AIBU to have finally snapped?

[ChilliWillies]

Strap yourself in, this will be long. I’ve also name changed as what I’ll write is so identifying if you know me.
DH is a fussy eater. He claims he isn’t and that I’m the ‘weird’ one as I eat almost anything. DS6 is also going through a phase of saying he ‘hates’ the food I’ve made. For the record, I’m a good cook and am often complimented on my food.
I have managed to expand DH’s very limited palate over a lot of years so we can have less boring food, but any new recipe is met with suspicion. I can almost accept this, but what is CANNOT handle is that he changes his fucking mind! Something I made last week that he really enjoyed, this week ‘tastes awful’. I never know if he will like something that week or not. He also has form for getting annoyed about how food is served - I served curry and rice in big pasta bowls once and he made a big performance of tipping it all out onto a plate before he would eat it. I am the only cook - he can cook, but gets ridiculously stressed by it and also takes 3 hours to make anything.
Last night, I put dinner on the table, DS said ‘yuck, I hate this’ (he doesn’t, he loved it last week, getting this behaviour from his dad 😡) and left the table. DH poked at it dubiously, tried a bit and said ‘this is really bad’. It was some Sicilian Lamb Stew, leftover from the week before, that I’d frozen and then defrosted yesterday, served over a jacket potato. I explained he had liked it last time, and he said ‘what, with a jacket potato?’ I explained last time I’d served it with mashed potato and he literally said ‘oh that will be it then, you shouldn’t serve it with a jacket potato’!!!! 😡🙄. As if that would change the taste of the stew completely.
So, I actually lost it, stormed out, went to the shop and bought crappy white sliced bread, (he will moan if I buy unsliced bread, or anything with healthy seeds and grains in it) cheap ham, burgers, chicken nuggets and chips. When I got hone, I told him that’s what they were getting from now on, I give up.
He clearly didn’t believe me, because when I made lunch just now I made them plain ham sandwiches and made myself a new chicken story fry with peanut noodles recipe I’d been wanting to try. He’s got the right hump and is now not speaking to me.
So, we’ll done for getting this far. AIBU for subjecting to them to ham sandwiches and beige food for at least two weeks until they realise how good they had it?

Well done! Brilliant!

Stew and a jacket potato is wrong. Definitely shouldn't be touching each other on a plate. Please don't tell me you put them in a bowl!

Plenty of people are perfectly happy to eat food that is touching each other. One thing I particularly like is lasagne placed on top of green salad, so it all mingles. Not sorry.

It really shows how spoilt and entitled a lot of people are about food that they are able to go to this level of fussiness about how it is presented. Half the world either doesn't have enough to eat or if they do, they're bloody grateful of this.

But it sounds like there's so many people unable to cope with food touching or other foibles that it's far too risky plating food for them and they should serve themselves.

@BarbaraofSeville

Plenty of people are perfectly happy to eat food that is touching each other. One thing I particularly like is lasagne placed on top of green salad, so it all mingles. Not sorry.

It really shows how spoilt and entitled a lot of people are about food that they are able to go to this level of fussiness about how it is presented. Half the world either doesn't have enough to eat or if they do, they're bloody grateful of this.

But it sounds like there's so many people unable to cope with food touching or other foibles that it's far too risky plating food for them and they should serve themselves.

I like that but with bolognese!

@tinyme77

Stew and a jacket potato is wrong. Definitely shouldn't be touching each other on a plate. Please don't tell me you put them in a bowl!

Not a fussy eater but have to agree!

I understand what people are saying about people being fussy eaters, phobias, being sick etc but a food phobia doesn't cause rudeness. If someone has gone to the trouble of making something you don't like, then the only excuse for saying 'ewww yuk' or 'this is so bad' is if you're a 3 year old, and even then I'd be explaining why you shouldn't say that.

When I cook, if my kids or dh doesn't like it then a simple, 'I'm not too keen, can I go and make myself something else' is fine. But to be rude, turn your nose up and then expect the person who's cooked to sort you something else is just plain bloody rude.

Adults who do their fair share of meal budgeting, menu planning, food shopping, meal prep and clean up are allowed to have polite opinions about dinners.

Everyone else can fuck off.

OPs husband is in the second category.

@MyDcAreMarvel

There is a world of difference between lamb stew and mashed potato and lamb stew and jacket potato!

There's a world of difference between lamb stew and potato, and the same lamb stew and a potato?

Don't want to blow anyone's mind but it's all lamb stew and potato. Lamb stew and potato, and lamb stew and a potato share the same world. In fact, probably share the same country.

Don't want to blow anyone's mind but it's all lamb stew and potato. Lamb stew and potato, and lamb stew and a potato share the same world

To you. Not everyone feels the same way

@Hazelnutlatteplease

Don't want to blow anyone's mind but it's all lamb stew and potato. Lamb stew and potato, and lamb stew and a potato share the same world

To you. Not everyone feels the same way

Utterly ridiculous. The same foodstuff is in no way 'world's apart'.

Boiled potatoes, roast potatoes , chips, mash are all potatoes but in a blind taste test they taste different and you will be able to tell them apart. Why are you surprised mash and something tastes different than baked and something

Sorry, but I am with the - it's lamb stew and potato.

You may have a preference, but really mash and jacket are pretty similar, close enough to really not make a difference.

AND ANYWAY - if he didn't like it with the jacket spud, then he needs to say.
Thanks for lunch, I'm sorry it isn't working for me, would you mind if I made a sanwhich.

OR he could just eat the stew and leave the jacket. You now, adapt a bit, if he isn't willing to get himself some lunch.

The issue is the spectacular rudeness, which some men seem to think is Ok becuase it is 'just' their wife.

* The issue is the spectacular rudeness, which some men seem to think is Ok becuase it is 'just' their wife.*
Whereas no wife ever complains or is rude?

if he didn't like it with the jacket spud, then he needs to say.

He did.

what, with a jacket potato?’ I explained last time I’d served it with mashed potato and he literally said ‘oh that will be it then, you shouldn’t serve it with a jacket potato

The result was the OP blowing her top.

YABU to still be cooking for your ungrateful, rude, annoying h, who is teaching your ds bad manners around food.

I like your plan to cook ds beige food and show him what he's missing out on, but your h really needs to step up.

Take it in turns to menu plan and shop each week - that's what i do. Everyone in the house makes meal suggestions, adds them to teh calendar then adds the ingredients to the Tesco online shop. All good life skills!

But then my h is grateful for most everything I cook - well, most things..

@Chewingle

* The issue is the spectacular rudeness, which some men seem to think is Ok becuase it is 'just' their wife.* Whereas no wife ever complains or is rude?

well, I didn't say that did I? Of course women can be as rude as men.

But you get thread after thread on here with men behaving like kids, and so rude.

My dh isn't like this. I am not like that to him. None of the men I know are like this. It constantly amazes me that women put up with it.

And it is mostly women putting up with men who expect dinner on the table, not the other way round. For goodness sake, this isn't 1950s. And again, even if it was, my Granny had dinner on the table for my Grandfather, he couldn't cook even a piece of toast. But at the end of every meal, he thanked my Granny for a lovely meal. He was never as rude as this man.

Yes of course you get thread after thread of women complaining about their male partners

This site is dominated by women

@Hazelnutlatteplease

if he didn't like it with the jacket spud, then he needs to say.

He did.

what, with a jacket potato?’ I explained last time I’d served it with mashed potato and he literally said ‘oh that will be it then, you shouldn’t serve it with a jacket potato

The result was the OP blowing her top.

you are misquoting me.

I said - if he didn;t like it then he needed to say - thank you for the lunch, I'm sorry it isn't working for me, would you mind if I made a sandwich?

And you are misquoting the dh, as in the OP it was clear that he was moaning and rude.

Bearing in mind that he hadn't cooked, and actually he never cooks, and he is consistently rude about the OP's cooking, then it is obvious that this was the last straw for her.

To me, stew and jacket potato is essentially the same as stew and mash, as the jacket potato would have been cut open and had butter mashed into it before adding the stew. The ONLY difference would have been the skin.

Of course if it had been stew and chips, that would have been a different story (and less gravy soaking up potential) - but it wasn't.

We all have our food foibles and preferences - but how we deal with them defines us, and the H is not only rude and childish, he's teaching his son to be that way too.

@Chewingle

Yes of course you get thread after thread of women complaining about their male partners

This site is dominated by women

you are being delierately obtuse.

Nowhere on any site do you get mutiple posts about men doing too much around the home, and every survey ever done says that women take the bulk of all domestic responisbilities, even when both partners work full time.

And regardless of whether or not some women are also rude, it doesn't excuse this man from being rude. And it is a common problem, regualrly reported on.

* you are being delierately obtuse*

Back at you!

yabu for even making the sandwiches - let him do it, I wouldn't have even gone and bought anything from the shop!

YANBU to tell him to get to f* and sort his own food out, what a manchild

I wouldn't particularly want jacket potato with stew, even less if the stew was over it & tbh it wouldn't occur to me that someone would serve this.

But it would be easy to separate the potato, eat what I wanted I say I preferred it with whatever.

All without being rude!

But then I take an interest in the meals so would know that it was planned.

How are they enjoying the beige food, Op?

Who knew there were so many people who don't like jacket potatoes with stew? They serve chilli with jacket potato in cafes - it's totally normal.

In my house, leftover portion of stew with a baked potato is a brilliant meal.

I'd hate mash with stew personally (too mushy and liquid, no contrast in texture) but I don't think it's weird that other people like it!

@NoSquirrels

Who knew there were so many people who don't like jacket potatoes with stew? They serve chilli with jacket potato in cafes - it's totally normal.

In my house, leftover portion of stew with a baked potato is a brilliant meal.

I'd hate mash with stew personally (too mushy and liquid, no contrast in texture) but I don't think it's weird that other people like it!

Hear! Hear! 🌹