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AIBU to think it's weird to have a toilet in your bedroom?

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FreyaFromTheFens · 28/01/2021 16:16

My neighbours have put their house on the market recently so I had a nosey online and saw that they have a toilet in the bedroom Grin. A bath, sink and loo but no screening or bifold doors for privacy.
Even if there wasn't anyone in the room while you used it it's bloody odd isn't it?
I don't get it. Have seen it quite often on escape to the country/grand designs etc...
If you have one why? Confused

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Ginfordinner · 30/01/2021 07:25

[quote Usernamerequired]@Ginfordinner we have an ensuite with a shower and extractor fan. All ok there but i mean no way to having an open plan bathroom in the bedroom. It would have to be for emergency wees only lol[/quote]
I think an open plan bedroom/bathroom is grim as well. I was referring to the MN hatred for en suite bathrooms.

Twowilldo50 · 30/01/2021 09:24

I love our en-suite. We have 2 grown up children and dd’s bf living here at the moment so it’s nice to have some privacy and it’s very low maintenance looking after a bathroom for two adults while the young people take responsibility for theirs. Our towels are never left on the floor, the windowsill is clean, the sink not clogged with long hair.

Btw post-menopause is not a medical issue in the same way as pre-pubescent isn’t- it’s a stage of life.

The door to our en-suite is about 5 feet from the bottom of our bed, the bath/shower about another 5 feet from that and the toilet is near that. I would really struggle to go back to a house that didn’t give me the same level of facilities. But I couldn’t cope with any shower/bath/toilet in our bedroom.

IvyWoodcock · 30/01/2021 09:33

The toilet in our en-suite broke a few years ago so was out of action for a few weeks.
I missed it so much and hated having to exit the room and traipse across the landing.
It’s great to not have to share a bathroom with DCs

TheBigFish · 30/01/2021 09:45

We looked at a house like this. Literally a shower, toilet and sink in the corner of the bedroom. We looked in the hope you could put a screen or something up but you couldn't at all as there was a loft hatch in the opening. So that was a definite no for us. It was very strange giving the feedback to the estate agent.

Cantstopeatingchocolate · 30/01/2021 10:26

I guess it's what you think an en suite is. We looked at loads of houses with the master bedroom having the smallest room attached that I've ever seen stuffed with a 1mx1m shower cubicle, small toilet and small sink. By the time you put a bed and storage in the bedroom there was no room to swing a cat.
We chose to buy an older build with family bathroom but with plenty of space to extend.
When we did extend we built a huge en suite (actually bigger than a normal family bathroom) with window and door and accessed through a dressing room also with window and door.
Our old bedroom was directly next to the family bathroom, this en suite is further away and I don't hear flushing, DH and DCs are very well trained to flush with lid down and spray if there's any smells.
The en suite is my 'bathroom'. Only DH and I use it. It's bliss. It wouldn't be bliss if it was that tiny cupboard with plumbing in.
Oh and just as a thought. Building regs say 1 bathroom for up to 3 bedrooms, if you add another you've got to add another bathroom. So all these new 4-5 bed homes have to have a min of 2 bath/1 loo but builders like to squeeze them into the same footprint as the smaller houses.

Oh and biggest bonus is DC (11) has to clean his own bathroom.

supersonicginandtonic · 30/01/2021 10:36

At 31 weeks pregnant I would love a loo at the side of my bed right now 😂

bemusedmoose · 30/01/2021 11:07

I don't even like en suites - i dont want to hear or smell someone else's business while I'm in bed nor do I want to be the one doing my business while someone is in bed. I'd only use it if I was the only one using the bedroom. Even then - i'd rather a bigger room with no en suite. I mean how tricky is it to get to the family bathroom!? Not like we have castles to navigate for a night time wee!

Personally I wouldnt like it unless I lived on my own. I like the privacy of the bathroom and the option to leave the door open if you are less private. That way I can sneak off and relax in the tub while my kids are busy without them just coming and playing in the room! 😂

I can also see from a couples point of view that if you are open and share everything then it's fine - loads of couples will go to the loo in front of each other without a second thought, but it's just not for me.

FlyingByTheSeatof · 30/01/2021 11:12

Maybe it was already there when they moved in for someone with health issues.

We had this when we moved into our current house and just put up plasterboard and turned it into a bathroom instead.

FlyingByTheSeatof · 30/01/2021 11:15

Forgot to add that the elderly couple we bought it from had health issues.

I once viewed a house with a toilet right in the middle of the living room with plasterboard around it to make it private into it's own little room. Now that was weird.

smilingontheinside · 30/01/2021 12:49

Late to this thread but so glad to read that I'm not the only one that has "toilet nightmares"! I'm often desperate find a toilet then realise it has no door, no flush, or is disgustingly dirty and I can't use it 🤢. I usually wake up and have to dash to the bathroom (no ensuite here). I fo wonder though that if I found a suitable toilet in my dreams would I use it and possibly then wet the bed 🤔

IvyWoodcock · 30/01/2021 13:50

These en-suite haters.
Do you poo every time you visit the loo? Confused

Exhausteddog · 30/01/2021 13:57

I don’t want to see partner brush teeth let alone having a poo or wee

Confused teeth brushing is surely not comparable to going to the loo?
Are they permitted to eat in the same house room?

IvyWoodcock · 30/01/2021 13:58

@Exhausteddog

I don’t want to see partner brush teeth let alone having a poo or wee

Confused teeth brushing is surely not comparable to going to the loo?
Are they permitted to eat in the same house room?

Madness.

We have twin sinks Grin

IvyWoodcock · 30/01/2021 13:59

He has seen me give birth

Miljea · 30/01/2021 14:09

A boyfriend I had in 1979, in Bavaria, had a bath in the kitchen...Grin with a curtain around it!

His family had an apartment in a big old building; there was a WC room with probably 12 individual cubicles and each flat had its own WC with a door lock. So you'd've had to have walked out of your flat, down a flight of stairs then along a corridor to get to the WC; but the bath was conveniently in the kitchen....

Exhausteddog · 30/01/2021 14:38

@Miljea
🤣🤣

I think a lot of MN would really like it if their (DHs) toilet was outside their house, or flat!

PeggyHill · 31/01/2021 00:29

I don’t want to see partner brush teeth let alone having a poo or wee

Why? What does your partner do when they brush their teeth?!

Susan1961 · 31/01/2021 09:41

It takes a lot to gross me out, but.....Confused

LizzyA123 · 31/01/2021 10:56

It’s not a new thing, When I left home many years ago, I lived in a ground floor rented flat that had a pink bath in the bedroom, no screen, no extractor fan and at the furthest point from the window. My Dad came and put a big shower curtain on a rail up for me. There was a wash basin too which was fine. The loo was in a different room off the entrance porch thankfully. I would only have a quick shallow bath as the steam travelled round the whole room. I had to leave the windows wide open and put the heating on to dry things out every time.

My MIL had a floor to ceiling shower cubicle installed in her bedroom when she had cancer as there wasn’t room in her tiny bathroom and she struggled to use the bath. It made her life much easier.

IDKNABYBIF22 · 31/01/2021 12:27

There's a saying about ensuites...
"ensuites are the death of romance".

I stayed in a apartment with five friends for a city weekend once; one of the bedrooms had a toilet in it. No wall to divide it from the rest if the room, and no sink, just the loo. So weird!

TillyTopper · 31/01/2021 12:31

Personally I'd find that weird and unless it could be successfully turned into an en suite no way would I buy. We do have an en suite though and I love that! Sometimes I see things in other people's homes and I'm really surprised! SIL I'm looking at your with a large fridge in the middle of the kitchen, especially when she says "Don't touch the back it get's hot!" and I'm thinking "How do you get by this every day, just for a glass of water let alone cook dinner?"

woodhill · 31/01/2021 13:25

@smilingontheinside

Late to this thread but so glad to read that I'm not the only one that has "toilet nightmares"! I'm often desperate find a toilet then realise it has no door, no flush, or is disgustingly dirty and I can't use it 🤢. I usually wake up and have to dash to the bathroom (no ensuite here). I fo wonder though that if I found a suitable toilet in my dreams would I use it and possibly then wet the bed 🤔
Yes I have that dream as well
CharlotteRose90 · 31/01/2021 18:08

@helpIhateclothesshopping

I don't know, it's a bit weird if you are young. Did they buy it not too long ago from an older person/ couple? The only reason for a younger person might be that it would be useful if they had a bowel issue such as Crohn's or were binge drinking. Still wouldn't want it myself though.
I’m 30 with colitis and wouldn’t use this unless I lived on my own haha. It’s just plain wrong
dementor72 · 05/02/2021 23:49

Well the house is very near Ring’s End 🤣🤣

user1471538283 · 06/02/2021 09:09

I'm having an en suite when we next move. After a lifetime of sharing with men I'm having a girls bathroom!

I rarely even now have a wee in peace. If the toilet was just there in my bedroom it would never happen.

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