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It's a Parking One

572 replies

ILoveFlumps · 10/02/2021 08:00

Ok mumsnetters I need some ideas.
I popped out for 10 minutes this morning and come home to a random car on my driveway (outside my house). This is private property and allocated parking for a New Build. The Main Street it's off is permit parking only - this car has a permit.
The only place I can park is blocking it in causing a semi obstruction which I've done.
Police won't help as a civil matter.
Note has been left on the car by me telling them it's private property.
What else can I do?! Immediate neighbours have no idea whose car this is. Angry

OP posts:
TinyCake · 10/02/2021 10:46

He could have just left a note saying I'm caring near by call me if you need me to move.

Sparklingbrook · 10/02/2021 10:46

I agree with you @Needsmustnow

ThelmaNotLouise · 10/02/2021 10:49

@Needsmustnow

Oh god, I think that's awful that you said that to him and humiliated him in that way. So much for Key Workers.
FGS, he was taking the piss, he knew it was a private driveway! Being a key worker doesn't give people carte blanche to do what they want. They haven't been suddenly elevated to God status.
HelloThereMeHearties · 10/02/2021 10:49

Wow, well done on shaming that bastard carer! We all know that they have plenty of time to park and to get to and from appointments!

Really funny the way you threatened to make him late for his [checks notes] next client in need! Hee hee hee!!

I mean, he shouldn't have parked on your drive. But to threaten a carer with calling their boss? Angry

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 10/02/2021 10:49

@ChardonnaysPetDragon my DH actually did do this once but it was a trip to Singapore. With the spare key as the main key battery had died and never got around to getting a new battery. No parking issue thankfully as was our drive, was a PITA though.

Speaking from experience here as well. Not quite Singapore or Aberdeen, but an overnighter.

PussGirl · 10/02/2021 10:49

Well done OP.

Being a carer is no excuse.

islockdownoveryet · 10/02/2021 10:50

@ILoveFlumps

Ok, so the conversation went like this: Me: (opens door) I assume that’s your car that’s parked on my drive? Him: Err yeah, I’m really sorry Me: But it’s my drive? Him: yeah, I’m sorry Me: but this is private property? Him: yeah, err, I was in a rush and I didn’t realise Me: you didn’t realise it was a drive? I don’t understand. You had to pull off the main road. It’s outside my house. You can see my neighbours have a car parked outside their house, and you can see the signs? Him: I thought you were at work and I wasn’t going to be long Me: Two hours is a long time (glares at him) Him: (Silence) Me: So for future reference, what do you think I should do so this doesn’t happen again? You clearly didn’t realise it was a private drive, so what improvements can I make to stop other people doing it? What would have deterred you? Him: Err.......I dunno Me: Should I perhaps put more signs up? Or maybe paint the drive a different colour? Him: (Silence) then he says: look I’m really sorry, would you mind moving so I can get on to my next job? Me: It would be very inconvenient if you were late wouldn’t it? Do your employers know you’re parking on private property? (Can see his badge and uniform - he’s a carer) Him: I dunno what else to say Me: How about you say you’ll never park like a tit again? Him: Ok. I won’t. Me: Won’t what? Him: Park like a tit again Me: That would be great. I’d hate for your work to know you park like an inconsiderate arsehole

I then got into my car and reversed onto the road and he drove off.
Might not have had the explosive ending MN wants, but I felt satisfied and quite smug with myself Grin

You handled that well op well done. He won’t do that again . I’ve heard that excuse before there was no where else to park as if that’s your problem. 🤷‍♀️
Penners99 · 10/02/2021 10:52

Barbara, evil genius!

ThelmaNotLouise · 10/02/2021 10:52

@HelloThereMeHearties

Wow, well done on shaming that bastard carer! We all know that they have plenty of time to park and to get to and from appointments!

Really funny the way you threatened to make him late for his [checks notes] next client in need! Hee hee hee!!

I mean, he shouldn't have parked on your drive. But to threaten a carer with calling their boss? Angry

What if OP had a medical emergency and needed to leave the house but couldn't because his car was in the way? Why should OP be inconvenienced for carers not having much time between appts? If he'd left a note on the car with his number, fine, but he didn't. He thought he'd just park there and sod the owner.
Mummyoflittledragon · 10/02/2021 10:52

That was a brilliant convo. I do feel sorry for the guy though. He’s on little more than minimum wage and won’t be getting paid for the travelling / parking time hence why he parked as closely as possible to his last customer.

Malbecfan · 10/02/2021 10:52

It wasn't recorded or filmed. The only person there apart from the parking fool was the OP. Yes, the guy might have felt humiliated for a short time, but it was entirely of his own making. The OP didn't shout or use violence. She didn't damage his car. She used a bit of humour to educate him not to park there again.

I have the utmost respect for carers. It's a job I would absolutely detest. However, he did something stupid and disrespectful. He thought the OP would be at work all day so stuck his car on her drive. To the people saying she shouldn't have said anything or upset him, how else is he going to learn? The next person whose drive he parks on might not be as reasonable as the OP.

wibdib · 10/02/2021 10:53

Glad to see there was a happy-ish ending!

But next time op, make a sign for your window that says ‘Parking on Drive £100 per day or part thereof. Parking on the drive without prior agreement constitutes acceptance of these terms’ and another one to stick on the windscreen, this one maybe with an extra note to see main notice in property’s window.

Then wait for them to return and ask for your payment... and watch their face squirm...

While you don’t actually have to charge them, you can point out that they will have to pay if they park there again as they know the deal, which would hopefully put them off ever trying again. I’d take a picture on your phone of them, their car and the poster on the car so they can see you meanbusiness too.

HelloThereMeHearties · 10/02/2021 10:53

She threatened to call his employers. Not on, imo. He's a carer FFS.

Original poster
ILoveFlumps · 10/02/2021 10:54

@HelloThereMeHearties

Wow, well done on shaming that bastard carer! We all know that they have plenty of time to park and to get to and from appointments!

Really funny the way you threatened to make him late for his [checks notes] next client in need! Hee hee hee!!

I mean, he shouldn't have parked on your drive. But to threaten a carer with calling their boss? Angry

Firstly, he didn't tell me he was a carer, I assumed so from his badge and uniform. If he had led with that sentence maybe my reaction may have been different. Secondly, his time is irrelevant. Doesn't give him the right to park on someone else's property. Lastly, I had/have no intention of calling his employers. I just don't want him parking there again.

His career choice has no bearing on the fact he parked on my property, knowing full well he shouldn't do so.

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 10/02/2021 10:55

Good job, OP.
It doesn't matter what job he did - he could have been a plumber on a call out - he still shouldn't have parked on the OP's drive like that.
Just because he's a carer, as OP says, doesn't give him a free pass to park like a dick.

HelloThereMeHearties · 10/02/2021 10:55

He apologised, and you still threatened to call his bosses. Nice.

HelloThereMeHearties · 10/02/2021 10:57

I’d hate for your work to know you park like an inconsiderate arsehole

What a thing to say to a person who you now know is a carer, and who has already apologised profusely.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 10/02/2021 10:58

Having called the police on a badly parked carer I have every sympathy!

In my case she had been warned that the 'space' she was parking in was the end of a driveway, used by the carers for a vulnerable couple in their 80s. She didn't give a monkeys, told a number of neighbours to fuck off - no uniform!

So we called the police. Who fined her.

Sparklingbrook · 10/02/2021 10:59

'Please don't park there again' would have been sufficient. Not that long back and forth especially the 'Won't what?' bit. Hmm

I am not disputing the fact he shouldn't have parked there in the first place though.

Sparklingbrook · 10/02/2021 11:00

@HelloThereMeHearties

I’d hate for your work to know you park like an inconsiderate arsehole

What a thing to say to a person who you now know is a carer, and who has already apologised profusely.

Exactly, just no need.
Original poster
ILoveFlumps · 10/02/2021 11:01

@HelloThereMeHearties

I’d hate for your work to know you park like an inconsiderate arsehole

What a thing to say to a person who you now know is a carer, and who has already apologised profusely.

Are you the inconsiderate arsehole that parked on my drive? I'd love to know how you think I should have handled it. Maybe I should have offered him tea and biscuits once I realised his job? Or maybe said he can park there everyday and I'll move my car accordingly? I'm pretty sure that most carers are considerate of their parking when visiting homes. This one wasn't.
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Sparklingbrook · 10/02/2021 11:02

I would have just asked them not to do it again, personally.

Hoppinggreen · 10/02/2021 11:03

Never mind clap for carers
Let’s open our driveways to them as well. I live quite close to the hospital I should definitely allow them to use my driveway, perhaps I could valet their cars for them while they are at work?
Anyone not doing this clearly hates nurses and Cptn Tom

Original poster
ILoveFlumps · 10/02/2021 11:03

@Sparklingbrook

I would have just asked them not to do it again, personally.
Sure. Because that will teach him a lesson and make sure he doesn't do it again Confused
OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 10/02/2021 11:03

@Sparklingbrook

I would have just asked them not to do it again, personally.
Well if one parks on your drive and prevents you from using it then you can do that.
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