Teenager in revealing clothes

[Frazzledmum55]

I don’t know how to react to this, or if I should at all. My dd is 15, not nearly 16 yet if that makes a difference. She’s has her own money which her Dad sends her every month. She’s been ordering clothes and I really really don’t like them. They’re all so revealing. Tight trousers and cropped tops mostly. Also most of them are quite low cut strappy tops too so not a whole lot of her is covered.
It’s not the weather for these clothes clearly but she obviously likes them and doesn’t want to cover up with a coat so will wear just a light jacket with the zip open.
I don’t want her wearing them at all. I don’t think it looks right on a girl her age, and right or wrong it attracts attention from men.
The other thing worth mentioning is that she suffers with depression and if wearing these clothes makes her feel good about herself, me saying I don’t like them will make her feel shit and put further strain on our relationship.
Aibu- She’s old enough to wear what she wants and I should just shut up because it’s her money
Yanbu- I tell her I don’t want her wearing them, but realistically how can I stop her?

Both of mine into “vintage” and are dressing in my own and dhs old university sports kits. They were fighting over an old sweatshirt of mine from 1993. Don’t know whether to be insulted that we are “vintage” or flattered! Dh stuff is more desirable than mine. Still lots of strappy tops too.

Not that this should be relevant, but I had a period of wearing long skirts, layers and headscarves as a teen (it was the 90s, hippy flower power was back) and the disgusting behaviour from men didn't stop. Lessened a bit, but didn't stop.

I also had a period of wearing short skirts and short tops and I haven't become a moral degenerate.

Teenagers aren't just wearing clothes, they're wearing identities. They're trying them on. It is exciting to dress sexily when your sexuality and developed body are new to you and you're figuring them out. Helping her to learn that how she dresses has nothing to do with what people are allowed to expect her to do is important.