To not want a morning kiss to wake me up?

[Bellybounce]

Feel like a bit of a monster right now.

Dp leaves for work around 6am.
I don’t need to be up until 8 ish, I have always had a lot of trouble sleeping (he is aware), but during the current circumstances it seems to be worse. So this extra couple of hours can make a real difference.

Anyway - dp has taken to kissing me on the lips while I’m sleeping, (used to always be forehead or cheek, not sure why it’s changed lately!) and it wakes me up properly, between that and the snoozing alarms every 5 mins, for 15 mins, by the time he leaves at 6 I’m wide awake. It makes me jump a bit, that he’s right there in my face kissing my mouth. (I know it’s really sweet, but it doesn’t feel it at the time).
This morning I sent a text politely asking to go back to a quick cheek / head kiss. No response yet.

Is this me being a total cow, or fair enough to ask to go back to a cheek kiss? Would you be offended?

I’m not the nicest person in the morning... so I’m interested to hear what others think.

Anyone else HATE being woken up, even if it’s with love?

Just tell him not to kiss you at all whilst your sleeping if it normally wakes you up.

I did think that, but then I think what if something bad happened during the day. I can usually get back to sleep after a quick cheek kiss, but kissing on the lips startled me a bit.

Honestly OP you won't miss a kiss if your asleep and don't know anything about it. Just send him a nice text when you wake up etc and give him extra kisses after work lol.

YANBU but best to discuss it with him in person as texts can sound a bit abrupt

Just put Chewbacca or Hannibal Lecter mask on,that will give him a message.

Thanks @hellasciously that’s a good idea.
@staceybeaker (love the name) your exactly right, I tried to make it sound ‘soft’ but it’s hard via text. I’ll mention it tonight and hopefully it won’t sound so abrupt

@3JsMa thats bloody brilliant. I wonder where one might acquire such a mask... *heads off to google cheap Chewbacca masks

Yuck. I would hate to be kissed without consent.

YANBU!

I think the alarms every 5 minutes would be more annoying 🤣 but yes definitely a cheek or forehead kiss 😊

My husband tried that once, only once, I got such a fright I hit him and roared something like 'get the fuck away from me', it never happened again.

Thanks @honeybee1986, the alarms are so so annoying. They drive me bloody mad! But I guess it’s necessary haha

@Fuckitsstillraining so good to know I’m not alone! I felt like a total bitch after I sent the text though. But it needed to be said!

I think absolutely yanbu

He needs to leave you completely undisturbed. Especially if you have trouble getting to sleep/ sleeping in the first place.

I wouldn’t have done it by text is the only thing. I’d tell him face to face later on.

Why would you feel like a bitch? Waking someone up for no reason is a really fucking irritating thing to do.

You could ask him to maybe get up with the first alarm 😬
If my husband had so many alarms going off every 5 mins I'd be so grumpy 😂

Yeah I probably was a bit brash to say it by text.

I know some people love a kiss goodbye so that’s why I felt a bit of a bitch haha! And the whole ‘who knows what the day could bring’ thing.

It’s like as soon as I drift off from one alarm it’s back on again, then I get kissed, and I’m just awake! Grr...but I know he’s just being kind.

My partner does this alarm thing, then heads to the shower and doesn't turn it off!!!! Drives my crazy!!!!!

My dh woke me up today hugging me.
Then had the audacity to tell me l look tired.
I will wait for him to go to bed before me one night and wake him up unnecessarily.
So annoying and l will be grumpy all day now

@Covidwedding123 sorry to hear that but glad it’s not just me That would drive me crackers too.

@Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin ah your in the club too haha. Good idea! What’s good for the goose and all that!

Totally ok to ask that! And different people should be treated differently- you struggle to sleep and that should be respected.

He can stop that and leave you a note instead. I'm like you in that it would wake me up totally. I'm different however, in that if I wake up to an empty house I feel indescribably lonely - in a way I never ever feel otherwise. I can go days without seeing anyone quite happily. But to wake up alone? No, and for that reason I'd want the kiss.

Ask yourself - who is he doing this for? For you, or for himself?

You are trying to sleep. He knows that you are trying to sleep. He knows that you have difficulty sleeping. And yet he kisses you anyway, despite the fact that it will probably disturb you. As someone who also has trouble sleeping, and who tends to have to sleep later than my DH in order to make up for crap sleep, I would be seriously unimpressed. I think it is disrespectful and actually a bit creepy to be kissed on the mouth while sleeping. Urgh.

If he wanted to do something nice for you, why couldn't he leave a note for you on the kitchen counter? Or send you a message when you wake up?

@3JsMa

Just put Chewbacca or Hannibal Lecter mask on,that will give him a message.

>>>>>>>>

DH gives me a kiss on the head and tucks the covers round me every morning that he's up before me. I quite like it when it wakes me up but I am a sap.