Aibu about my birthday

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I'm 40 today. I told my husband I wanted a nice present and some nice food - quite a lot of scope there, he's a good cook and we have some very good restaurants doing 'dinner at home' type boxes for delivery.

We both WFH today, no scope for either of us to get the day off btw.

I had some flowers delivered and a lovely cake with my name on it and a card. My main present is apparently coming on Saturday. If it is what I hope it is it will be fantastic, but I don't know for sure. No clue in the card I got today.

I finished work at 5 and went for a walk on my own. Just before I left my husband said he couldn't get a dinner delivery so he was going to order takeaway, what did I want. When I came back he had PJ's on and was sat in front of the TV like we do most evenings.

The food that arrived was rubbish, I had a little cry and told my husband I was disappointed. He's gone to cook something now, bless him. But I feel let down and sad.

Op a happy 40th Birthday. Its hard when you feel let down. I had covid on my birthday!! But I plan to do something nice once things open up. Enjoy your day. Lockdown birthdays are crap

This whole " woe is me" attitude sums up this forum, just so boring now.

Interesting range of responses! Thanks all. Some of you are quite harsh - takeaway is not a treat for me and DH knows that, I much prefer home cooked food or a good restaurant.

Anyway I am now eating a lovely home made curry and the chili's are doing their work on my endorphins

Not seeing what he did wrong. It's not his fault the takeaway wasn't to your liking, didn't you choose what you wanted? I wouldn't think to suggest a walk in the dark in February, if you wanted to do that you should have said. You could go for a walk at the weekend instead?

Then at least have the good manners to put your phone down and appreciate it, instead of posting on the internet

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Then at least have the good manners to put your phone down and appreciate it, instead of posting on the internet

Lol. He's sat in front of the TV. I have made my appreciation clear don't worry.

You come across as ungrateful OP. It was my birthday last Saturday, I would have been over the moon with cake, flowers,card, takeout and a surprise in waiting... I will tell you what I got though... nothing, because apparently I’m not worth it! You are blessed.

I get it OP, there's not a lot to look forward at the moment and you wanted him to take the initiative to make it as special as possible and it does sound like you did tell him that's what you were hoping for.

Sounds like he was perhaps a little last minute and lazy about it but did put in some effort so I can see both sides of this.

It was my birthday last week, I had gifts, a takeaway and a cake. Not what we planned (is anything this year?), but it was lovely. If I wanted to go for a nice walk I would have suggested it. I can't really understand why you were upset, especially since he cooked when you didn't like the takeaway? I certainly wouldn't have cooked another meal for my husband if he didn't like the takeaway. Is it a case of you are upset about the lockdown situation rather than feeling let down by your DH?

Card, flowers delivered, nice cake with your name on it plus a present to look forward to yet you are upset because you don't like your takeaway and he's wearing his PJs?😂

I'd probably be annoyed that he didn't give me my present on my actual birthday but you're not bothered about that - just about the takeaway (that you chose) and him being in his PJs. I think he'd made an effort and maybe an early night might be just what you need.

It’s my 40th also today OP it’s an emotional one anyway I think and it was never going to be how I’d always imagined it because of lockdown.. but let’s face it we are lucky to be celebrating it at all given how many people have suffered at the hands of this pandemic - so yes YABU and you know it.

Happy birthday though and hopefully many more to come!

what do you think your present is?

I get now! At first I was a bit like "well what more could he have done?"

Then you said it. Home cooking, table cloth, candles, walk. Not massive things to ask for, just thoughtful. I suspect you are thoughtful and when not returned it's a bit upsetting. But some people (clearly like me) are thoughtless and better to spell it out to them.

Anyway happy you have a nice meal now and the delivery is the amazing thing you hope for and more. Happy birthday.

God grief, you're 40 not 4! Grow up.

Tbh i think you’re very lucky you’ve had a ‘handmade curry’ if my oh had acted this way i certainly would not have been in the kitchen cooking food!
Think you’ve been ungrateful towards him.
If you want to go for a walk, tell him, if you want tablecloths, tell him! How would he know?
He’s done something very nice for you birthday and i would have been very offended if my oh had acted this way.

Is this a joke?

I think you have had a lot of expensive treats and sound really spoilt
You had specific things in mind you wanted him to do and the poor man didn't - how was he to know you wanted a walk and tablecloth ? Next time just tell him !
Making him cook a meal and telling him the take away was rubbish was mean

Happy Birthday! Don’t listen to all the weirdos on here who think birthdays are only for kids. Your husband should have had candles lit, a bubble bath poured and your favourite drink waiting on your return from your walk. Then had a delicious cook at home dinner ready for you when you were done. It is more than ok that you’re disappointed and your husband needs a boot up the bum!

I'm feeling better now I've eaten.

Still >.< disappointed in the no present until Saturday and the terrible takeaway in front of the TV but I'm starting to think a lot of my sad mood was due to hunger I ate cake for lunch which probably didn't help.

Sounds nice, I don't know why you had a tantrum about it.

Fuck me, I bet he's dreading Saturday 😂😂

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I'm feeling better now I've eaten.

Still >.< disappointed in the no present until Saturday and the terrible takeaway in front of the TV but I'm starting to think a lot of my sad mood was due to hunger I ate cake for lunch which probably didn't help.

Glad your feeling better. Happy Birthday btw

Yes maybe you were just a bit hangry. Glad you're feeling better. Enjoy the rest of your birthday!

You had a cake, some flowers, a takeaway delivered and you are getting a decent present at the weekend. What more did you want, a chorus of angels singing for you?

I had a lovely birthday recently, I had a supermarket cake, two cards and a gift voucher for Amazon. We spent the day playing card games and going for a walk, no expensive meals and so on or special presents and flowers. You sound very demanding.

I don’t get it. You cried because you got a shit take away?
We had a shit take away on New Years Eve - disappointing yes, a reason to cry no.
Cake for lunch sounds perfect.
Anyway, Happy birthday!