AIBU to wish alcoholic dh was dead

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Are you safe OP?

Yes. But thank you

WTF?!

Can you not just leave? That's a pretty extreme statement right there OP

I've lived with an alcoholic. I get it.

Can you leave him?

I'm sorry you're in this situation OP. I get it.

Not unreasonable but not very friendly

I've lived with an alcoholic. I get it

Same

A family friend wished the same. She sent him to retire in a bedsit in a well known boozer town and he drank himself to death within the year. She was utterly miserable when together and relieved when he was gone, she couldn’t have stopped him but this way none of the family had to watch what he was doing to himself. Tragic for everyone.

No. My dad was an alcoholic and I used to wish he'd die all the time.

Would you like to tell us a bit more OP?

I have been in this situation. If he won’t help himself, there is no way you can. Leave him and see whether that sorts him out.
Mine didn’t sadly and I have a very sad 5 year old still wondering why her daddy can’t come home or even call her 😕

I get it too. I remember a scene in Breaking Bad where a man watches a drug addict woman choke on her vomit in her sleep and die. And I remember thinking that if ExH had been choking on his vomit, I would have let him and done nothing and then pretended I slept through it.

When I realised that I would have preferred to watch him die than live another day with him, I left. Pregnant and with a 2&3 year old. I'm the happiest I have ever ever been now.

My sister's an alcoholic.

Her poor husband is manipulated into staying by fear of coming home and finding her dead. And let's face it who the hell would want that on their conscience ?

She's made everyone's life a misery for years and a small part of me thinks it would be kinder if it just happened. I know EXACTLY where you're coming from and I'm grateful I'm not living with it 24 / 7

Yanbu op

I've been there OP

Not unreasonable at all!

When my dm was small her and her db used to plot to poison their alcoholic df.
Luckily they didn’t as my lovely gran would probably have been hung for murder.

No, I grew up with an alcoholic parent & used to wish this until I left home.

My father was an alcoholic, death can be a blessing.

I remember it well. All the jobs he lost. The jobs I had to keep finding for him.. always being hung over every morning. My paying all the Bill's. Run girl run. Quality of life for yourself.
If he wanted to stop, he would do so out of love for you.
He loves himself girl ,not you

Yanbu. I think it's because if someone dies it offers an escape from the situation. Whereas leaving someone is hard and messy. If you feel this way though I'd suggest getting some counselling and decide what to do.