Would you date someone shorter?

[radiateforme]

I'm going for a socially distanced walk next week with someone I met on tinder and have been chatting to for a short while, (yes it is allowed and he lives round the corner from me!). Problem is I think he might be shorter than me! I'm about 5ft8 so not small. I've always dated tall men. I'm not sure if it will bother me but I'm nervous it'll be awkward! I haven't asked how tall he is as don't want to turn it in to a thing but he looks short in his social media photos. Has anyone here ever been on a date with someone shorter? Am I incredibly shallow to worry about this?

[AprilThe8th]

Dh is a bit shorter than me.Doesnt bother us.

[Clawdy]

If the smaller guy was good looking and nice, wouldn't be a problem for me. DH is 5ft 6. When I met him, he had had several girlfriends all a bit taller than him. I'm 5ft 4. He was very popular at the time. I do remember my dad saying "He's a right titch! " to me, after he met him!

[CounsellorTroi]

I’m so glad my lovely SIL didn’t care that DB is several inches shorter than her.

I’m 5ft 2 so it’s rare to meet men shorter than me. But it would not bother me if a man was only a bit taller than me. I have a bit of a crush on Nog from Star Trek Deep Space Nine. The actor was born with one, poorly functioning, kidney and it stunted his growth.

[BashfulClam]

I’m tall and only an inch shorter than my husband so I have dated shorter men as it’s not something that can be changed, I don’t wear heels anyway as I have ruined ankles.

[GreenlandTheMovie]

@PaddyF0dder

I guess this explains the suicide rate in short men.

That's not much of an explanation you've put there Paddy, other than blaming women fir men committing suicide. Which is a bit close to the dangerous incel movement where women aren't treated as equal human beings but are only seen to exist to facilitate men.

Can you link to a study which shows that short men commit suicide in greater numbers than non-short men? There is greater early morbidity in men under average height in countries, because there's a slight statistical link to a greater propensity to certain genetically inherited diseases and digestive disorders, but that's nothing to do with women.

[mistermagpie]

I'm 5'8" too and I just don't find shorter men attractive (looks wise) so I wouldn't probably go on a date with one based on that. So online dating wise, it would be a no.

However, I guess if I met someone IRL and really liked them but they happened to be short then I might not be bothered?

I'm aware it's not very nice but I also know there are men who like dainty and petite types who wouldn't look twice at me, so it's horses for courses I suppose.

[OlympicProcrastinator]

It really annoys me when people call it shallow to discount a partner based on purely sexually attractive features. Surely these differences are the reason we are attracted to some people and only feel friendship toward others? We’d want to shag all our mates if it was purely down to personality.

Whether it’s body parts, body shape and size, tone of voice, mannerisms, whatever, we don’t need to give anyone a ‘chance’ if we aren’t physically attracted to someone, however great their personality is.

[CarryOnPlainHunting]

Very few men are shorter than me!

[TurquoiseDragon]

It would be very unusual to find a bloke shorter than me. I'd still like to meet a bloke taller than me, though.

[GreenlandTheMovie]

@OlympicProcrastinator

It really annoys me when people call it shallow to discount a partner based on purely sexually attractive features. Surely these differences are the reason we are attracted to some people and only feel friendship toward others? We’d want to shag all our mates if it was purely down to personality.

Whether it’s body parts, body shape and size, tone of voice, mannerisms, whatever, we don’t need to give anyone a ‘chance’ if we aren’t physically attracted to someone, however great their personality is.

Being shallow is only being attracted to someone because of their money, oflr big house or whatever, not on their physical attractiveness to you, which you can't change.

No one ever accuses men of being shallow for not being attracted to a certain woman...

[BigMamaFratelli]

I didn't think I would but dp is an inch or so shorter than me - I'm 5'9 and have only ever dated guys taller than me before. He's also very skinny and weighs a good couple of stone less than me. Both things would have really bothered me before, making me feel un-feminine etc. Shallow and totally my issue I know. Also he's not physically the type I'm usually attracted to. But I honestly don't care at all and still fancy the pants off him 3 years in.

But I knew him for years before we got together - he was a friend of a friend. He also never hid the fact that he clearly fancied me, which turned out to be hard to resist! Oh, and the sex is incredible so not sure why height is an issue there for some people.

So I think you shouldn't write your date off just because of height.

[Labobo]

I wouldn't care if I liked them. DH is way taller than me but most of my boyfriends before him were about my height. There are a lot of advantages physically of being the same height.

[angieloumc]

I wouldn't but I'm only 5'2". On the other end if the scale though I once dated someone who was 6'4". I just thought we looked so ridiculous together even in heels I was still below his shoulders. It didn't end because of his height though, it was because I went downstairs one morning when I wasn't seeing him and he was stood outside my kitchen window looking in! He lived 40 miles away 😂

[thepeopleversuswork]

I guess this explains the suicide rate in short men

Bit of an over-extrapolation there.

Being short may be a cross to bear for some men but its not up to women to compensate on their behalf by having sex they don't want in the national interest.

If overweight women were more likely to commit suicide would men take it upon themselves to shag more of them in order to raise their self-esteem? I don't think so...

[Jocasta2018]

I dated someone my height - 5ft - and it was an eye opener! It was great having a standing up snog & not being on tiptoes. He was well built & muscly. Sex was fab. And he was totally at ease with his height - no short man syndrome.
We split because we were both in our 20s & far too career minded but have remained friends & I have fond memories.

[bluebluezoo]

Nope, doesn’t bother me at all. Have dated smaller men and would do again if I wasn’t with DH.

I’d rather have a short man that treats me well and actively does 50:50 of all the housework and parenting than a tall man who “doesn’t see dirt” and who seems to think saying things like “of course I’ll help, just ask” is doing his share...

[BlueDay22]

No I wouldn't, but I'm only 5'3 lol. But I wouldn't date anyone under 6 feet-ish. My dream guy would be 6'2.

[CounsellorTroi]

No one ever accuses men of being shallow for not being attracted to a certain woman...

I would think a man was shallow if he wouldn’t date a woman over a size 8 or only wanted a woman with big boobs. Or only wanted to date younger women because he didn’t find women his own age sexually attractive.

[Labobo]

No one ever accuses men of being shallow for not being attracted to a certain woman...

Yes they do. All the time. Men are constantly expected to still fancy the pants off partners who have put on several stone, because 'If he really loves you...' Eyes are rolled at men who go for dyed blonde, fake boobs and eyelashes Barbie types.

[boymum9]

I have done in the past and didn't bother me! But it's all preference

[SnackCracklesPop]

It's such a double standard too. I'm a short woman but that never bothers anyone - it's only short men who get so judged.

why don't you go and tell that to really tall women

[SnackCracklesPop]

No I wouldn't.

[MaudebeGonne]

I have - I am 5ft6 and my husband is about half an inch shorter. He has no problems with me wearing heels if I want. I have enormous hair and a fondness for big boots so I quite often look taller than him. Doesn't bother either of us at all. We look fabulous together and he is always the perfect height for a quick kiss.

Our bodies and looks change so much in a lifetime, I think it is strange to make it such a central part of the appeal of another person. Aesthetically most men (and women) have something beautiful about them if you look closely. To not even consider a connection with someone because of something that they have no choice or input into seems very limiting.

[bluebluezoo]

why don't you go and tell that to really tall women

Yes I do think it works both ways, many men won’t date women taller than them as it makes them feel less manly.

I’m a distinctly average 5’4. The vast majority of men are my height or above, so I suppose that’s why it’s never really bothered either me or the men I date.

I absolutely wouldn’t rule out a smaller bloke though.

[Whocutdownthecherrytree]

As life goes on, some of the most sexy, fit, kind, interesting guys I’ve met have been shorter than me. It doesn’t matter and often they are more humble because they’ve felt judged for their height over their life.