@cathyorclare
"The church follows a programme of non-judgemental welcome to all comers in varied contexts as part of its evangelical mission and has done for years."
I agree.
However I don't see that allowing couples who don't believe in God to take vows in His Name is part of 'mission'. I see it as pointless, meaningless and hypercritcal.
This why the Roman Catholic Church has pre-marriage classes called a 'PreCana', and similar preparation classes occur in Traditional Anglican Churches.
Here couples discuss privately/in groups/with a Priest issues that they may come across when they are married. This tries to ensure that couples are 'on the same page' about finances, pornography, gambling, adultery, childcare, sickness, disablement, in-laws etc etc. They are taught what a Catholic/Christian marriage is about.
From what I have been told by Catholics, some couples drop out when they realise the enormity and seriousness of the decision they are making. Some came with the impression that reciting empty vows will make everything OK and 'love will find a way'.
Judging by the posts on Mumsnet it seems that there are many others whose bubble has popped.