AIBU to think it's weird to have a toilet in your bedroom?

[FreyaFromTheFens]

My neighbours have put their house on the market recently so I had a nosey online and saw that they have a toilet in the bedroom . A bath, sink and loo but no screening or bifold doors for privacy.
Even if there wasn't anyone in the room while you used it it's bloody odd isn't it?
I don't get it. Have seen it quite often on escape to the country/grand designs etc...
If you have one why?

I had a sink in my bedroom. Was nice

No bath or toilet though

If you don’t have ensuites are you a very small family or do you all fight over the bathroom in the morning?

Bathrooms don't need to be "ensuite" at all. You can have as many bathrooms as you want, just no need to attach them to a bedroom if you don't want to.

I LOVE my en suite. I'm old and grew up with outdoor toilets and a bowl under the bed. Our outdoor toilet was always grim and spider infested no matter how often Mum cleaned it.

Proper Romany travellers won’t use the toilet in their vargoes.
Think it’s really unhygienic

I have done much googling and still can’t find out why older toilets had no basin in there. Surely germ theory was advanced enough to realise that touching the door handle/lock afterwards wasn’t ideal? Houses in the 70s were still being built like this; I know this is when there was no downstairs loo as well, it surely they could have squeezed in an extra basin in the upstairs loo as well as in the bathroom?

Houses in the70swere still being built like this; I know this is when there was no downstairs loo as well, it surely they could have squeezed in an extra basin in the upstairs loo as well as in the bathroom?
....but why do you need a basin next to the bath in this kind of set up? Its annoyed me for decades!! Just put the partition in a different place so the bath is the isolated bit (with obviously enough room to get in) and the basin is rightfully next to the toilet.
Our house is 1960s built and when we moved in it had a separate toilet, next to the main (but very small) bathroom, which also contained a toilet. But it wasnt the traditional next to each other set up, the 2 rooms are at right angles to each other. We found a very tiny basin to go in the separate toilet and changed the door to accommodate it.

Have been on too many holidays with mates where the bathroom situation is less than private. Spanish five star hotel, had free standing bath in the middle of bedroom. One in germany had sliding door which either covered the loo or the shower but not both at the same time. Another five star in Germany had glass sliding door to the bathroom which didn't lock and would slide across. The Europeans aren't as shy it would seem. Wouldn't even want that level of openness with my husband

When I bought my house, the loft conversion had a corner bath under the eaves on one side, basin on the other side of the room within the fitted wardrobes/storage and, horror of horrors, a toilet under the eaves right at the other end of the room. Not just your average toilet, a bloody saniflo! You couldn't see it from the bed, due to the position of the door into the room off the landing, but it wasn't enclosed.

Needless to say, the toilet has now gone as when those things go wrong, they really go wrong! It randomly used to pump out in the night and scare the shit out of me! There was also limited head height so I imagine men would have had to be seated at all times.

I live on my own though, so didn't have issues with people barging in while I was having a shit (not that I ever used that toilet, I just used to flush it through once a week to avoid stale smells) and I love the bath in the bedroom, as I can watch TV while having a soak. I have an extractor fan and laminate flooring plus several windows that I open once I'm out of the bath, so no damp carpets/bedding and I keep my towel downstairs in the main bathroom.

Many years ago we stayed at a stately home that was being converted into a hotel. Our room was huge , with a floor to ceiling curtain just behind the beds. On the other side were two bathrooms divided by a small tiled wall only a metre high. We could chat away as we sat on our respective toilets, bath in our own bath, and brush our teeth in our own basin. it was All done in very high end primrose fixtures and tiling

FamilyOfAliens

Bythemillpond
I also don’t get the hatred for en-suites. Mine is nowhere near my bed. I would imagine in a lot of houses you would have to walk less to get to the family bathroom than I do to my en-suite
When someone posted this exact thing upthread I asked why you need an en-suite if your actual bathroom is closer to your bedroom, but I didn’t get an answer

I wasn’t saying my family bathroom is closer but that in a lot of other houses the separate bathrooms are closer than my en-suite.
My bed is 18ft away from my en-suite. I have a very big bedroom that takes up virtually the whole of one floor of my house. The family bathroom is on a different floor.

Had to NC for this as it was my previous neighbours house but I raise you one toilet in a bedroom for several ... hopefully the new owners have made changes

www.rightmove.co.uk/house-prices/detailMatching.html?prop=42548233&sale=54058863&country=england

hadtoNCforthis1

My only thought is they rent the rooms out and the stud walls would have impinged con the room sizes.

Otherwise if this is a design feature I really want to ask them Why?

@Bythemillpond

Definitely were not renting rooms out. It was just their family home. I had to add this contribution as I always found it so bizarre

[quote hadtoNCforthis1]Had to NC for this as it was my previous neighbours house but I raise you one toilet in a bedroom for several ... hopefully the new owners have made changes

www.rightmove.co.uk/house-prices/detailMatching.html?prop=42548233&sale=54058863&country=england[/quote]

I'm not even overly keen on en-suite even though it is handy now one of the DD's has made herself at home here (thanks to lockdown) at night, no need for dressing gowns.

@nothingcomestonothing

I've been in that house I know the owner and yes it's as open as the photo looks.

En suites are a bit grim I agree. Maybe OK if you sleep alone, but the idea of the person you are sleeping with having a shit 3-4 feet away from you.

Don't get this. we don't have a en suite but the bathroom is next to the bedroom. Only difference with an en suite is that there would be a door, no real difference in distance. And somebody saying flushing would wake people up - again, our bathroom is next door to the bedroom, toilet is on the other side of the wall dividing the rooms. Not a problem.

@mootymoo do tell - why did they do it?

@MasterBeth

I have an en suite. I don’t shit in it when my other half is in bed or about to be. It’s very handy for a wee in the middle of the night, and for showers and teeth brushing, though.

Other toilets are available.

Also excellent for private pooping if there's company at least 2 doors and 1 lock between you and them!

I'm becoming unhealthily curious about the sex lives of those who can't live with an ensuit and the toilet being so close to the bed.

If I lived alone I’d use it haha but if not no chance. Imagine waking up at 2am to your other half crapping on the toilet. Would give me nightmares 🤣🤣

@FamilyOfAliens

I think it’s weird to have a toilet in the bedroom even if it’s in its own enclosure. The idea of someone going to the toilet so close to where you sleep - yuk.

But I know en suites are considered the height of sophistication on here

Sophistication? Yes in the 50s maybe. I think it’s a standard now in houses that have the space.

This thread would explain what large % of MN need to launder their sheets every hour day because their DH is "shitting next to them as they sleep"

@CharlotteRose90

If I lived alone I’d use it haha but if not no chance. Imagine waking up at 2am to your other half crapping on the toilet. Would give me nightmares 🤣🤣

@ CharlotteRose90 THIS is exactly what I said on the thread I was annihilated on a couple of years ago! I was roundly told that people do NOT shit at 2am and that if he did, there was something wrong with my DH. I tried to explain that he's a shift worker and as such his body clock is different to those who don't work shifts.

But no, my DH was portrayed as a weird middle of the night shitting twat and I was advised to make him sleep elsewhere. I was almost in pain from laughing by the time it got to the end of that thread.

@JazzyGeoff

I wouldn't be able to use it, even with no one else there. My arse would get stage fright! My worst nightmares usually involve some kind of loo in full public view.

I have a recurring nightmare where I’m bursting and all the toilets I find are disgusting. I usually find one but it’s plonked in the middle of a busy area with no screening at all (school corridor, the soup isle in Asda 🤣) I always wake up before I decide whether to use it or not.

Also, firmly in the ‘I hate ensuites’ camp.

*En suites are a bit grim I agree. Maybe OK if you sleep alone, but the idea of the person you are sleeping with having a shit 3-4 feet away from you.