To not want a morning kiss to wake me up?

[Bellybounce]

Feel like a bit of a monster right now.

Dp leaves for work around 6am.
I don’t need to be up until 8 ish, I have always had a lot of trouble sleeping (he is aware), but during the current circumstances it seems to be worse. So this extra couple of hours can make a real difference.

Anyway - dp has taken to kissing me on the lips while I’m sleeping, (used to always be forehead or cheek, not sure why it’s changed lately!) and it wakes me up properly, between that and the snoozing alarms every 5 mins, for 15 mins, by the time he leaves at 6 I’m wide awake. It makes me jump a bit, that he’s right there in my face kissing my mouth. (I know it’s really sweet, but it doesn’t feel it at the time).
This morning I sent a text politely asking to go back to a quick cheek / head kiss. No response yet.

Is this me being a total cow, or fair enough to ask to go back to a cheek kiss? Would you be offended?

I’m not the nicest person in the morning... so I’m interested to hear what others think.

Anyone else HATE being woken up, even if it’s with love?

I agree @Bookwords. Part of being a couple is sharing a bed! I don't sleep well at all if DH isn't there with me.

@JorisBonson exactly! It's just plain weird! Why make double/king/queen beds otherwise?

@Bookwords I'm rather wriggly so not sure if DH would agree with me 😂

@JorisBonson

I agree *@Bookwords*. Part of being a couple is sharing a bed! I don't sleep well at all if DH isn't there with me.

Not if you can't sleep.

Horses for courses

I think it's fair enough to ask him not to kiss you and wake you up and also he should be more considerate with his alarms if you don't need to be up. One alarm should be enough or can he put it on vibrate or have an alarm on a watch or something.

But you could have spoken to him when he got home instead of putting it in a text

Agree @Nanny0gg but someone coming on and dictating it's the best thing for marriage and it's untenable is bloody ridiculous! Like the people that choose to sleep it's their partner are somehow stupid.

We're not, I think people not sleeping with their partners is untenable and in my opinion the worst thing for a marriage!

My husband would only ever wake me up with a cup of tea in his hand - anything else is definitely not worth the risk, especially a kiss, I'd kill him! If you're sleeping he should let you be

You sound lovely. If my dh woke me up like that (or at all) he would have received an ear full because I can never get back to sleep either!!

Yeah I had to put a stop to this. It was very sweet, but even being woken up in the most lovely way, at half five in the morning, is intolerable if you haven't got to be up before seven yourself!

Hi all...
well I wasn’t woken this morning, all good!
I genuinely don’t think he was doing it out of spite, just being a bit thoughtless. Like I was when I sent the text about it!

It’s all sorted, so no big deal. I just wondered if anyone else felt the same, and it seems, we all agree... Don’t wake a sleeping woman! Dp, now having had it explained, totally gets it.

The Fitbit advice is great! If he reverts back to snoozing, I’ll be getting him one for his birthday

Thanks all for a good laugh and some good ideas too. I’ll be getting the chewbacca mask just in case Xx

All good @Bellybounce no abusive partner, no overstepping boundaries, no ulterior motives, just a bit of thoughtlessness, which once mentioned is sorted.

Like the majority of happy marriages!

All good and no need to leave the bedroom.

@Wearywithteens

“This would do my fucking head in, and he sounds a bit thoughtless/selfish.”

^ this.
Why do women make excuses? ‘he’s being sweet’ or call themselves a ‘bitch’ for just asking for a bit of consideration?

I love my sleep and somebody would only do this to me once, however ‘lovely’ they are. Raise your bar higher Op.

This!

Definitely get a Fitbit. Me and DH have them and set alarms on them and means we don’t wake the other one up. Nothing gives me the raging hump than an alarm clock going off once but it going off more would probably make me combust.

I think that you worrying something might happen and you’d regret not getting a kiss you didn’t want because it woke you up is the issue. If he doesn’t kiss you in the morning and wake you up it has zero impact on your love for each other. Utterly irrelevant. So put the guilt aside!

Mine used to do this and sometimes he leaves at 530!

I sleep well so it was ok but one time I was deeply asleep and I woke with a massive jolt and didn't know WTF was going on!

Now he mutters love you and does a kiss from near instead. I have heard it sometimes but usually sleep through it.

YANBU.

@Stompythedinosaur

Yuck. I would hate to be kissed without consent.