AIBU to think it's weird to have a toilet in your bedroom?

[FreyaFromTheFens]

My neighbours have put their house on the market recently so I had a nosey online and saw that they have a toilet in the bedroom . A bath, sink and loo but no screening or bifold doors for privacy.
Even if there wasn't anyone in the room while you used it it's bloody odd isn't it?
I don't get it. Have seen it quite often on escape to the country/grand designs etc...
If you have one why?

“Straining faces” -eeeeuuuuurrrggghh!!

I was watching a thing the other evening about crossing the USA by Amtrak. Ah, lovely, I think, to see the country out of the window. Then they showed the cabin: two beds with a toilet in between!! I can’t imagine gazing out of the window at rolling plains of wheat.... and dh perched two inches away having a morning session

My friend did this, but added a urinal as well as a loo. Large bedroom, but still it made me queasy.
I understand a bath if you have a large room with a good view, (wouldn't want one personally), but a urinal

I have a search alert on Right Move for an area DH and I are thinking of retiring too. The listing isn’t there any more, but a chalet bungalow I saw had two “bathrooms” like this. One of the toilets had a half height wicker screen round it and was almost touching the end of the bed. That bedroom also had a massive chandelier and a full size mirrored fireplace with a gas fire 😧

@MasterBeth

I have an en suite. I don’t shit in it when my other half is in bed or about to be. It’s very handy for a wee in the middle of the night, and for showers and teeth brushing, though.

Other toilets are available.

I agree. I don't understand the mumsnet angst about en suite bathrooms. do all the en suite haters never stay in hotels, or do they prefer old fashioned boarding houses where you have to walk along the corridor to the bathroom?

I imagine the house will be difficult to sell. I wonder what the estate agent thought.

@DarcyJack

For the ensuite haters- where do you think the toilet is in regard to the bed? Our ensuite is farther away from the bed than the family toilet and measured as the crow flies the downstairs loo is the closest to the bed! Ensuite all securely partitioned with a proper wall and closing door. Like the vast majority of them I would guess. Nothing to fear here. Unless you are one of those weirdos who won't do a poo if your husband is in the house.

So what’s the point of an en-suite if there are two toilets in your house that are nearer?

like a prison cell

maybe they've both done time and they miss the camaraderie of hearing your cell mate take a shit in the middle of the night?

@FamilyOfAliens

I think it’s weird to have a toilet in the bedroom even if it’s in its own enclosure. The idea of someone going to the toilet so close to where you sleep - yuk.

But I know en suites are considered the height of sophistication on here

No en-suites in this house and thank Christ for it. I can't stand the bloody things.

One bathroom (or as they are referred to on here "family bathroom") is more than enough to put up with.

I worked in a house years ago that had a huge master bedroom and a bath one end and sinks

Then a wall/door and toilet and shower

@Dahlietta

I can’t really get excited about en suites one way or the other, but people are aware that you don’t actually have to shit in them at all if you don’t want to, right? As for your neighbours? Perverts.

Agreed, you don’t have to shit in your en-suite toilet. We have an en-suite bathroom but only use it for wees in the night. Neither DH nor I wake in the night for a poo (unless we have a stomach problem in which case we would use the main bathroom).

However I agree OP that the set up you describe is very weird!

What I would really like is an outside loo - a privy. Indoors ones as well, of course, but I would like to banish some members of the household with their favourite publication to somewhere more open to the elements...

I don’t hate en-suites. I can see the value of having one in a spare room if you have lots of guests staying, but giving up space in your bedroom for one when there is already a bathroom you could use seems just seems odd to me.

I've seen this before and think its bizarre and weird.
I'm fine with normal ensuite bathrooms (unlike majority of MN - do they never go to hotels?) But here has to be a wall or a door to separate the toilet from the bedroom.
Also with the "open plan ensuite" as well as the obvious yuck factor of going to the loo in your bedroom, I'd be worried about damp from water/steam (and soaking the carpet if you had a bath or shower etc)

well this thread was a waste of time. No link

Grandparents had this in a Georgian house.. probably once the maids room.
Bog and sink in the back bedroom.
I had measles there, so was very useful to weakly crawl to loo.
Expect it has been taken out now.
There was a screen though.

I'm fine with normal ensuite bathrooms (unlike majority of MN - do they never go to hotels?) But here has to be a wall or a door to separate the toilet from the bedroom.

But in a hotel you can only have en-suite rooms so you just have to put up with it. It’s not the same thing at all as having one in your own home

Ensuits don't tend to have their own windows, and are tiny. One bathroom sized like a bedroom, with a proper window you can open. Extra toilet with a sink somewhere downstairs for when someone is having extra long bath.

@Yohoheaveho

like a prison cell

😂😂😂😂 Urgh Eating with a khazi in the room.. with no seat... Not nice. But better than slopping out as some inmates had to do.

I put up with ensuites on holiday because its better than going down a corridor with strangers and having to take a key with you but at home with no strangers and no keys I'd rather not have one.

I think a shower and a sink in a bedroom are fine. I had a sink in my room when I was a child. And there was a shower in the spare room in a corner. Not a loo, though.

I understand when space is at a premium, but when you have the choice, I can't get the point of a loo in your bathroom, unless it's for the guest room.

So in the bedroom? nope.

My grandmother had a toilet and sink installed in her dining room (also converted to her bedroom) a couple of years before she went into residential care. Enabled her to keep some independence for a bit longer and stay in the small terraced house she loved and had lived in for 60 years.

Outside of mobility issues like that I can’t personally see the appeal.

I’d love a bath in my bedroom!!! Will get one someday!! It’s a no to the toilet though

I don't have a problem with en-suites as long as they have doors and an extraction system and an opening window. I think toilets, baths and showers in the bedroom or an ensuite without a door are just wrong. Not only will smells permeate the room, you will be in view of other room occupants but the steam and damp from running a hot bath/shower will surely make the bedroom damp.
When looking at overseas holidays at the end of 2019 for 2020 (what a waste of time that was!) there seemed to be a fashion in modern hotels to have ensuites without doors between bathroom and bedroom. As the proposed holiday was a 'girls' trip rather than with partners we had to rule out quite a lot of hotels.

I agree. I don't understand the mumsnet angst about en suite bathrooms. do all the en suite haters never stay in hotels, or do they prefer old fashioned boarding houses where you have to walk along the corridor to the bathroom?

I've never understood this either. My inlaws dont have an ensuite but their toilet is just as close to their bedroom as ours in our ensuite is to ours and theirs has a mirror directly in front of it which is very disconcerting!