindle novellas and was obvious bullshit.

Yep why on earth did that Australia one have to go? It wasn't abusive in any way I could see, interesting opinions from both sides I thought, I was enjoying it as thinking of emigrating there soon and having trouble finding unbiased fairly represented viewpoints. Even if it was started by a known troll, which was their excuse for taking it down, so what? It wasn't a trolly post or thread!

My thread asking for safeguarding help was pulled yesterday morning. I doubt it will have been seen by people posting on here as it was in feminism. It isn’t just trolls. It’s can also very be much outside pressure.

Off the back of this thread, I have just written a long email asking for justification as to why a thread was pulled when it was written by a woman (me) with very genuine concerns for children at a large school of over 1000 school children.

I don’t really want to go in to it again as I may combust. But I’m fuming. Absolutely fuming.

• feminist chat.

[quote HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee
Any chance you could stick up the thread with the "27 meals with a small Aldi chicken"...this has made me laugh.🤣

The mn chicken is a perennial. It’s a skinny bird that feeds 27 for 9 days. Soup,risotto,rissoles,sandwiches and the carcass is fashioned into a mandolin for the children[/quote]
🤣🤣🤣

As I said on the Taat (which got deleted) about the latest troll, I expect she's got herself a publishing deal based on her storytelling prowess.

With regard to other pulled threads, it seems to depend on whose finger is on the button. There was a "nastiest slebs" thread last night which went poof very quickly, despite there having been hundreds over the years in a similar vein which haven't been deleted and which are still searchable in the archives.

usually think I have a decent troll radar but completely believed the Tom one

Any decent troll radar should include a “let’s call him....” setting. Never seen one of those which was true.

@PegasusReturns

It’s the ones where the thread doesn’t go the OPs way and is then deleted because the OP has “privacy concerns” despite the only identifying features being that she’s a woman who had an argument with her sil.

That's extremely OUTING!

@Thedramasummer

I hadn’t even clocked that I had read the start of the Tom thread. Only read the first few updates then decided it wasn’t worth it. Seems I missed a lot of crazy( and made up ) updates!

It was quite entertaining despite being obviously made up.

I reported the Australia thread on the strength of the OP's OP: goady, positioning Australia as shite while expressing faux-puzzlement so appearing to invite genuine discussion. OP also a "new"poster.

The hallmarks of the same kind of trolls who infest school-related threads on Coronavirus.

I think the way the OP was so emotionless throughout the Tom storyline was pretty telling it wasn’t genuine.

And it just kept getting worse. It could be used as an illustration of a drip feed. 'And he walked in on me in the shower' then ten posts later 'and he said I'd be incontinent after I gave birth' then ten posts later 'and he made insulting remarks about my scars'. Plus the husband who had fab at the beginning was, by the end, pretty much having an emotional affair with this guy while trying to sign away the OP's child. I read much of it like

Not seen any of the deleted threads, but just curious - what is a Tom thread? As in cat or peeping or other?