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AIBU to think it's weird to have a toilet in your bedroom?

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FreyaFromTheFens · 28/01/2021 16:16

My neighbours have put their house on the market recently so I had a nosey online and saw that they have a toilet in the bedroom Grin. A bath, sink and loo but no screening or bifold doors for privacy.
Even if there wasn't anyone in the room while you used it it's bloody odd isn't it?
I don't get it. Have seen it quite often on escape to the country/grand designs etc...
If you have one why? Confused

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Barney60 · 29/01/2021 19:20

im also anti en suite, esp those in new properties with no window just a pull chord which is supposed to suck out steam. I had one here and ripped it out, so glad, the mould behind the tiles was rank.
Friend had a roll top bath at the bottom of her bed, she thought it was amazing, never got it, surely it makes bedding damp.

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 29/01/2021 19:22

@winniestone37

Crying and the scathing judgements on people who have en-suites 😂 It feels a bit like the lady doth protest too much- so bitter that they don’t have an extra porcelain throne they bitch about and put down anyone who does.
I love MN when someone takes comments personally Grin
woodhill · 29/01/2021 19:35

I would love an ensuite but we have a bathroom to ourselves anyway.

However I would ideally want a window and a door and not within the bedroom

Iwanttobeagranny · 29/01/2021 19:39

I hate sharing a bathroom and love my en-suite, I've never lived in a house as an adult without one.
I've always had full doors on them (with locks) because anything else is just weird.
My son lives in a house that is listed and it has 2 en-suites that are just behind a half wall in the bedrooms because of planning regs...bloody awful 😂

Maryann1975 · 29/01/2021 19:42

We viewed a house that had a toilet and shower in the main bedroom. It was a bit weird, they were through an archway, but from where the bed had to go, you could see the toilet. Despite the owners really bugging up that their house had an ensuite, we didn’t buy the house, preferring one that only had a family bathroom upstairs.

We did buy a house that had opaque (patterned) glass in the bathroom door. It was really weird and one of the first things we changed.

DENGREEN · 29/01/2021 19:42

YANBU! 🤮

IEat · 29/01/2021 19:58

I don’t want to see partner brush teeth let alone having a poo or wee

CathyorClaire · 29/01/2021 20:13

En suite fan here but it's pretty much mine alone and I shit rose petals natch so fumes not a problem.

Dh uses (by choice) the tradesman's toilet downstairs...

StoneofDestiny · 29/01/2021 20:32

Before this thread I'd never heard of having a toilet actually in a bedroom. Can't imagine buying a house like that.

Also I'd never heard of people having an issue with en suites - I do wonder what 'bad' en suites are out there. Ours are separate rooms - with windows and doors, just happen not to be off the landing, and not for everybody else's use. Nowhere near the bed.

nannykatherine · 29/01/2021 20:42

I knew a family once who had a bathroom with bath in the toddlers bedroom 🤷🏽‍♂️😫😱

Cocogreen · 29/01/2021 20:43

I’ve stayed in a hotel where the bathroom was behind a curtain and didn’t like it. Smells, noises, damp towels etc.
Our house is our third since getting married and the first with an ensuite. I was never a fan before now but it’s sensible in this layout because it’s a separate room next to our room and they’re the only two rooms upstairs. Am in my 50s so always need the loo in the night - glad I don’t have to go downstairs. There wasn’t a window, only a fan, so we put one in a couple of years ago and I leave it open most of the year.

Oscarsdaddy · 29/01/2021 21:00

In olden times it was quite swish to have a sink in the bedroom, many old houses still do and there’s nothing wrong with that

Having anything more than a sink is odd. An en suite is always good, especially if you’ve got kids that may use the main bathroom, it gives Mum and Dad a bit of privacy and their own bathroom

IvyWoodcock · 29/01/2021 21:12

I love my en-suite!

You don’t need to shit in it whilst anyone else is around, there are other facilities available.
It’s lovely to stumble in there for a wee on the night and I sometimes lock my bedroom door and have a lovely area all to myself.

IvyWoodcock · 29/01/2021 21:14

I don’t understand the hatred, what’s not to like!?

helpIhateclothesshopping · 29/01/2021 21:24

I don't know, it's a bit weird if you are young. Did they buy it not too long ago from an older person/ couple? The only reason for a younger person might be that it would be useful if they had a bowel issue such as Crohn's or were binge drinking. Still wouldn't want it myself though.

IvyWoodcock · 29/01/2021 21:32

Loo actually in the bedroom is a bit weird though

AugmentedToast · 29/01/2021 22:15

We have an en-suite in our master bedroom with a non-frosted glass door ... we bought the house like that, is a bit weird but I only use it if DH sleeps in the other room.

We’ve often asked ourselves what the guy (or gal) was thinking who installed that glass door. We just couldn’t be bothered to change it yet.

En-suites are great if you are on your own. For a couple ... nah. Coz ... noise pollution 😂

Ginfordinner · 29/01/2021 22:21

I'm still struggling to understand why people don't use the other loos in the house if someone is in bed. On the very rare occasion I need a midnight wee I use the house bathroom.

xHeartinacagex · 29/01/2021 22:28

I had never heard of this, what a horrible idea! Surely everything would get damp? And I would never be able to use it if my partner was in the room.

I would love to have a proper en-suite with a bath in it though....

Mamanyt · 30/01/2021 00:08

I know that in years gone by, a sink in bedrooms was considered the norm, although most of them have long-since been removed. It allowed the sleeper to wash their face and brush their teeth before appearing in "public," as it were. I can almost see that. But a toilet sitting in the open in a bedroom seems...bizarre. I wonder if there is some secret fetish going on here??? Grin Wink

Turnedouttoes · 30/01/2021 00:34

@Mamanyt

I know that in years gone by, a sink in bedrooms was considered the norm, although most of them have long-since been removed. It allowed the sleeper to wash their face and brush their teeth before appearing in "public," as it were. I can almost see that. But a toilet sitting in the open in a bedroom seems...bizarre. I wonder if there is some secret fetish going on here??? Grin Wink
Yes! When I first moved to London and lived in a shared house my bedroom had a sink. It was invaluable for teeth brushing in the mornings when sharing a bathroom with two other adults getting ready for work. I may also have been sick in it several times after nights out Blush
Usernamerequired · 30/01/2021 00:47

@Ginfordinner we have an ensuite with a shower and extractor fan. All ok there but i mean no way to having an open plan bathroom in the bedroom. It would have to be for emergency wees only lol

SnuggyBuggy · 30/01/2021 02:50

Just because I don't like something doesn't mean that I can't cope

Lennie16 · 30/01/2021 06:59

It’s just not right- who would think this was a good idea, who would ever use it !

Ddot · 30/01/2021 07:08

Wee only (surely )
You could put one of those screens up, you know like on western movies.