Reusing sons name for new baby

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My ExP is having a baby with his partner. All is well, we get along great and I am really happy for them and excited for DS that he will soon have a baby brother.

We were chatting about names this morning and he mentioned some that he is thinking of for the new baby, but he is reusing DS middle name as a middle name for the new baby. So say our son is Daniel Jack, the new baby will be called Thomas Jack (not the actual names).

AIBU to think it's slightly weird? Doesn't affect my life in any way shape or form, it's not an issue, just wondered if people agree with me or wether it's a normal thing to do.

Yes I am bored and nope I am lucky enough to not have much else to worry about right now.

Nobody really cares about middle names. Plus, to be fair, his new partner might really like the name.

My eldest daughter is Hannah L. My sister in law was pregnant at the same time as me but her baby was due three months after my Hannah was born. She had a daughter too and called her Hannah K. Now that is weird!

Sarahrellyboo
Get over it

FFS. Which bit of

"AIBU to think it's slightly weird? Doesn't affect my life in any way shape or form, it's not an issue, just wondered if people agree with me or wether it's a normal thing to do."

made you think the OP needs to get over anything?

I agree and think it’s weird, but it’s a middle name so whatever.

@marmitegirl01

I think it’s quite a nice link between the brothers 🤷‍♀️

I agree.

@Sceptre86

In my immediate family none of us have middle names. My dh and bil both have their dad's first name as their middle name. Bil continued the tradition when he had a son (had his own name as the middle name) as did dh when our ds was born. I am currently pregnant and I know if we have a boy he will want to do the same again. Not exactly imaginative but not offensive in my opinion.

It wouldn't be very nice if he reused your child's first name I would be annoyed at that. Using the middle name as a first name just links them even more closely.

Why not given the baby your name as a middle name or if it’s a boy, a Male version? Or your dads name as middle name?

It's been done in my family. Family name. First name of the dad, named after a relative, DS1 and DS3 had it (half brothers) DS2 (marriage 1) added the name to his names after the dad died. The name lives on in younger members of the family too.

As a middle name, it can be unifying particularly if it's already a family name.
First name would be weird though.

@haliborange0verdose

I don't think it's much to get worked up about tbh! When researching my family history, I found that my gt grandad William Joseph, had two brothers called Edward Joseph, and Joseph! His parents obviously loved the name Joseph! In more recent times, my two cousins full / middle names are John Robert and Robert Mark! At worst it could be construed as unimaginative, but I certainly wouldn't be insulted by it. And as PPs have said, middle names are rarely used anyway.

My friend did the latter so using your example she has a John Robert and then a Robert Mark. I think it’s a bit unimaginative but apparently ‘Robert’ was always their 2nd favourite Name and still was when baby2 came along.

When I had my 2nd baby she genuinely thought I’d use my 1st borns middle name as baby2s name because it was linked to the public holiday they were born on.

I definitely didn’t do that

My DH and his brothers all have the same middle name. I don't get what your issue is

Two of MiL’s grandchildren have the same first name (different surnames). It really doesn’t matter.

I know siblings that all have the same name.

Unless it's her dad or grandads' name, it's weird.

If it's a family name on his side, he's already passed it on through your son.

My dad, grandad, uncle, cousins & brothers all have the same middle name. It is a family name and traditions throughout the different generations. I think it is a really nice link between the branches of the family.

Normally I would be with you OP I can’t stand people reusing family names (when both family members are alive at the same time) I know a family of 4 generations (grandfather, father, son, sons DS) all with the same whole full name (honestly couldn’t be done with the confusion more than anything else) but I think it will be a lovely link between them 😊

My ex has done exactly that with his now ex and their son, his newest daughter with his current gf has my middle name as her middle name! 🤨

I don't see any problem. I knew twins who had the same middle name (their DM's name from memory).

I would tell him it shows a distinct lack or imagination and leave it at that.

It does though! I'm surprised his partner went for it too. It is weird.

Saying that though, Prince George's middle name is Louis and then along cane Prince Louis. Take from that what you will.

I think carrying names from one family to the next is a bit disrespectful and distasteful though, particularly as regard the new partner.

My Ex-H gave his baby daughter my middle name as her middle name. I think that’s quite weird

Snap @unicorncow !

If I had more girls they would all have the same middle name, every girl through the maternal side has one of two. I won’t use the other.

My Ex-H gave his baby daughter my middle name as her middle name. I think that’s quite weird

A friend of mine gave her son the name of her first love, years later. It is a very distinctive name, so, yes. Caused a few raised eyebrows from those that knew.

My brother did a weird name thing called his daughter the same name
just one letter different S replacing an F , he blamed his girlfriend we begged him not to do it .
both daughters live in the same area ,same unusual surname to make matters worse he kept saying our daughters rather than his , as he has a lisp!
also my dear old Dad had memory probs .long and short Dad died weirdly
the will was changed ,and my daughter was no longer in the will !!!
Beware ..... our friends think we where had ?

I'm Jewish and in my culture you can't use the name of a relative who is still alive. So babies often get named after a relative who died quite recently.

We do often use the same initials though, so there will be families with lots of siblings or cousins who all have the same initials.

I dont find it weird, all the men on my DF side and my DBs all have the same middle name going right back to our great great great grandfather. I think it'll be a nice link for them.