Aibu about my birthday

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I'm 40 today. I told my husband I wanted a nice present and some nice food - quite a lot of scope there, he's a good cook and we have some very good restaurants doing 'dinner at home' type boxes for delivery.

We both WFH today, no scope for either of us to get the day off btw.

I had some flowers delivered and a lovely cake with my name on it and a card. My main present is apparently coming on Saturday. If it is what I hope it is it will be fantastic, but I don't know for sure. No clue in the card I got today.

I finished work at 5 and went for a walk on my own. Just before I left my husband said he couldn't get a dinner delivery so he was going to order takeaway, what did I want. When I came back he had PJ's on and was sat in front of the TV like we do most evenings.

The food that arrived was rubbish, I had a little cry and told my husband I was disappointed. He's gone to cook something now, bless him. But I feel let down and sad.

@Justlovedogs that's fine, you understand that you don't think they're special? But it was the faux "why are they different". When you clearly acknowledge that a lot of people think they are that's irritating.

It is going to be a bit shit this year especially being your 40th .
Mine is in a couple of weeks and I don’t expect it be very good . I’ll probably just treat myself to a nice bottle of gin .
My first reaction when you said you had a cry was ffs , but I do get it and I suspect I may feel down on my birthday.
Just tell dh that as soon as it’s allowed you want a lovely holiday even if it’s a nice spa break in this country . At least it’ll be something to look forward to.

Your poor husband. You sound ungrateful and I'd be really hurt if I were him. He's already got you gifts with another to come on Saturday. It isn't his fault that you didn't like the takeaway. You sound spoilt, entitled and mean.

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I hope all of you with landmark birthdays today/tomorrow/recently have a nice day.

I'd have been 110% happy with today on any other birthday, I just felt like a bit of extra special effort on the day of my 40th would be warranted.

I know I haven't said what the thing is I'm hoping for on Saturday but I don't want to jinx it. It's a craft item that someone has to make bespoke. So maybe that's why there's a delay. Hopefully!

I hope your present arrived and you were happy with it.

What was your gift? I’m intrigued!

What was your present? Was it worth the wait? ☺️

I also feel very invested now😂

You sound like a bratty woman-child tbh. How old are you, op? 4?

Is it a spinning wheel specially adjusted for height and finger length?

You sound extremely immature. You’re 40 not 10 🙄

Wow he even went cool after feeding u and you feel let down. You need to sit down and write a list of things your thankful for

I dont understand some of these comments. It's important that you are made to feel special on your birthday and spoiled a bit by the man who says he loves you. He should have bought a nicer takeaway or a planned a lovely romantic meal as a basic requirement. I would be disappointed too. Doesnt sound like he makes much of an effort for you so you have my sympathy. Might be worth considering whether you are financially sound enough for a divorce so you can find someone who treats you like a proper queen.

I’m going to go against the grain here and say I sympathise. I also turned 40 in lockdown and it was shit. I overreacted and when my husband did similar to yours I cried and gave him a really hard time. Lockdown is shit. Trying to celebrate anything in lockdown is shit. He did try. He could have tried harder, but it would always be a bit disappointing no matter what, because it’s not a normal birthday. 40 is filled with emotion. Lockdown is filled with emotion. It’s hard to be reasonable and rational all the time. It does sound like something great will happen on Saturday. 🤞🏻🤞🏻 For you!

Happy birthday to you!

You should really have made it clear if you wanted him to cook! He probably thought takeaway was preferable as it's a weekday, so you could spend the evening together rather than him just being in the kitchen. Minus points for late present though, he should be more organised!

I don’t understand why people who put effort in to birthdays etc are always savaged on here. It’s hopefully a mutual thing and I’m guessing you put effort in to his and it’s not a one way street? I’m guessing you just hoped for a bit of a treat. Make a nice meal or get a Restaurant dinner delivered (lots available just now) and eat it at the table with conversation rather than being on your phone and tv with a crap takeaway? Again with the organisation, surely your present could’ve been here for your birthday if ordered in time. It’s not that much extra effort to do all this. We went to extra effort for bdays this year to compensate for such a rubbish year.

I would be over the moon to get flowers and a birthday gift! Think you're being a bit unreasonable and precious

I feel sorry for your husband. It must be exhausting to live with you if this thread is indicative of how you are.

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I dont understand some of these comments. It's important that you are made to feel special on your birthday and spoiled a bit by the man who says he loves you. He should have bought a nicer takeaway or a planned a lovely romantic meal as a basic requirement. I would be disappointed too. Doesnt sound like he makes much of an effort for you so you have my sympathy. Might be worth considering whether you are financially sound enough for a divorce so you can find someone who treats you like a proper queen.

Oh my god you are joking