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AIBU to think it's weird to have a toilet in your bedroom?

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FreyaFromTheFens · 28/01/2021 16:16

My neighbours have put their house on the market recently so I had a nosey online and saw that they have a toilet in the bedroom Grin. A bath, sink and loo but no screening or bifold doors for privacy.
Even if there wasn't anyone in the room while you used it it's bloody odd isn't it?
I don't get it. Have seen it quite often on escape to the country/grand designs etc...
If you have one why? Confused

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PenCreed · 28/01/2021 18:10

See, I hate toilets on their own in rooms with no sink which is what came to mind. It's incredibly unhygienic and I can't understand why you would prefer that to having it in the bathroom. Toilet in room with a sink makes sense.

Still, I suppose it's better than in the bedroom...

Sexnotgender · 28/01/2021 18:11

That’s WEIRD. Why would you have a toilet in your bedroom?

sofiaaaaaa · 28/01/2021 18:14

Ensuites are fine

However a toilet just dashed in the bedroom randomly is grim. Reminds me of some of the disgusting London rental places listed online (for a high rent too of course)

Fizbosshoes · 28/01/2021 18:16

Ensuits don't tend to have their own windows, and are tiny. One bathroom sized like a bedroom, with a proper window you can open. Extra toilet with a sink somewhere downstairs for when someone is having extra long bath.

Our ensuite has a window that opens, and extraction for steam from showers. We have a downstairs loo but our "family bathroom" is tiny - barely much bigger than the ensuite. My friend has a huge Victorian house and their ensuite is bigger than our family bathroom. jammy thing

2021namechanger · 28/01/2021 18:17

Question about bedrooms with showers in - how does extraction work?

CatNoBag · 28/01/2021 18:17

It would be the first thing I'd get rid of if the fact it existed wouldn't have already put me 100% buying such a house! What about the smell from my DP's ablutions? Or going for a wee in the night, you're not going to do that in the same room as someone sleeping surely?

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 28/01/2021 18:18

do all the en suite haters never stay in hotels, or do they prefer old fashioned boarding houses where you have to walk along the corridor to the bathroom?

I like my hotel rooms to have a tv and a fridge. I wouldn't put a fridge in my own bedroom at home.

Surely you cannot compare the 2?

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 28/01/2021 18:19

@PenCreed

See, I hate toilets on their own in rooms with no sink which is what came to mind. It's incredibly unhygienic and I can't understand why you would prefer that to having it in the bathroom. Toilet in room with a sink makes sense.

Still, I suppose it's better than in the bedroom...

I have rarely seen toilets without a sink, if at all.

Why this assumption that a separate toilet must be without sink?

aloetia · 28/01/2021 18:20

I have a en-suite and never use it. I don't like the idea of shit smell or shower steam going through my bedroom. I use the main bathroom for everything which away from the bedrooms. I don't understand why there are bathrooms right next to kitchen and dining rooms. It reminds me of the scene from the Inbetweeners when Jays dad is in the toilet in the caravan when the rest are eating.

Ginfordinner · 28/01/2021 18:20

I don't have a problem with en-suites as long as they have doors and an extraction system and an opening window.

And a partner who doesn't do anything more than a wee when the other one is in bed. Mumsnetters seem to know an awful lot of midnight shitters. If I get up before DH I use the downstarirs loo.

Our house was designed to include an en suite, so it doesn't take up space in our bedroom. In normal times we often have guests, so it is nice for us that we have our own loo and bathroom.

safariboot · 28/01/2021 18:21

@PenCreed

See, I hate toilets on their own in rooms with no sink which is what came to mind. It's incredibly unhygienic and I can't understand why you would prefer that to having it in the bathroom. Toilet in room with a sink makes sense.

Still, I suppose it's better than in the bedroom...

Agree with that. Toilet and no sink in the room is yuck. Nowadays you can get toilet tanks with a basin built in for if it's somewhere very cramped.
TyroTerf · 28/01/2021 18:23

It does sound weird and unhygienic. And I am a massive hypocrite for saying that, because just yesterday I was googling camping loos because my always-weak bladder really wasn't improved by DD's head passing by and the only toilet in the house is downstairs.

Based on this thread, if I buy one I'll be keeping the knowledge of its existence to myself!

BungleandGeorge · 28/01/2021 18:23

Surely the point of an ensuite is that you don’t have to get dressed to go to the bathroom! I think a normal ensuite with walls, a door, extractor and window is great. Open to the bedroom, no, would put me off the house

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 28/01/2021 18:24

I would assume they like to watch each other take a dump? Grin

Covidcorvid · 28/01/2021 18:27

I even think en suites are a bit grim unless the room is big enough for it to be round a corner and no shits allowed so this would tip me over the edge.

scrumpledtitskin · 28/01/2021 18:28

Oh I adore having an en suite.
But I think that is only because I'm single, so no partner to hear or smell me and vice versa. And when I have guests I don't have to share with them.
Also, the kids use a different bathroom to me and mine stays all lovely.
A toilet in the actual bedroom is crossing a line though. Gavel.

rwalker · 28/01/2021 18:30

Wouldn't mind a bath or shower in the room at a push toilet behind a wall (no solids and emergency wee's only).

How an earth could anyone shit in the room they sleep in .

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/01/2021 18:39

This isn't even behind a low wall, nothing

That's what beats me ... you said it was a large room, so why not a screen at the very least?

The last time I saw anything like this was at Venice Beach, CA, where the public loos used to be just 3 WCs in one big open room - so it wasn't even known people you were peeing next to

No thanks Confused

PenCreed · 28/01/2021 18:43

*I have rarely seen toilets without a sink, if at all.

Why this assumption that a separate toilet must be without sink?*

Because @Iknowwhatudidlastsummer most of the separate toilets I've seen recently have been like that.

Letsrunabath · 28/01/2021 18:45

I think the hate for ensuites is because some are squeezed into tiny bedrooms, so you hear every movement🤣🤣. Our en-suite is further away from our bed than our family bathroom.

happinessischocolate · 28/01/2021 18:46

Are you sure that the toilet, bath and basin were in the bedroom? Maybe it's the opposite, and they put a bed in a very large bathroom 😁

Ginnymweasley · 28/01/2021 18:47

Ensuite is fine but a toilet in a bedroom is just disgusting. Just why? I don't get the shower or bath in a bedroom either... all that steam and soft furnishings. Seems like a magnet for mold.

Lindtballsrock · 28/01/2021 18:47

The thing with an en-suite is that it is never the only toilet in the house. So should you wish to use a different toilet you have that option. But also if you want complete privacy from other people in the house, or if you just want a bathroom that you don’t have to share, you have that too.
So it’s the best of both worlds. It certainly is not obligatory to have a loud/smelly shit in it whilst your partner is in bed 😂

Whatsnewpussyhat · 28/01/2021 18:49

Saw on Grand Designs recently too - the huge bedroom with no door and the bathroom/loo just behind a bit of wall but completely open. Not only to the bedroom, but to the hall/rest of the house. Bizarre

I saw this too. I've seen quite a few of these posh self builds with views put the bath in the window, fair enough, but putting the toilet 3ft from your headboard with no walls or doors is horrible. I can just imagine lying there admiring the view with breakfast in bed listening to DP have a big stinking shit. 🤮

Style over substance.

binnhill · 28/01/2021 18:49

I ve got a bucket in my bedroom, due to toilet being far away

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